We’re putting some ideas together to plan this during the next 6 weeks or so. Keep an eye out for details.

Nope. Just too much happening in the real world right now. Once we’ve decided how we’d like to move forward we’ll put it out here.

The other option is a lifestyle party at a closed venue. We’ve thought about this. Same rules obviously except you could only join if you were interested or in the lifestyle. So no secret onlookers could see the ad and identify people. Also a meet and greet with no pressure but there would be rooms for people to play if they clicked and probably some nudity. Which is not a bad thing …

The thinking behind Jock is because it’s busy. A group of people doesn’t really stand out and if anyone is uncomfortable they can just avoid the area. But any ideas are welcome. Our thinking was one of the “night spots” in town. Anyone welcome, limiting it seems pointless as anyone reading the ad would be able to go and identify the people anyway. But very clear rules. An approach and an introduction based on the “identifying” item. Absolutely no expectation besides a decent chat and no pressure. That applies to couples and singles as in our experience it’s not only singles who need reminding occasionally. Make some connections and go on with whatever you like.

Discretion is expected but honestly, if you’re terrified of being identified then you shouldn’t meet locally anyway. We’ve met more Nelspruit people at Jhb clubs than we have down here 😂. Not much you can do about this except throw caution to the wind.

Mabalel and similar venues sort of defeat the object of this idea. The intention is a no pressure, no expectation meet and greet. If people want to play they can move off to private accommodation. Meeting at a known play venue creates pressure that some people want to avoid. Once this meet is done more specific parties can be arranged between interested people.

We were wondering what the interest would be around an “undercover” meet and greet in Nelspruit? The plan we’re thinking about is any interested person, couple and/or single in the lifestyle all arrange to meet at a certain date and time at one of the pubs or venues in nelspruit, communicated by advert on here. You’d wear an identifying item so others would know you were part of the game, so to speak and would be welcome to approach, introduce and chat to others in the group. There’s so much secrecy going on here and fear about being recognized that meetings are a rarity. Thoughts?

Amsterdam has DTF parties most Sunday’s. Very nice venue, clean rooms, bar, pool etc. 

It would be great to get an answer to this. We're planning our first Friday night visit to a club and can't decide, Rome or Poizon for a Friday evening. Our plans are to watch and if we find a suitable guy maybe "retire" to one of the rooms. Most suitable club......?

Thanks. we'll look into it. Cheers. 

Hey all. 

My wife and I have decided to visit a club for the first time next Friday after Sexpo. 

We're not exactly new to this having had experiences before but  not at a club and we are not hardcore swingers yet. We'll only be looking to meet single men if anything does take place. 

We're undecided as to visit Rome or Pharoahs. Any advice considering what we're looking for? It looks like Rome is busy but some reviews aren't encouraging. Pharoahs all looks good but we can't get a feel for it off the web. 

Any advice would be appreciated, it'd be a shame to travel to Jhb and not have any fun. Cheers. 

Thanks guys. Appreciate the comments. Cheers.

We're a couple and have been on the site for nearly a year now, not very long, but long enough to learn a few things. I thought, in a bid to up our chances of success (along with other couples) I would post some pointers for singles, more specifically single males. So, for what it's worth, here goes.

Message us! If you like what you see just drop us a note, we're friendly and we're all on here for the same thing, well most of us at least.

On that note, we receive literally hundreds and hundreds of messages and we're very thankful for this. We try and at least respond to each one, to get a response don't send wink's or template messages. If you can't even take the time to type a message, how do I know you are serious? If you expect an answer, just type a quick note. We are not only evaluating your picture, but who you are and what sort of person you are, that starts with the message you send.

Pictures! C'mon guys, a message with no profile pic and a profile with no pics gets ignored. Remember, in our case at least, this is a fantasy. We want to know the guy we are meeting is at least what we are looking for. I very seldom answer messages or even look at profiles without pics, it seems a bit pointless. Cock pics by the way, useful once we have decided to meet, but generally a bit awkward to start a conversation out on. We appreciate that you really like your member and think we all need to see it immediately, but it's probably not necessary right off the bat. On that note, we're happy to share pics, if you are. Albums beget albums, it's a necessary evil unfortunately. We're really not interested in storing your pics on our PC and salivating over them at some point. We prefer tumblr porn anyway, we just like to know who we are talking to.

Please make sure your pictures are up to date and are actually of you. Fake pics, or pics taken 12 years ago when you had a six-pack might get you a meeting but I dunno hey, they aren't exactly an investment in future success are they? We had a guy with a fantastic profile pic and when we asked, he said no, it's not him, he uses it for privacy. Right then, see you later pal.

Please check your spelling, it looks so much better. And avoid using messages and shortcuts that my teenage son would use, it makes us wonder about you and just feels weird. I'm sure most women fantasize about younger men, but not 16 year olds, well hopefully.

When you send a message, give us something to work with. Finish with a question or something to respond to. A simple "Hi" is a bit difficult to engage with. Comment on the profile, say what you enjoy about it and leave with a question like "can we stay in touch".

Don't be weird. 11 messages in five minutes is weird. Begging, literally, to meet after one response is weird. Begging for more pictures is weird. Just be cool.

We understand that you're probably not on here to chat much, nether are we. However for us to decide if we want to meet you, or if you are the next Hannibal Lecter, we need to have some preliminary conversations. If you're interested, don't disappear, we get a lot of messages and it's easy to get "lost" in the mix, just stay in touch, we appreciate that and will respond in kind.

Generally, certainly in our case, you're talking to the husband initially. Some things don't work, like "can I f*ck you" as an opening line. Well maybe you can, but not right off the bat like that. Also sending messages to us thinking it's my wife, asking to meet privately and separately from me, well that's going to be a quick blocking of your profile.

From my point of view, we are allowing you access into our deepest personal and physical space. Not to sound arrogant but this is a privilege, treat it as such. Show us both respect, read our profile, figure out what we're looking for and if you match that, then drop us a note, we'll treat you the same way and if we click, we'll gladly meet up for fun times.

Good luck guys, here's to many successful hook ups.