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Hello everyone.
First time posting on the forum.
I had an "incident" the other day while on cam.
Now, firstly I must say that I do not play on cam often, quite rarely in fact.
When I do, I would like it to be an enjoyable event - not only for me but also for members watching.
Now, I think you will agree with me that to show off on cam, does take an amount of courage and "balls".
Be that as it may, one member then used the opportunity to "belittle" my manhood (excuse the pun).
Now, (1) I did not state anywhere that my manhood was anywhere near large - if you were to ask me point blank - I will tell you I am actually small.
For years I had a complex about my penis size. Seriously....not cool at all, but hey.
Searched for that "miracle cure" to enlarge the manhood and finally be able to not only satisfy a woman, but also feel like a true man.
This mindset went on until I watched a French movie called "Le Libertine" - where in one seen the protagonist walks around naked and is seen by the Cardinal and says "...as God made me.." and bows.
That moment, strangely enough made me love and accept my body for what it is. => portly with a slightly less than average stalk....LOL
I further realised that to satisfy a woman, a penis is but one of the techniques a man can use. Personally, with my limited sexual experience, I have actually refrained from penile action, and have come to know that I have 10 fingers, 1 tounge, 2 hands and one massive brain. My opinion is that a woman will more readily let you fuck her brains out, after you have had some intellectual intercourse first. But that's my opinion - would luv to know what you think...
Ok, so (2) this person then made some remarks about my manhood etc., which I know should not affect me negatively, but apparently did. Otherwise, why write this rant.....
So, this brings me to the actual meat and potatoes of this post:
Do women actually prefer a man with a big/bigger penis above one with a small penis, but a more rounded sexual appetite?...and do you find that on this site, there are people who are into body shaming you?
These questions are for men, woman and couples.
I apologise for writing slightly incoherent, but these are the thoughts as they stream from me at about 00:18....so I might be forgiven LOL!
Master of Sex
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Firstly, welcome to the forum! What a horrible thing to go through. I hate that other people feel entitled to comment on bodies in ways that are demeaning. If you don't like what you see on cam, close it. It is really that simple. No need to make nasty comments. To aswer your question, from my personal perspective, considering how much pleasure I can get from a single finger, penis size matters less than skill and ability to listen to direction and hints. Many women are less inclined to give directions, as much as hint towards what they prefer and dislike. Also, having an idea of what positions generally have the most benefit for penetrative is always helpful. Once again, for me personally, there really is such a thing as too big. Especially with regards to penis length. C
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We encourage people to report negative comments like that as its unacceptable, if someone makes a comment like that let us know, we will then have a word with them and in some cases take further action.
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We encourage people to report negative comments like that as its unacceptable, if someone makes a comment like that let us know, we will then have a word with them and in some cases take further action.

We encourage people to be themselves smile big, small, portly etc. The person that ridiculed your size is in all likelyhood a lurker who does not actually get any experience :)
Generally speaking a large brain is a good idea as is a large vocabulary........... then you do not end up with the embarrassing situation of her telling him to put his thing in her thing and doing something with it when trying to tell him that he should put his key into her car's ignition and turning it clockwise for 1/8 th rotation in order to start her car.
Someone once said that the cure for all ailments in the removal of the head. They failed to add that the reason for it being a cure is that you are to stupid to realize that you have an ailment :)
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Hi there Sorry thats awful, but have on the odd occasion noticed in chatroom rude remarks being made but not often more often all cheering on, well the woman haha, but on size........................ For me Get into my mind and getting into knickers much easier. Have a talented tongue and fingers that hit the spot, and you are a treasure So carryon as you are and never mind the SMALL MINDED people
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Chat room etiquette is really something we should all adhere too. Late night/early mornings, the lack of Moderators, makes for these rude obnoxious people to just carry on. But you can take the *rude* people`s profile names, try and copy and paste their remarks in a letter of complaint and send it the very next day/mornings to the Moderators to view and take the necessary action. It does take courage to display one self for who knows to view, and then to be made *fun* off is not needed. I myself think you have rightfully decided that you are okay with who and what you are and how you look. Be happy and know that with your mind and what you have written about your fingers tongue and mind, will ensure you to have a lot of fun. Not everyone wants to engage in fun with men with overly large sexual organs. Everything of the best to you.
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Firstly, welcome to the forum!
What a horrible thing to go through. I hate that other people feel entitled to comment on bodies in ways that are demeaning. If you don't like what you see on cam, close it. It is really that simple. No need to make nasty comments.
To aswer your question, from my personal perspective, considering how much pleasure I can get from a single finger, penis size matters less than skill and ability to listen to direction and hints.
Many women are less inclined to give directions, as much as hint towards what they prefer and dislike.
Also, having an idea of what positions generally have the most benefit for penetrative is always helpful.
Once again, for me personally, there really is such a thing as too big. Especially with regards to penis length.
C

