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To condom or Not to condom?

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Sexlightened
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So. Mrs 2 is starting to tingle for her annual/bi-annual gang bang. We've had 3 since she first got a hankering for multiple partners at one time.

So off I go in search. I set filters to Single Males / In Johannesburg / Straight / Age 30 - 45. Screen gets flooded. But what I notice is a LOT of guys have images on their profiles of themselves playing unprotected. Are people naive/ brazen or stupid?

In this day in age - in the lifestyle where multiple partners is a given...  seriously, who plays without a condom?

Warming the Bed
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Far too many. When we come across profiles as such, we make a note to not interact or consider those profiles. Far too risky for our tastes. 

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I have seen way to many people on here playing without protection!  It sure is scary considering the times we live in that people would still put others at risk like that! I have only 1 rule and that is ALWAYS PLAY WITH PROTECTION! 

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the nr 1 rule, no condom, no play sorry, life is to scary, I also test myself often , but dont show me yours, if it is older than 24 hrs it is not worth the paper it is written on, I do not know who you played with in the weeks after tyour test result

Warming the Bed
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I'm not sure if you guys know about PREP. It's  a drug that will prevent you from contracting HIV if you are exposed to it. It's supposed to be 99% sure. From a gay perspective, far too many guys claim to be tested regularly, but I doubt that. At the end of the day, an ugly man with a condom beats a handsome man without.

Warming the Bed
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No condom....no play....Fullstop.

Master of Sex
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@ hunguncutdad  Even if PREP is 99% sure that 1% says it is not safe. For me that is. 

No condom or Dental Dam means  NO play... I always say you know who you play with...BUT YOU NEVER can be sure of your PLAY partner and WHO he plays with,and who they play with, to me it REMAINS an unsure circle of unknown partners. ANYone who would disagrees with me, I feel is is unsafe. BUT they are welcome to their own opinion of course.

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No condom no play...simple either with it or not. Plus before you interact with people you should meet and based on that you would be able to identify on appearance if that person or persons are suitable to interact sexually with. There is a couple on site that requested we play with no condoms however I never met them due to that cause they insisted on play with no rubber. So I choose quality over quantity so I rather have a small group of friends.

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Then you get people like this: https://www.swingingheaven.za.com/stories/swinging/naughty-fun-at-work
One observer commented: Nice story but you are playing  Russian Rollet without a condom! 
The OP's reply: "Thank you, yes I know hey. But it turns a person on even more if the risk is even bigger".


Can people REALLY be so stupid? Seriously?

 I made that comment and was absolutely shocked by his answer!  No pills for stupidity! 

Warming the Bed
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Clicks now sells HIV test kits and together with Prep i think one can be pretty safe even without condoms . 

Sexlightened
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Quote by Deliciousduo
Clicks now sells HIV test kits and together with Prep i think one can be pretty safe even without condoms . 

 With a window period of 2 weeks where commercially available rapid screening tests can't pick up infections - we would 1000% prefer/insist on playing safe. 

Warming the Bed
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I just want to say, right off the bat, I never use a condom when I wank alone! Sex is supposed to be fun. If you can't laugh at the man with the small dick, who can you laugh at?

Master of Sex
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@ Dalton246  If you google dental dam it will give you a LOT of information and how to use it...it however is something we ladies use and hopefully people who like rimming,  and if you do not have a Dental Dam handy when playing...some cling foil works just as well!!!

@ hunguncutdad   LMAO...*sure* one would use a condom when all ALONE with your self and your left or and with a threesome with your right hand....*giggling*

I HOPE people know that we do not ask or expect a couple to use a condom or dental dam when they play, only when they play with someone else...

Master of Sex
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As for PrEP to prevent HIV  I am sure it is better than nothing...BUT to think you have to use it daily for 7 days before and during and after a play date(it is fine fine) if you only PLAY say ONCE every 2 months..or longer..  but how safe is it to take daily for the rest of your life if you play at least ONCE a week if not more?? Just asking. 

Warming the Bed
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Can't handle condoms keep your circle small and insist on HIV test 

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Great words @Annabel” keep your circle small and ask for once off testing

Sexlightened
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Quote by Slowvelder69
Great words @Annabel” keep your circle small and ask for once off testing

 And how do you know how small or large the others circle is?

Warming the Bed
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@ Chappie good question you have to choose your playmates carefully 

Sexlightened
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Quote by Annabel
@ Chappie good question you have to choose your playmates carefully 

 We do.

But no condom, no play.

Warming the Bed
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no man wants to wear a condom , they say they do but they really dont . It's up to the girls to be sensible and insist . 

I mean how many woman have you heard say " dude hold my beer and watch me ....... ( insert dumbass idea that sound cool) 

Boys are reckless always but girls do get reckless when they are really horny. 

Condoms are best , but penetration isn't the only sexual act we perform. There are very real risks. The best thing to do is get tested regularly, and if they look like they might have something.... they probably do , and you probably shouldn't 

Forum Virgin
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I have personally seen things like this and more . I have heard woman say don't worry I am on the pill, and guys say don't worry I'm snipped can't have kids.  HIV is everywhere and some may not even know they got it. It can takes months before even detected.. so regular tests don't count unless you been playing virgin for a few months prior.  Prevention is better than cure. Those tests do not pick everything up.. you still have other issues.. genital warts, HBV and many more.  

Stay safe everyone. 


Forum Virgin
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We make the side note too when we come across people playing without protection. We even investigate the people who vouch for them and make a side note about them as well!

Wonder what is going to be people’s view about the Corona virus and swinging?

Warming the Bed
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Condom or pass.....It is just not worth the risk...

Have witnessed foolishness...where alchol or lust takes over...and penetration takes place...especially in Mm/f   and dogging scenarios ...

Not that desperate....ta..

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Quote by Deliciousduo
Clicks now sells HIV test kits and together with Prep i think one can be pretty safe even without condoms . 

 The problem is, that is only an hiv test. There are one or two other nasty things out there that might not kill you but could cause uncomfortable situations.


Just cause someone does not show any symptoms of std's, it does not mean they don't have them. They could be carriers of a number of nasty things.

Forum Virgin
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I think for guys the a idea of No condom and the pure sex of it all, but in reality that would be incredible selfish and dangerous to play without one.

Warming the Bed
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We have this question which we find very interesting, we see all speak of condoms so that the bodily fluids dont transfer from one to another. Aids, hiv any sickness moves from one to the other through blood or bodily fluids, so then the guys will have to wear condoms whilst getting a BJ. How does one then muff a woman as one places ones touge upon the clitoris, the open vigina and others even rim jobs, does this not apply to contracting the desease in some form of way. Understoodably the concept of a condom would be the prevention of a pregnacy as the insertion of the cock into a vigina will not be as effective as a open mouth round a awesome cock or a flowering pussy.

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Quote by We4Fun
How does one then muff a woman as one places ones touge upon the clitoris, the open vigina and others even rim jobs, does this not apply to contracting the desease in some form of way.

This is were the "dental dam" comes in. Not sure how it works or where to get it butna PiB mentioned clingwrap does work lol.