Written by AngeliqueB

24 Mar 2014

How often do you go down on your partner before intercourse? And intercourse aside, how often do you engage in oral sex just for the sake of... Oral Sex?

If the numbers are low, you are both missing out and from a man's point, it can be near-impossible to resist diving in to sexy time, penis first. But, an intense session of cunnilingus can definitely add something to your intimate life that neither of you are getting, from the same old "in-and-out," and keep her cumming back for more.

For one thing, giving her oral sex can be a great form of foreplay. Your partner may not have mentioned this to you, but women typically are not ready for intercourse after just one arm caress and a boob grope. We prefer a warming-up period in order to become physically and psychologically aroused, which in turn, makes it easier for us to experience great sex and, perhaps, even reach orgasm(s).

But oral sex does not even have to be used as foreplay. For a really intense sexual experience, try making cunnilingus the main event. In many cases, women orgasm more reliably from cunnilingus than they do from intercourse. However, you have do it right! Giving oral sex is not as simple as merely thrusting your tongue into a vagina and making it do the wiggle. No! Mind-blowing oral sex requires some actual technique.

First establish a "mount." Nope. Not a "dismount" (though cunnilingus does require a bit of oral gymnastics). Achieving a mount means that your mouth and her pubic area come together in such a way as to maximize the pleasure she experiences during your mouthy ministrations. Both men and women have a mount. A man's mount is the area of his upper lip just above his teeth. A woman's mount, meanwhile, is the centre of the pubic bone, where there is a slight cradle into which your mount naturally fits - how anatomically wondrous is that! Connecting your respective mounts and maintaining that persistent connection throughout the process of arousal is essential to mind-blowing oral sex, as it allows you to firmly place your mouth just where it needs to be for maximum stimulation of your partner's clitoris.

To make all of this easier, consider placing a pillow or two beneath her bum. It will make her hot spots easier to access. Once you are properly positioned, there are a number of things you can do, in order to rock her world.

Always warm her up, by caressing her inner thighs, breathing naturally so she can feel your breath on her clitoris and on the other areas of her vulva i.e. external genetalia. This will help build up anticipation, making her squirm for more, as you prepare to really impress her. Then, once you are ready, begin licking her like an ice cream cone - in long, thick strokes that cover the entire area down there. Let your licks gradually build up in intensity, before plunging in fully. Once you have reached a certain rhythm, try mixing things up (though you should remain mindful of how she is responding to your touch; if she is finding a specific rhythm or touch particularly pleasurable, she may never forgive you if you suddenly change course)

Use your lips to kiss her most intimate parts, alternating those particular kisses with smooches on her thighs. Lightly nibble and then suck on entire bits of her skin. The gentle suction will feel incredible, especially if you can still manage to continue using your tongue. Blow softly across her skin, teasing her with the new sensation. Do not be nervous about experimenting with different approaches when giving her oral sex.

Once found, a skilled cunnilinguist rarely goes unappreciated. But, if you are not sure exactly how, just press a flat, still tongue against her vulva and let her do the work. It is the cunnilingus equivalent of letting her get on top. A favourite tongue techcnique - the "Rope-a-Dope" lets her push and grind against your flat, still tongue - take it all in - and then spring back with a series of fast vertical and diagonal tongue strokes. Lick her senseless with a short burst of energy and then return to the flat, still tongue, waiting for yet another opportune moment to spring to life again.

What is most important while giving her oral sex is that you remain mindful of how she is responding to you. You should never assume your partner is as excited as you are. Even if she is wet down there, her physical arousal may not be indicative of the psychological arousal she is - or is not - feeling. Instead you should be focusing on these other signs of physical arousal - rapid breathing; body movements; bucking hips; flaying arms; vaginal muscle contractions and if really lucky, her verbal encouragement (moans, whimpers, and talking to the man upstairs.)

Cunnilingus is a delicate dance, and she is leading you. If she is not exhibiting other signs, continue to mix up your technique. If she is showing one or multiple signs of arousal, for the love of god, DON'T STOP! As you become more comfortable with your techniques, you can even consider investing in a vibrating tongue ring, in order to pack some extra punch down below. But honestly, you do not need all those bells and whistles. You just need an enthusiasm for the job at hand (no harm in using your fingers too!) and a willingness to follow her lead.

On a scientific note...........

Scientists hypothesize that the reason men perform oral sex is to keep the woman satisfied in the relationship and prevent her from straying. The research has explained that men know they are in constant competition with other men for their woman and performing oral sex keeps the predators at bay.

Something to consider and perfect, if you want to keep her?