Hi, thanks for the input - much appreciated!
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We encourage people to report negative comments like that as its unacceptable, if someone makes a comment like that let us know, we will then have a word with them and in some cases take further action.

Thank you, will remember.
But, I am already over it.
Really, if that person wants to live their life belittling others, let them go ahead - one day karma will be a b*tch.
But, I am not going to let them live in my head like a poison...happy thoughts!
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We encourage people to report negative comments like that as its unacceptable, if someone makes a comment like that let us know, we will then have a word with them and in some cases take further action.

We encourage people to be themselves smile big, small, portly etc. The person that ridiculed your size is in all likelyhood a lurker who does not actually get any experience :)
Generally speaking a large brain is a good idea as is a large vocabulary........... then you do not end up with the embarrassing situation of her telling him to put his thing in her thing and doing something with it when trying to tell him that he should put his key into her car's ignition and turning it clockwise for 1/8 th rotation in order to start her car.
Someone once said that the cure for all ailments in the removal of the head. They failed to add that the reason for it being a cure is that you are to stupid to realize that you have an ailment :)
Top Gear fan too I see! lol
Look, for a quick wam bam thank you mam, I get that a big tool and ripped body are prerequisites.
But from what I can gather, the swinging community/lifestyle is so much more than that.
So, intelligence goes a long way, as does a sense of humour methinks.
Thank you for your input, much appreciated!
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Hi there
Sorry thats awful, but have on the odd occasion noticed in chatroom rude remarks being made but not often more often all cheering on, well the woman haha,
but on size........................
For me
Get into my mind and getting into knickers much easier.
Have a talented tongue and fingers that hit the spot, and you are a treasure
So carryon as you are and never mind the SMALL MINDED people

Hi, yes my sentiments exactly!
Thank you!
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Quote by Pussinboots1
Chat room etiquette is really something we should all adhere too. Late night/early mornings, the lack of Moderators, makes for these rude obnoxious people to just carry on. But you can take the *rude* people`s profile names, try and copy and paste their remarks in a letter of complaint and send it the very next day/mornings to the Moderators to view and take the necessary action.
It does take courage to display one self for who knows to view, and then to be made *fun* off is not needed.
I myself think you have rightfully decided that you are okay with who and what you are and how you look.
Be happy and know that with your mind and what you have written about your fingers tongue and mind, will ensure you to have a lot of fun. Not everyone wants to engage in fun with men with overly large sexual organs.
Everything of the best to you.

Thank you, yes I have decided to just let it roll off me like water on a duck's back.
Just keep livin imo.
But you are correct - it does take some courage to be on cam, but it might be safer than to actually meet up these days...
As you say, I have decided that I am OK with myself - took a while, but yes. I can now use the term "self love" and actually mean it.
Thank you for the kind words!
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Personally i take everything on the Internet with a pinch of salt. Some people love nothing more than to screw over someone else's life for the fun of it. Hell there was a man on twitter who made a series of 40 tweets on twitter about the state of the economy. One person took one tweet, removed the context of the other 39 tweets and then declared it racist. Now the man has been fired from standard bank because someone wanted to have some fun. I really hope though that this one individual doesn't discourage you from meeting some amazing people here.
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Personally i take everything on the Internet with a pinch of salt. Some people love nothing more than to screw over someone else's life for the fun of it. Hell there was a man on twitter who made a series of 40 tweets on twitter about the state of the economy. One person took one tweet, removed the context of the other 39 tweets and then declared it racist. Now the man has been fired from standard bank because someone wanted to have some fun.
I really hope though that this one individual doesn't discourage you from meeting some amazing people here.

Hi Mike, yeah the start to 2016 was rather..."interesting"...ito social media etc.
But yes, I am not going to let some f@cknut ruin my mojo!
LOL!