Me:
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I am a confident, fit and healthy guy - I don't smoke and rarely drink.
I run a business, but I am not materialistic, and I am not interested in being flashy.
If you are materialistic, we will probably not get along...

What I am looking for:
I am looking for a life partner, and I am open to having more kids.
I am also open to accepting a sub / slave who may not be able to become a life partner.
I want to share a fantastic life with a sexy someone who is adventurous both sexually and in life in general.
My ideal relationship would be mostly monogamous, but with play-time at a club once in a while - ideally a threesome.
I am straight forward and I don't play hard to get - if I like you, then you will know, if I don't feel that we are compatible, I will just say so and we can part amicably - I expect that same from anyone I meet.

What I am not looking for:
I avoid Dark Triad personalities (Narcissism, Machiavellianism, Psychopathy).
In a romantic context, I also avoid people with avoidant attachment styles.

Values:
I value honesty, and I believe that the biggest problem with cheating is the lying.
"Deceit is the most sincere form of disrespect." by me
There is no appropriate punishment for cheating - the only way forward is immediate termination of the relationship - you need not tell me in person - send me an email.
"Anger is a symptom of small dick energy." also by me

Non-negotiables

• The corporal punishment of children by someone who could potentially be sexually aroused by such an activity is utterly unacceptable and immoral. (Aside from it being illegal in general)

• Sex without a condom is unacceptable unless in a committed long term relationship.

• Dishonesty & cheating:
  I do not cheat, and I will not tolerate it for a moment.
  This is my infidelity litmus test:
  "If your partner could see all interaction between you and another person - all text, all speech, all body language, all physical contact, would they feel comfortable?
  If the answer is no, and especially if you feel even the slightest urge to hide that, then it is cheating."

Love:
I believe in "Real love" as defined in the book "The Road Less Traveled" by M. Scott Peck
“Love is the will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth. Love is an act of will -- We do not have to love. We choose to love.” ― M. Scott Peck
In the book, Peck discusses the "purpose" of his wife Lily:
"The purpose and function of Lily is to grow to be the most of which she is capable, not for my benefit, but for her own."
Another quote that sums it up nicely is sometimes wrongly attributed to The Buddha:
“When you like a flower, you just pluck it, but when you love a flower, you water it daily.” unknown author

BDSM:
I disagree with many people that I have met in the lifestyle about the role of a Dominant.
Dominance is not about breaking your sub's spirit - that is the opposite of real love.
For me, dominance is about leadership, crucially, and more specifically, leadership by example.
Integral to the dominant role is respect, reverence from the submissive and obedience by the submissive.
For this reason, a Dominant must be somebody worthy of respect and reverence.
Dark triad personalities are in my opinion, not worthy of respect or reverence, and therefore are not worthy of the title of "Dominant".
The Dominant enforces adherence to these standards, and therefore does not tolerate disobedience, disrespect or irreverence, and will punish such behavior either physically or sexually.
Physical punishment involving impact should avoid all body parts where serious permanent harm could occur.
Impact play will never happen on the lower back, knees, calves, feet, any part of the head, and any area in the front of the body except for the front thigh.
Sexual punishment may involve pleasuring another woman (under my strict control, supervision & instruction).
I neither practice nor believe in either verbal or emotional punishment, since I believe it to be antithetical to Real Love (although during sex, I may call you a dirty little slut ;) ).
All punishment must be dispensed with love.

I accept my responsibility, and I take it very seriously.

Kindness:
I am a kind person and I only want to include people in my life that are also kind.

I share photos that reveal my identity to people with whom I have established a level of trust.