So you have joined a swingers' site! It's so exciting, the thought of all the possibilities for unlimited sex, to fulfill all your secret fantasies and passions. You only fill your profile with the minimum of information, because everyone here knows precisely what you want, and precisely how to give it to you. Sex, duh! It doesn't matter if your spouse/partner has no idea that you are here looking to get what you are not getting at home. Everyone knows when you have taken the step to actually join a swingers' site, then for sure everyone is ready for sex with you, 24/7/365. Now you start sending out generic messages to anyone who has been online recently. Why read their profile, they are here for sex, period. All you need to do is get them to notice you. OH! there's a chat room! Let's go in and start bombarding everyone with inappropriate, unsolicited messages and pics. Or, how about camming? Be sure to bombard everyone with private chats, just to be sure you get an ample, adoring audience. Hey, you have been on the site now for THREE whole hours and having sex is no closer to you than before you registered! This site is crap!! Three days later, you decide, let's go get some easy sex from all those sex-starved swingers. But wait! what is this? You are blocked? How is that possible? You have had no interactions with anyone because it's to hard to break into those small, closed cliques of all the swingers. Swingers are so close-minded! OH! it's because you are a single! Ya, let's blame that. Maybe you should have a couples profile rather. OR maybe, just maybe, it's your attitude? Completely fill your profile. Let everyone know what you expect from any interactions you may experience. Remember, everyone doesn't have your standard for pics. If you choose to have explicit pics, post them to a private album. When anyone is curious enough to WANT to see your private album, then share. Many are not here to see everything, particularly when you have not had any other type of interactions with them. There is always a price for sex. You want something, you will be required to give something. Don't say you will NEVER pay for sex, because you will ALWAYS pay for sex, just not always with money. Some will give sex for charm and flattery. Some will give sex for gifts. You will need to take some time, and communicate, in order to discover if their price is something you are willing to accommodate. Some will give sex for money, but hopefully the site has been diligent in weeding out those people. Some will give sex to fulfill THEIR secret fantasy. BUT, you will need to discover if you fit that category of THEIRS. So then, again, you will need to pay with your time, and, your ability to communicate. Now you have taken the time to read profiles, just to see if there's mutual interest. But WHAT! You are blocked!! How dare that person!! They haven't even taken the time to discover who you are!! Of course they have. They had to get to the very bottom of your incomplete profile to hit the BLOCK icon. You are too young/old, if you bothered to complete that section. You are too far, and they expect regular face-to-face interactions, not just a camming session when you have problems zipping your pants. You have an attitude which they are not willing to indulge. You are, or are not, a smoker, which they are not willing to tolerate. You are an adulterer, not a swinger, which goes against their ethics. The site has a medium which has allowed people to interact in a way which is supposed to be based on open-mindedness. The site is not responsible for how often you get to interact with others. You are responsible for receiving what you desire. By having a complete, open and honest profile, you will attract more people who will see something worthy of giving their time. Be polite. Manners are free. No one expects a great, improv stand-up comedian, but having a sense of humour helps. So you are shy, many of us are, yet we have the benefit of the site, and screen, to help break the ice. You aren't good with expressing yourself on a keyboard/phone. Possibly this isn't the best medium for you to interact with others, try the club parties. Have integrity. Once caught in a lie, it is very challenging to rebuild trust. By taking the time to discover others, you give them the time to discover you. Who knows what fireworks will erupt!