This has been discussed, but in a different form. Generalization exists because there are so many people on the planet. I will list many examples of generalization and reveal the flaws of an adopted modern day attitude.
Insurance:
You pay a higher premium on your car because you are under 25. Your next door neighbor pays half of what you pay because he is 42. You are a higher risk because in "general", you have less driving experience. But who bothered to verify this? Maybe your neighbor with same car only drives it once a week for a few km's. Maybe you have had a drivers licence for a shorter period but have driven every day to a work destination far from your house. So he may have only driven 50 000km's in his life and you may have driven 150 000km's... But generalization dictates that he is the lower risk. The situation was not considered in it's own merit.
Bank Loan:
You apply for a personal loan, and so does you uncle Bob. You have a young credit history with very little debt on your name. Uncle Bob has mountains of debt and all installments are up to date. He gets the loan with a very low interest rate. You are declined because you are a higher risk or you are approved but at a higher interest rate. Who says uncle Bob does not hit bankruptcy the following month. Generalization dictates that the older credit profile will be the better payer.
Job Interview:
You have years of experience in the field you are applying for but no papers to back up what you say you can do. The next candidate walks in with hos diploma in hand. Guess who gets the job. You could easily have been the best asset that company ever acquired but they will never know it. Generalization dictates the one the "qualification paper" knows more than you do.
Drinking and Driving laws:
Everyone has the same limit. If you are over the limit then you are guilty. Arrested and charged. The law does not take the time to assess your alcohol tolerance. You may easily be able to drink 6 beers and still have perfect judgement, the next guy may be falling around after 2... Generalization dictates that you are intoxicated if the breathalyzer says so. Your tolerance for alcohol was not considered in its own merit.
Cheating Partners:
I do not need to explain anything here... It goes without saying. Just use what I said above and think about all the singles (cheaters) you have turned down simply because it is your "general rule of thumb". How many could have been "sex gods" or even really great people to connect with but you never took the time to consider each "application" in it's own merit.
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Generalization
Quote by playcouple
All valid, but this is for pleasure and recreation, the rest are jobs, people get paid to trawl through all that information, no one pays the people here to sit and trawl through all of it every day................
Not with money... But they will be rewarded in another way... :twisted:
Sex God
@ STAMINA . . . .
If anything, I think your blatant honesty about being not so single and looking for action deserves some or other kind of pat on the back. ie: you are not lying to potential "hook up's" . . . . . and they know up front what the situation as far as you are concerned is (a number of people do actually prefer this kind of meet)
HOWEVER, and yes, there is always a however . . . . . some of those very same people may be reading all your postings about the poor single (as in here alone) guy, and well . . . . . .
Ok, enough MooPoo from me . . . tell us more about this incredible knowledge of the English language you have these days, were you away at varsity studying the Language during your absence? 
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:rotflmao: Sex God
Quote by playcouple
All valid, but this is for pleasure and recreation, the rest are jobs, people get paid to trawl through all that information, no one pays the people here to sit and trawl through all of it every day................
BUT wouldn't it be a great job . . .
Quote by SDMR
@ STAMINA . . . .
If anything, I think your blatant honesty about being not so single and looking for action deserves some or other kind of pat on the back. ie: you are not lying to potential "hook up's" . . . . . and they know up front what the situation as far as you are concerned is (a number of people do actually prefer this kind of meet)
HOWEVER, and yes, there is always a however . . . . . some of those very same people may be reading all your postings about the poor single (as in here alone) guy, and well . . . . . .
Ok, enough MooPoo from me . . . tell us more about this incredible knowledge of the English language you have these days, were you away at varsity studying the Language during your absence?
I downloaded a brilliant grammar checker for my Windows Phone... Bought a Thesaurus too.. He he he.. 
Orgasminator
Seeds of doubt can be a horrible thing.
Imagine playing with someone cheating on their partner, you realise just how easy it is to deceive ones partner based on your experience in the field. Now that see the excuses he/she used and you wonder if you can apply them to your marriage, you see a common piece and get doubt about the trust in your own relationship and things get uncomfortable. This is just a theoretical example of how playing with a cheater could affect your own relationship, even if the cheater is a great person (the above requires nothing from the cheater except his presence alone). In the same way the generalisation is not with the cheater himself/herself but with the person saying no to the meet, nothing wrong with being critical of yourself.
