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What is the best way to introduce swining into my relationship?
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Quote by darkjedeyw
What is the best way to introduce swining into my relationship?
Having read your previous post I would not suggest it at all for the time being. Swinging wont fix a relationship that needs a bit (or a lot) of fixing, it's more likely to build the coffin, hammer in all the nails, cremate it and scatter the ashes stretching somewhere near Ursa Minor to Uranus............
A saying we have for new couples is if you have cracks in your relationship, most often than not swinging will turn those cracks in donga's. Swinging is not the answer to fixing a marriage that has problems, it will most probably damage it more.
We had problems in our relationship many many years ago, without going into to much detail here, we sorted our problems out and then we started to look at alternative methods to spice up our sex life. 16 years later, still in the lifestyle, we are as happy as the day we met and love every moment of the lifestyle.
It took two things, though for us to get here:
Firstly, we had to sort out our own issues.
Secondly, my wife has always been very openminded, so very much into the idea of the lifestyle. If your wife is not openminded or open to the idea of fooling around a bit, you are most probably going to cause more harm. And if she is open to the idea, make it all about her without her thinking you just want to get her involved to have carte blanche to play yourself.
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Quote by gumboots
A saying we have for new couples is if you have cracks in your relationship, most often than not swinging will turn those cracks in donga's. Swinging is not the answer to fixing a marriage that has problems, it will most probably damage it more.
We had problems in our relationship many many years ago, without going into to much detail here, we sorted our problems out and then we started to look at alternative methods to spice up our sex life. 16 years later, still in the lifestyle, we are as happy as the day we met and love every moment of the lifestyle.
It took two things, though for us to get here:
Firstly, we had to sort out our own issues.
Secondly, my wife has always been very openminded, so very much into the idea of the lifestyle. If your wife is not openminded or open to the idea of fooling around a bit, you are most probably going to cause more harm. And if she is open to the idea, make it all about her without her thinking you just want to get her involved to have carte blanche to play yourself.
Thanks for the advice.... only asked as I was thinking of approaching the subject with her when things get better... so I suppose the question should be, what is the best way to approach the subject to ones partner to see if there is an interest.
Quote by darkjedeyw
A saying we have for new couples is if you have cracks in your relationship, most often than not swinging will turn those cracks in donga's. Swinging is not the answer to fixing a marriage that has problems, it will most probably damage it more.
We had problems in our relationship many many years ago, without going into to much detail here, we sorted our problems out and then we started to look at alternative methods to spice up our sex life. 16 years later, still in the lifestyle, we are as happy as the day we met and love every moment of the lifestyle.
It took two things, though for us to get here:
Firstly, we had to sort out our own issues.
Secondly, my wife has always been very openminded, so very much into the idea of the lifestyle. If your wife is not openminded or open to the idea of fooling around a bit, you are most probably going to cause more harm. And if she is open to the idea, make it all about her without her thinking you just want to get her involved to have carte blanche to play yourself.
Thanks for the advice.... only asked as I was thinking of approaching the subject with her when things get better... so I suppose the question should be, what is the best way to approach the subject to ones partner to see if there is an interest.
One must keep in mind EVERYBODY has fantasies, We where told when a newbie ,,the best way to enjoy "The lifestyle" is to make friends and carry out your fantasies in a trusted, secure environment..
Have you even mentioned it to your partner,That you are interested in this lifestyle.
Have you showed your partner the site.
Have you ever ,,,,when making love to her pretended there was somebody watching you guys and seen her reaction..
Just some ideas to start with
