Last night I got a reminder to the phrase “no offence” is usually just the warm-up act before someone says something… offensive.

You know the line. "No offence, but..."

Those two words are like putting a tiny plaster on a chainsaw. The sentence that follows almost always does exactly what the disclaimer said it wouldn’t — cause offence.

Now let’s talk about body shaming for a second.

When you tell someone “you’re bigger than I expected”, it might feel like a casual comment on your side of the screen.
But on the receiving end it lands very differently. It can feel like humiliation, rejection, and a punch straight to the confidence.

Especially when someone has already done the brave thing — put themselves out there.

Because let’s be honest: Approaching someone, starting a conversation, sharing photos, revealing a little vulnerability… that takes courage. Real courage. 💪

So when the response is body-shaming wrapped in a “no offence”, it cuts deeper than people realise.

Here’s the thing though. Preferences are normal.
We all have them. Attraction is subjective. Nobody owes anyone attraction.

But there’s a massive difference between honesty and cruelty.

A kinder approach looks something like this: "You seem like a lovely person, but I don’t think we’re the right match. I wish you the best."

See? Same outcome. Zero humiliation required.

For the record — yes, I’m a curvy, plus-size woman. Not “hide the snacks” obese, but definitely more than a skinny jean can negotiate without a meeting first. 😅

I’ve got a little extra around the waist, a bit of booty, and a whole lot more to me than just a pretty face.

And my body? It is what it is.

It carries my strength, my laughter, my stories, and every battle I’ve survived.

So yes, last night stung. I won’t pretend it didn’t.
That moment where someone reduces you to a body measurement can knock your confidence down a few pegs.

But here’s the important part.

I’ll lick my wounds. Then I’ll straighten my crown and carry on. 👑

Because someone else’s narrow expectations do not define my worth.

If you’ve ever been on the receiving end of body-shaming, please remember this: "Your value is not measured in kilograms, dress sizes, or someone else’s preferences."

To the women (and men) out there who are curvy, soft, thick, strong, or simply beautiful in ways society hasn’t caught up to yet — keep showing up.

It takes courage to put yourself out there.

So here I am, sharing my experience.

Not for sympathy.

Not for validation.

But as a reminder.

Curves aren’t a flaw.
Confidence isn’t a crime.

And someone else’s limited taste doesn’t make you less — it just means you’re not on their menu.

So to anyone who has ever been told “no offence, but…” — keep your head high, keep your standards higher, and never shrink yourself to fit someone else’s expectations.

Because the right person won’t say “no offence.”

BOOM!

........................Take that!

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