Now I'm not saying that playing cheatee to a cheater will lead to the above scenario but do you really want to plant the seed and risk it? In the same way I won't cheat on a couple with one partner being excluded from the arrangement, I don't want to be the guy that ruins a relationship just to get laid. I have sent replys to guys saying speak to him/her before you send me another message.
Quote by Mike_Pta
Now I'm saying that playing cheatee to a cheater will lead to the above scenario but do you really want to plant the seed and risk it? In the same way I won't cheat on a couple with one partner being excluded from the arrangement, I don't want to be the guy that ruins a relationship just to get laid. I have sent replys to guys saying speak to him/her before you send me another message.
I assume you mean "I'm NOT saying..." in which case I agree with you wholeheartedly. Thing is - as I've said before, I believe that cheating is like the OPPOSITE of swinging. It's not something we support or condone. So why on earth would I reward ANY cheater with this yummy set of bits? It's like silently accepting, condoning and supporting their actions by default.
Also I suspect a person's attitude about this particular subject (as is the case with EVERYTHING) is coloured by their personal experience. If you are not one who has actually been cheated on, you may not fully understand why it's SUCH a BIG issue for some of us.
And it is. HUGE.
No way I will EVER participate in or enable someone else's blatant disrespect and pointed inevitable destruction of their chosen life partner.
TO BE CLEAR: Please note the reference to the breach of a Long-Term Committed Relationship! I'm not talking about casual dating, although, in my mind, one who is inclined to 'cheat' at a 'dating level', doesn't sound like an awesome candidate for something more serious in the future.
Orgasminator
Quote by LeeEC
I assume you mean "I'm NOT saying..." in which case I agree with you wholeheartedly. Thing is - as I've said before, I believe that cheating is like the OPPOSITE of swinging. It's not something we support or condone. So why on earth would I reward ANY cheater with this yummy set of bits? It's like silently accepting, condoning and supporting their actions by default.
Also I suspect a person's attitude about this particular subject (as is the case with EVERYTHING) is coloured by their personal experience. If you are not one who has actually been cheated on, you may not fully understand why it's SUCH a BIG issue for some of us.
And it is. HUGE.
No way I will EVER participate in or enable someone else's blatant disrespect and pointed inevitable destruction of their chosen life partner.
TO BE CLEAR: Please note the reference to the breach of a Long-Term Committed Relationship! I'm not talking about casual dating, although, in my mind, one who is inclined to 'cheat' at a 'dating level', doesn't sound like an awesome candidate for something more serious in the future.
Sorry I fixed it.
Also I agree that unless you've been cheated on you won't get how much it suck, nor the combination of anger/depression/self-doubt. my ex broke up with me saying she was moving overseas and didn't want a long distance relationship, a week later some guy was posting happy one month anniversary on her facebook page. Cheating is disgusting no matter how you swing it.
Quote by Mike_Pta
I assume you mean "I'm NOT saying..." in which case I agree with you wholeheartedly. Thing is - as I've said before, I believe that cheating is like the OPPOSITE of swinging. It's not something we support or condone. So why on earth would I reward ANY cheater with this yummy set of bits? It's like silently accepting, condoning and supporting their actions by default.
Also I suspect a person's attitude about this particular subject (as is the case with EVERYTHING) is coloured by their personal experience. If you are not one who has actually been cheated on, you may not fully understand why it's SUCH a BIG issue for some of us.
And it is. HUGE.
No way I will EVER participate in or enable someone else's blatant disrespect and pointed inevitable destruction of their chosen life partner.
TO BE CLEAR: Please note the reference to the breach of a Long-Term Committed Relationship! I'm not talking about casual dating, although, in my mind, one who is inclined to 'cheat' at a 'dating level', doesn't sound like an awesome candidate for something more serious in the future.
Sorry I fixed it.
Also I agree that unless you've been cheated on you won't get how much it suck, nor the combination of anger/depression/self-doubt. my ex broke up with me saying she was moving overseas and didn't want a long distance relationship, a week later some guy was posting happy one month anniversary on her facebook page. Cheating is disgusting no matter how you swing it.
Agree with you both
