Honestly, my wife just doesn’t like swallowing. That’s simply her personal preference, and it’s never been an issue between us. We’ve always been pretty open about what we’re into and what we’re not, so it’s understood and respected on both sides.

In the swinging world, it’s kind of the same mindset for us. We’re open to experiences, but we still have our own boundaries. Hers are clear, and that’s one of them. It’s not about trust or attraction, it’s just comfort. And I don’t try to push past that.

For me personally, I’m open-minded about the whole thing, and I’ll admit there is some curiosity there. When you’re in that kind of environment, you naturally become more aware of different dynamics and what people are comfortable with. You also realize how different every person is, even within very open situations.

And I won’t lie, I don’t think I would have an issue being in a situation where a woman I’m with, actually wants to do that. If anything, part of the openness in that kind of environment could be that you do sometimes experience different preferences with different people. So if I’m with someone who is into it and comfortable with it, I’m not going to reject that or make it weird. It would just be part of the experience between consenting adults in that moment.

But at the same time, I separate curiosity from expectation. I’m not looking for it as a requirement or prerequisite, I need activities to happen for things to be a pleasure of enjoyment. It’s more just being open to whatever feels natural with whoever I’m with, while still respecting the boundaries I have with my wife.

At the end of the day, what matters most for us is, that we stay aligned. She knows her limits, I know mine, and we don’t try to force anything outside of that. Everything else in the swinging context is just about enjoying the experience together without pressure or comparison.