Written by AngeliqueB

26 Mar 2014

Why would any younger man want to date an older woman? Surely, he could get two for the price of one! Well, older women are not only more mature, confident in knowing what it is that they want (hopefully that will be you!) and mostly financially independent and stable; but, they are also better lovers, sexually more adventurous with more life experience and usually, will not mess unnecessarily with your head, as their hormones are better under control due to HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy.)

It is quite typical, almost cliche, to see an older man with a much younger woman. It has become the norm that men date younger women, but we have yet to fully accept the idea of a woman dating a man much younger than herself. Celebrities are making it easier though, but unfortunately, we do not all look like Demi or Courtney! So, I am suggesting a reversal of the standard and am asking the question......

Who is better?

Young and raring, or, Mature and caring?

Was it not Rasputin who said "Women like wine are best when mature, they know several ways to entice and to lure."

It is time that young men start realizing the benefits of dating older women. In general, men young and old, always complain that women do not know what they want and that they are high maintenance. Well, why not turn the tables for a while and try dating women, who can appreciate "real" men - men who are "givers" instead of "takers," as having experienced being in and out of relationships before, they know the difference, as well as the fact that being desired is great, but clingy is awful. Now, do not get me wrong, I am not talking about an age difference of twenty-five or forty years. By older woman, I am talking about a maximum of maybe ten to twelve years.

A man in his mid-thirties, who dates a woman in her mid to late-forties will possibly go through an enriching life changing experience. Your average twenty-year-old woman is energetic, ambitious and out to get things done. Now, you take a woman in her forties - she has lived considerably more and she has learned that the world is not all it was cracked up to be and is less likely to be over-enthusiastic. For example: Driving 50 kilometres to go to dance clubs that charge an exorbitant cover fee and serve cherry-flavoured water. She will hopefully want to avoid becoming paralytic and throwing up, or cramming onto a deafening dance floor with another 10 000 sweaty bodies. Which is as it should be, as one of the most important things about dating is getting to know each other, which takes time, patience, and above all - peace and quiet. Where better to start this process than in a smart restaurant, offering good food and wine and, discreet but attentive service? (She might even foot the bill if you are lucky!)

Of course, you will never find a rose without a thorn. This means that in exchange for peace of mind, you have to be willing to accept some of the implications that come with dating an older woman. More often than not, however, the advantages overwhelmingly surpass the drawbacks. Older women may not be as bodily toned, yet considerably less conscious and more resigned to the fact that they are losing the gravity-battle, than they once were and they might not be quite as perky in the various spots they are supposed to be perky in - there is plastic surgery, no doubt. But, it is amazing what an extra ten years of experience in bed can teach you and after all, everything passes in the dark! They also are less critical with more realistic expectations of their partner, who is obviously not Superman ALL the time, thereby understanding both your good and bad qualities and more importantly, they do no beat around the bush (they let you do that!) They know exactly what they want and they will manipulate you physically and mentally to get it. As a man is terrible when it comes to taking the time and effort to figure out what a woman really wants; an older woman has learned not to waste precious time waiting for the man and knows that it "ain't gonna happen, unless she makes it. " So, she will inevitably tell you what to do and where to do it - her confidence in bed, as much practise will have made perfect and, there will be less chance of ineptitude fumbling and hopefully much less shyness (granted, once the lights are off!) all providing for a major turn-on, not so?.

As most women reach their sexual prime in their 40s, and are more in tune with their bodies, their sex drive goes into overdrive and together with being more sensual and less in a hurry, they are more into receiving enjoyment and giving pleasure. Think why so many women have affairs or get divorced at this stage in their lives............. Hello!!! Their long-time partners have not been able to keep up!!!

Older women are more established in their careers and rely less on a man to support them or a potential future family. An older woman's independence is a strong stress reliever for any man, and she comes with a unique status of her own, so he should not have to worry about dating young golddiggers, who will take him for a ride, only to get a slice of his wallet. This takes away some of the pressure from a man's shoulder to support the relationship (i.e. you won't go broke and she might even treat you!) However, a gentle word of caution........This point does not apply to all older women, as a young gold digger will eventually become an old gold digger, so keep your eyes and ears open!


Older women know how to appreciate the truer things in life. They do not play head games and seldom play hard-to-get (mindfuck most definitely!) and neither do they value the materialistic ideals that are pushed through the media channels. You can have a deep intellectual conversation with an older woman (even after sex!) and not have to worry about going into stupid topics - such as to how her hair was out of place, or how the pink lipstick did not match perfectly with her purple mini skirt. You also do not have to worry about returning her home before midnight, to meet her Dads curfew.

The benefit of being with an older woman is especially apparent on vacations. Young women have the annoying habit of wanting to always do something. They say silly things like, "We paid all this money to be here, we should make the most of it." This is a phrase that no man in his right mind ever wants to hear. A man goes on vacation, to drink over-priced beer or wine, while sitting in a Jacuzzi, contemplating what to order next at the all-you-can-eat restaurant.

There is however, nothing wrong with a young man-older woman relationship, because a woman has as much right as a man, to like someone younger than her. Since she wants to date a young man, there might be a chance that she just wants to have some fun with an energetic man, hopefully one who is in better condition than she is, without having to worry about anything else. Along with those great years of sexual experience, some unresolved issues and excess baggage could come attached to the package, but overall, I encourage younger men to give this whole "cougar idea" a second thought...... is it not every young mans fantasy?

I bet you will save yourself a lot of headaches.

There is a saying that goes........

They dont yell!

They dont tell!

They dont swell!

And, when you are through with it,

they are as grateful as hell!