Written by AngeliqueB
27 Mar 2014
The Female Orgasm Explained (by a woman!)
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The sexual revolution of the 70's has allowed women to claim their right to pleasure and to better know their own body. However, 30 years later, the female orgasm remains mysterious and mostly elusive ..
We can all recall that infamous scene in the movie "When Harry Met Sally" where Meg Ryan is moaning and groaning, whilst allegedly having an orgasm. In the movie she is obviously faking it. The movie endeavors to show that women have the ability to confuse or mislead men into believing that they are actually having an orgasm. Unfortunately for men, no matter how much women scream or moan, they cannot fake an orgasm as well, let's face it - a masculine orgasm is rather difficult to miss!!
During the 1970's, the sexual revolution enabled women the ability to lay claim to a right of pleasure in the bedroom; for the first time in public society, women were able to better understand their own bodies and discover what it actually is, that which enables andor causes the orgasm. However, now 40 years since that revolution and for many men, the onset an d occurrence of the feminine orgasm remains a total mystery.
It is hard enough to understand women in general, let alone the female orgasm. So, to help you bring her to climax every time and therefore have more pleasurable sex, more often yourself...........Read!!!!
Women do not always make audible sounds during orgasm.
Women, more often than men, find sex to be pleasurable even if they DO NOT orgasm. In addition to the fact that it feels pleasurable to be touched, many women enjoy the intimacy that sex provides - the kissing, touching, closeness, etc.
There is no set time to the orgasm occurring. It all depends on what way she is stimulated. Masturbation with a vibrator is the quickest route to orgasm (hence so many women do this!) while intercourse tends to take more time, for the majority of women. But it varies so much, not only but from sex act to sex act, but also from woman to woman.
Women sometimes find it easier to orgasm if they are relaxed and feel comfortable with their partner. Orgasm is more likely with a regular relationship partner than a casual partner. So, it is advised to help her to relax by addressing any relationship conflicts, and talking about (and trying to meet) her needs for affection and intimacy. Be positive and complimentary about issues she is anxious about, such as her appearance or weight, level of experience in bed etc. Also, make sure she is sufficiently aroused prior to trying to have an orgasm from oral sex, intercourse, or hand stimulation. There is no magic cue to tell, so TALK to her! Certainly sexual excitement is often accompanied by an increase in heart rate and breathing, and becoming warmer and lubricated, but that may be as good as it gets, as far as physical signs go.
Orgasms with a quickie depends how quick the quickie is. There are few women who can orgasm in less than 5 minutes, but some can.
Not all women have had multiple orgasms. It would seem that less than half of women have, but that does not mean that they are not capable of multiple orgasms. For women who want multiple orgasms, they need to get their guy to try to maintain stimulation through the first orgasm so that they can keep going. For women who are neutral about multiples or do not care, do not pressure them (and yes, trying too hard, counts as pressure) because pressure and orgasm rarely mix.
There is no such thing as the best position to bring on an orgasm. It depends on the woman. Again, not all women can orgasm during intercourse. Some orgasm more easily from stimulation of the front wall of the vagina; others more easily from direct stimulation of the clitoris. Missionary and rear entry are among the more common positions and probably for a reason, as each provides either clitoral or front-wall stimulation, making them good bets for many women.
Oral sex is also not always the answer, but the direct stimulation of the clitoral glans does make it easier for many women to orgasm.
You will know if you are the Best. If she tells you that.
As there is no clear understanding as to how clitoral and vaginal orgasms work, forget about a nipple-stimulated orgasm. There are various theories, but no one really knows. Do not try too hard this can result in too much pressure, frustration, and dissatisfactionand that would not provide a service to either party.
With the female orgasm explained, you will have reached the final frontier of sexual knowledge. The female orgasm is an intense and erotic experience for any woman, who is lucky enough to have one. This is a very complex subject and men are left bewildered when it comes to understanding what makes women reach the highest peak in sexual fulfillment the Big O!
This should make things a bit clearer, as to what a man needs to do to send his woman to ecstasy. Where she no longer has to fake an orgasmic orgasm and he will be able to tell if she is:
What is needed for female orgasm?
Variety of stimulation
1. Signs she has reached or near her climax and is having an orgasm. You may not notice this, but her pupils may actually get dilated (widen.) Muscles start to contract like she having some type of spasm; she starts to tenses up, and her toes may curl. You may hear sounds from her, like you have never heard before and she may even get a peculiar look on her face; her breathing intensifies and her body starts to twitch. She puts a vice-grip hold on you and she will not let go. Then suddenly, she releases her hold on you and her body relaxes; you should have a big smile on your face and you had better believe - she has had a cosmic orgasm.
2. Foreplay is necessary for her to reach the point of an orgasm. Wam-bam-thank-you-mam may be enjoyable, but it usually does not get her to the point of having an orgasm. Tteasing, pleasing and squeezing drives a woman wild. Women love hugging and passionate kissing doing love-making. Run your tongue down her back and watch her squirm; nibble on her neck and listen to her moan; run your hand up the inside of her thigh; squeeze her firm little fanny and give it a little tap. This is the types of excitement that gets her closer to having an orgasm.
3. Manual stimulation of the females clitoris through oral copulation, fingers or sex toys to give her and orgasm. The use of the tongue to flick and lick the clitoris is very gratifying and for those that may not know where the clitoris is located and what it looks like... It is above the vagina lips and it looks like a mini penis to put it bluntly. The clitoris has a lot of nerve endings, just like the penis and if you take two wet fingers and use one to slide inside the vagina and the other finger or sex toy to stimulate the clitoris, throw in a little tongue action here and there, well, she will begin to wiggle as that tension builds up inside of her, to the point where she feels like she is ready to explode - orgasm time!
4. Having an orgasm doing intercourse. This is possible if there is not just a lot of bumping and grinding. Do not get me wrong, that is great! But, you have to know what she likes and what really turns her on; you can stimulate the clitoris while you are penetrating her; does she like it hard fast or slow; change position; try to be creative. Tease her; make her beg for it - that will make her desire it even more.
When it comes to the female orgasm it is almost like opening up Pandoras Box - confusing and very elusive. It may not come as easy as a mans when they ejaculate, but with the right ATTITUDE, PASSION AND TECHNIQUE, you will learn the secret to unlocking the code to making a woman have an earth-shattering orgasm.