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I agree.
I don't see the point using your profile or adds to rant, as it is more likely to put nice people off.
Just make sure you have the right tick boxes and info.
Whatever text you have, you'll always have to deal with unwanted attention, so rather present your message in a positive manner.
Quote by Nimfie_Pieman
I agree.
I don't see the point using your profile or adds to rant, as it is more likely to put nice people off.
Just make sure you have the right tick boxes and info.
Whatever text you have, you'll always have to deal with unwanted attention, so rather present your message in a positive manner.
Definitely. I view a profile that seems interesting and then the text starts. Rules, expectations, wants, don't wants, no this, no that... Basically letting everyone know how it is all for yourself and the prospecting playmate has no say. Profiles like that immediately come across as "unfriendly" and stuck up. I pass them by without a second glance. You previous bad experiences are no concern of possible new playmates. Your profile should be inviting, not scary!
I find that if a person/couple took the time to write a written profile,and they tell you what they like or dislike, what they are prepared to do or not do, Really straight forward.I do not think such a profile is ranting or being uppity.
I believe that a written profile should portray who and what you are.
It gives the reader an idea if they will maybe get along with you or not. If their `s are nearly the same as your own, then already some slight bridge is overcome.
I myself do not think my own profile.... that is full of WHAT I WANT... is unfriendly or scary.
Most people start out with a basic profile, but soon a written profile evolves into something more as you,the writer of your own profile, gets lot of Negative experiences then you feels you need to say what you like or dislike,to prevent people WASTING their and your own time
SO yes ,you NEED to say what you are prepared to do or not prepared to do.
Most people as we all already know DO NOT READ. They look at a photo and decide *wow that is someone I would like to shag*and they send a one-liner mail telling you so in no uncertain terms.
Even if you state very clearly you are not meeting right now...they DEMAND meets or else you are a fake,time waster,cock-tease,a male posing as female,I can go on and on....but in the long run it only shows them up as the people who is really NOT worth my time and energy.
As a personal profile goes I think that it THERE FOR personal reasons and if you come over as narcissistic, well so be it.
I am not changing mine for all the money in the world even if there is rules from the first letter I have written.
When you actually meet people and you meet them with the intention of a possible playmate,THEN is the time to be friendly and OPEN and confirm what you have written in your profile it should NOT then come as a shock that you have can be a WASTE of time and money and energy when you walk in with expectations and it deflates when you see your potential friend/couple.
I went to read yours Lee, and yours is one of the More positive and straight forward profiles.....ermmm I also perved your pics!!! Mat looks like a very sexy man!!!! You ..well you know, I think you are a sexy lady.
PIB
Anything you write is always a treat. Your profile is no exception.
A persons profile can show their likes and dislike without being aggressive.
E.g. : Sorry no single guys
as oppose to
NO SINGLE GUYS!!! (As if that will stop the bad ones)
Our profile is also unusual but hopefully does not bite and is hopefully clear.
Sex God
Quote by Nimfie_Pieman
PIB
Anything you write is always a treat. Your profile is no exception.
A persons profile can show their likes and dislike without being aggressive.
E.g. : Sorry no single guys
as oppose to
NO SINGLE GUYS!!! (As if that will stop the bad ones)
Our profile is also unusual but hopefully does not bite and is hopefully clear.
While slightly off topic here (I said slightly) I thought I would just say what has been said countless times before: Most profiles that have "No Singles Guys" on their write up, also have the "Straight Male" box ticked . . . . . .
Quote by LeeEC
So Stamina go see ours and tell me if it's scary ;)
Ok, profile assessment time...he he he.
In all honesty (and in my personal opinion), your profile is straight forward and to the point. It does lean slightly to the "my way or the highway" conclusion - slightly. If I did not know you and just joined, saw your profile - I would be a little intimidated, I would not feel "invited" but more "required". Not scary at all though because you do throw the occasional "nice text" in between the rules, which says "hey, I have my standards and expectations but I am still a nice girl". In conclusion: Your profile is a very good one and you bring across clearly. You do not demand anything. You do not seem totally closed on flexibility. It lays down the rules but also makes me believe that if the moment or situation allows, you may bend those rules...
I looked at your pics. OMG Lee!!! You are a HOTTIE!!! I have seen the pic of your torso in a corset but not those last two pics. I know I promised I would not cheat on my girl but with you, screw the guilt!!!
Seriously though - You are a sexy woman and the confidence in your profile text is warranted. (please excuse my yapping but I adore attractive ladies, beauty has never been ugly)... Quote by SDMR
PIB
Anything you write is always a treat. Your profile is no exception.
