The lifestyle is different to everyone and that's what makes it so awesome each are in for a reason some to relight a spark some to release there fantasy. To us it's about extra bit of fun and variety. Our 3some adventures are 1 because I enjoy sharing but 2 for her pleasure let's face it 4 hands are better than 2 to see her completely absorbed in the attention and pleasure. Experiencing another cock other lips letting go of all the crap in the world for those few hours. It a time we can be ourselves in raw sexual behavior. It's not always to make friends sometimes it's to let your hair down and go against the norm. Been able to touch another without your partner getting upset. For us this is where we can be ourselves in a community where people let there naughty side flow free. Yes you get bullshitters that invade us with there crap yes you get those who at the end aren't ready for this and yes we are a cut above the rest as couples we have reached that beautiful level of complete understanding and trust a level few reach ever. We are in the alternative life style and I personally think us as a South African community should do something to make our selves known in a crowd to each other that we can build in unity against the norm.