So have had some time to think about this. And it's a tad more complicated than one might think, so bear with me.

We are a married couple, deeply in love and well set in the grind. We both have incredibly demanding careers which affords very little time for this aspect of life. We are also parents (well who isn't?), which is something else that comes with it's own demands and attentions, as you can well imagine. So therefore our ability to be constantly available due to work and life commitments is very limited. But we do try.

As we are going through the motions, it is undeniable that the occasion for mischief and must arise, as you can only colour in with a red crayon for so long before you begin to wonder why you aren't using the other colours in the box. So you use them. And that's where we are. We have posted on here before about various things we've been considering or looking for, but it has become alarmingly clear that we are unable to successfully achieve that, whether that be due to our own circumstances, likes or dislikes or a simple lack of compatibility with what it is we have been seeking. Hence the now different approach that we are looking to take which may, or may not, bear fruit. Time will tell.

So if you've gotten this far, you're now wondering what it is we may be potentially looking at. So let us start with the boss, aka wife, in this situation.

She is not fascinated by anything to do with the lifestyle, but she does have an incredible curiosity about it. Her preference, and mine, is for single gentlemen. Read, single. She does not like complication, whether permission has been granted or not, that, to her, is irrelevant, and something I am sure we can all understand. And that is one thing she will never budge on. She is a vivacious, voluptuous blonde/red head (natural red head), with curves in all the right places. She enjoys looking after herself and hitting the gym often, she is carved exactly how a woman should be. She loves dressing up in sexy clothes that accentuate her natural curves and large breasts, and walks with a strut, confidence is not lacking. She is a tough nut to crack, but knows what she wants, how to get it and how to use it. She is very attractive with blue eyes that suck you in and keep you mesmerized. She is absolutely worth the hard work should you be able to ascent to the summit. She is also very strong willed and doesn't take any BS (ask me how I know), and can be very direct if something is not to her satisfaction. I've tried changing her subtly, it hasn't worked, so I've given up.

And now it gets a bit more complicated. She is very much NOT into contrived situations, built on external pressure to get her to meet someone or the expectation that she will simply fall into bed with another man. She is a bit more complex than that. For her, 98% of the excitement is in the chase, the hunt, and ultimately being conquered.

In other words, I'm looking at you to take the lead and win her over. My role is to watch the dynamic unfold and get dirty with the two of you should we get that far. This means being very confident in your abilities to get a woman into bed!

We have tried this on a couple of occasions and unfortunately it hasn't turned out quite the way we expected. Therefore it has required a different approach, moving away from the contrived towards the more "pick up" approach, whereby it is more co-incidental than planned, and that, is the recipe for success right there. For her it is about the spontaneity of it, the idea that something could happen rather than must or will happen. If the pressure of expectation is removed, it is far more likely to happen than not to. I am sure you can see where this is going. In other words, it would be contrived between me (her husband) and you (her potential engagement) but not between her and you, and therefore by association me. I would fore arm you greatly with information and inside tidbits, give you as much ammunition as possible to get her into bed, but ultimately it would be up to you to "seal the deal" so to speak. If you are unable to, and she is unwilling, then no harm done and we go our separate ways. But trust me, she is very much worth it.

So what sort of man is likely to succeed on such a perilous mission you may be asking? Let me outline the criteria (which I know is massively advantageous in wooing her):

1. You must be older than her, or at least the same age. She is 43. Preferably not older than about 55. If you are in that region, it would be hugely beneficial if you were someone who took pride in both their physical appearance and the way you present yourself. She is a softy for a well dressed man who smells good and has some greying, that's a great start right there. She goes weak for a man who smells good.

2. Preferably Caucasian or Asian, whilst I am incredibly open minded, this is her preference and I have to respect that, unless you can present a compelling case or her to decide otherwise.

3. Have a venue. Or at least be willing to accommodate when necessary. If you don't have a venue or are unable to accommodate, to her this means you are involved/married/playing without consent etc. etc. Very aware this removes a lot of gents from being likely candidates. Unfortunately we are unable to accommodate as we a) live in a very nosy estate and b) live not far from her parents. The two a and b scenarios therefore tie into each other.

3. Facial hair that is well maintained is a massive boost for her. She absolutely loves a beard. Enough said.

4. Be taller than 6ft (I am 6ft1 and that's the standard she sets for herself). If you are around the 5ft10/5ft11 mark, we may get away with it!

5. We know that not everybody just sits around waiting for a booty call, we certainly don't. However, things take a fair amount of planning on our side to be able to be out for an evening/overnight, so if we/I do make an arrangement with you, please honour it or at the very least give sufficient notice that you will not be able to make it.

6. Confidence. It's a winner. She loves confident men. Not cheeky, or arrogant, but confident. And the ability to make her laugh and giggle. She loves the flirt. Adores the hunt, goes weak for the chase. Make her feel like the absolute centre of attention (as in don't sit on your phone or spray your eyes around the room), and you are more than halfway there. She loves a man with a glint in his eye and a cheeky smile, who can devour her with conversation and keep her hanging on your every word. She is sophisticated, be so too.

7. She doesn't like idle conversation, so don't discuss the weather, she'll up and leave. I've seen it happen! So it is real. Pique her interest, I'll give you the topics if you want.

8. Be courageous. This is going to take some brass cahonies to do, because not every man has the ability to randomly walk up to a woman when her husband is with her and begin the chase. So if you think you are up to it, then you know what to do. Again, she is worth it.

That's a fair amount of information to get you started. I can't plan this alone so will need some input from interested gentlemen. I am going to screen extremely closely, and if you do perhaps message and do not get a response, then it is most likely I have moved onto the next candidate. I am not passing my wife around like Smarties at a kid's convention, so will be extremely picky in who I do engage with. Depending on the gut feel I get, will depend on whether we move to or . Please understand that this is very much a massive thing for both her and I, and we would appreciate it if our/my preference as outlined above is respected.

So if any of the above resonates with you, and you feel you may have an amazing idea on how to execute this, then please do drop me a line. The idea is to organise and evening out and for you to then weave your magic as an accidental or co-incidental meeting. The framework for this will be fleshed out once you and I have agreed on an approach.

Please note, as outline above, there will be no response to anyone involved or married, playing with or without consent or looking for "daytime fun only". There will also be no engagement with anyone under the age of 40 (43 is the soft limit) or over the age of 55.

Looking forward to hearing from you.