I'm curious, does dogging actually ever happen in South Africa in any sort of organised way? Or at all in fact? Lots of people post questions on this forum, but there is little if any indication of venues that doggers frequent or of anyone who actually participates other than those always hopeful types?
We're not doggers mind you, more watchers if ever presented with the opportunity.
I'd also be very nervous of the potential dangers of dogging, particulalrly in this country and can't think of many safe places where people could do this.
It's a bit of a strange request to ask to have a fetish explained. Nonetheless as a foot fetishist let me try explain mine...
The first time I noticed a woman's foot was at school, maybe standard 8 and I was young for my class in a boys only school. We were writing an exam in the hall and one of the invigilators was our maths teacher who was quite pretty and very short. Anyway, I noticed she had taken off her shoes while walking between the rows of desks and couldn't help making out her painted toenails through her nylon stockings. I looked at this and thought to myself what pretty little feet she has. My first recollection of noticing a lady's feet. The other feet I noticed early on were my biology teacher's, perhaps not long afterwards. No-one in the class admitted to finding her attractive although she was despite having a nobler than average nose. In any case, I noticed that she too had slim, attractive feet, although as a taller lady, they were larger than the maths teacher's. I started forming fantasies about her and eventually worked my way to her feet in my fantasy, thinking, that although a mature teacher will have no interest in a scholar, particularly not a younger one like me who was also a late bloomer (I was about 155 cm tall in matric), maybe she would let me massage her feet and if I was really lucky, maybe she would stimulate me with them. I of course thought I was really weird, did not know anything about foot fetishism and certainly did not dare to share my fantasy with anyone.
Many years later a girlfriend and I were sitting on a couch together, naked. More like at opposite ends of the couch - she had her feet up on the couch and out of the blue started stroking my chest, stomach and eventually my penis with her cute feet (red painted nails). I had never mentioned my foot thing to her... I was so aroused, and she gave me the most amazing footjob. Nothing like anything else I had ever felt. I guess it was the unexpectedness of it, the different type of motion, the skin of her soles, which although smooth and pretty is very different in feel from a hand. And of course the earlier fantasies of my high school teachers. I was hooked!
I have tried with a few other women, another girlfriend (who unfortunately did not have very pretty feet), used to tease me a lot, but also understood and would occasionally give me a footjob. My wife (Mrs Shy) also understands and has gorgeous, slim feet, so occasionally I get a footjob from her too. She also loves having her feet massaged so that part of things is a win-win for both of us, but she hasn't quite taken to having her toes sucked... The last time we spoke about that he response was along the lines of "it's not good or bad, it just feels strange".
Out of curiosity, does your female led relationship centre on sexual activities alone or does it cross over into every aspect of your life? Is the lady essentially a lifestyle dominatrix and the husband a full time sub? If so, sounds fascinating...
Why not start your own group? Starting with members from this site who fit the bill - your relationship is unlikely to be unique.
I can't speak for all or even any man except myself, but I for one absolutely love going down on a woman. It genuinely is the biggest turn on for me. I love the scent, and although I've only been with about 6 ladies in my time, I've never been with one that didn't smell divine. No two exactly alike either. I've always suspected a "bad smell" indicates a medical problem. I love the look of a vulva in all their shapes and sizes (and unlike most people on this site, I love them naturally hairy and not baby smooth). I love the taste and the feel of all the juicy bits in my mouth, the ultimate turn-on! And I adore the feeling of gently sucking on my wife's clitoris while also stimulating it with my tongue (and sometimes perhaps clumsily trying to use my fingers too in other areas - unless they're stimulating her nipples). I love pleasuring a lady (or for the past 11 years, specifically 1 lady) in this way and making her squirm until she eventually pushes me away unable to take any more. I've always been happy to give and not receive in return (although I have never been denied), and would happily do this several times a day if my wife desired (and if time permitted)... And I've always done it first without my partner having to ask, never because of what I wanted in return and I've never stopped until she has wanted me to. At one time I used to fantasize about being an oral only call-guy, but alas that fantasy was never realised.
Haven't read all the responses, but the general sentiment seems to be that everyone has their own personal preference whether it's attraction to the same or opposite sex or both, a preference for blondes or brunettes or an attraction to bald men. So why is it a problem for people to be attracted to their own race. That being said, people's preferences and what they are attracted by is fluid and changes over time. I am also quite sure that given the time to get to know someone of another race, where there are shared interests and similar intellects, colour becomes less of an issue. But back to the point I actually wanted to make disclaimers like "race is an issue" or even the ubiquitous "colour barrier" phrase can certainly be offensive. Rather simply say that you are only seeking Caucasians/Indians/Asians/Afrikaners/Martians/whatever...
Any wine lovers from swingingheaven going to the wine show tomorrow?
I get the feeling that dogging in South Africa is pretty much an urban legend. Comments???