A persons profile can show their likes and dislike without being aggressive.
E.g. : Sorry no single guys
as oppose to
NO SINGLE GUYS!!! (As if that will stop the bad ones)
Our profile is also unusual but hopefully does not bite and is hopefully clear.
While slightly off topic here (I said slightly) I thought I would just say what has been said countless times before: Most profiles that have "No Singles Guys" on their write up, also have the "Straight Male" box ticked . . . . . .
That is a common problem - contradictions. Just got a message back from a girl : " Sorry, I don't play with girls". Yet her profile has "straight male", "straight female", "bi female", and "couple with bi female" checked. Ad just says "fun, fun and more fun". Her text says "looking to explore my sexuality"... Many more like that on here. We are ice skating up hill people! He he he...
Quote by playcouple
If I may add:
I thought I was just a little "dof"
What is a straight single male gonna do with a gay female/couple?????
Just wondering. ....
hmmm or maybe he thinks he will 'turn' them ???????????????????????????[/
I can't tell you what a straight male will do with a lesbian couple but I can think of a few things I would like to do with a lesbian couple.. He he he!! A man can dream
Orgasminator
Quote by playcouple
If I may add:
I thought I was just a little "dof"
What is a straight single male gonna do with a gay female/couple?????
Just wondering. ....
hmmm or maybe he thinks he will 'turn' them ???????????????????????????
Nothing wrong with trying, at worst you have a fun night with lots of sex trying to swing them
Quote by Stamina
So Stamina go see ours and tell me if it's scary ;)
I looked at your pics. OMG Lee!!! You are a HOTTIE!!! I have seen the pic of your torso in a corset but not those last two pics. I know I promised I would not cheat on my girl but with you, screw the guilt!!!
Seriously though - You are a sexy woman and the confidence in your profile text is warranted. (please excuse my yapping but I adore attractive ladies, beauty has never been ugly)...Aw guys you made me blush.... I don't blush easy!
Thanks for the compliments & to PIB too...
Orgasminator
I will agree with the room, Lee certainly is one tasty looking dish. Great pics, the swingers in EC are certainly lucky to have you there.
Sexlightened
Stamina, I can definitely see the humour an irony in your post :lol: :lol:
And after reading your post, am wondering if it was/is worth writing any kind of profile with preferences etc as it seems as though (in our experience) the majority do not either, bother to read said profile, or possibly ignore what they've read and send mails anyway! When we answer stating "we do not think we are a match", we often get an argumentative, aggressive type response such as: "But I am extremely mature and why would I not be a match???!!!" Author of the example reply : a 19 year old Indian boy - our profile says we prefer same race (we are Caucasian) and our age preference is 30 to 55 years old.
Anybody like to hazard a wild guess as to why he wouldn't be a match??
:lol: :lol: And after reading your post, am wondering if it was/is worth writing any kind of profile with preferences etc as it seems as though (in our experience) the majority do not either, bother to read said profile, or possibly ignore what they've read and send mails anyway! When we answer stating "we do not think we are a match", we often get an argumentative, aggressive type response such as: "But I am extremely mature and why would I not be a match???!!!" Author of the example reply : a 19 year old Indian boy - our profile says we prefer same race (we are Caucasian) and our age preference is 30 to 55 years old.
Anybody like to hazard a wild guess as to why he wouldn't be a match??
Sex God
Quote by Stamina
PIB
Anything you write is always a treat. Your profile is no exception.
A persons profile can show their likes and dislike without being aggressive.
E.g. : Sorry no single guys
as oppose to
NO SINGLE GUYS!!! (As if that will stop the bad ones)
Our profile is also unusual but hopefully does not bite and is hopefully clear.
While slightly off topic here (I said slightly) I thought I would just say what has been said countless times before: Most profiles that have "No Singles Guys" on their write up, also have the "Straight Male" box ticked . . . . . .
That is a common problem - contradictions. Just got a message back from a girl : " Sorry, I don't play with girls". Yet her profile has "straight male", "straight female", "bi female", and "couple with bi female" checked. Ad just says "fun, fun and more fun". Her text says "looking to explore my sexuality"... Many more like that on here. We are ice skating up hill people! He he he...
Ok, so I am not really sure how to break this to you, but here goes anyway . . . .
She called you a GIRL, and all you are ranting about is the fact that her profile has x y z listed ? ? ? ? seriously ????
Ok, so I am going to lie here and laugh for the next ten minutes . . ..
