Look, this is a contentious topic, but in all fairness, there are reasons for single men having the reputation they have. We can point to the odd example of manners, understanding the lifestyle, reliability, and honesty from many single male profiles on the site, but alas, they are massively outnumbered by the blue balled, brandy addled, gormless and rude orangutang that represents the average single male profile on this site.

The vast majority of single men on this site are hormonal dickheads that can't tell the difference between porno plots and real life. They apparently really believe that every woman on this site is sitting around at home in lingerie, waiting for them to drop a pic of their Johnson with "Hi", or if they are highly articulate, "Hey, wanna bang?" in their inbox.

Fortunately these profiles lose interest (Unless they are unusually persistent dipshits) after a few tries, but sadly, as one drifts off into disillusioned oblivion, two or three new ones join.

It has taken me years to establish a semblance of a reputation on this site, and there are a few members with whom I play regularly (m, f, and couples), but outside of that I still get at least one block a week for just breathing. The simple truth is, single men are the bottom of the food chain in the lifestyle. It's not anyone's fault, even if one could magically get rid of the dick-pic-brigade, we'd still be the swinging equivalent of chopped liver....

Sadly, I can't argue with that. It makes me sad, but 99% of the single guys on here give the rest of us a bad name...

Like what the actual fucking fuck? It's not like the image of a toilet with the lid up is even remotely sexy... No, miss me with that bullshit...

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Upside down pineapple stickers from Temu?

Right way up pineapple stickers may be cheaper, just stick them on upside down...

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If you take time with your lady and make sure she orgasm 1,2,3 or how many times before you stick it in you dont have to last FOREVER.. Use your brain, mouth, hands,toys before you use your dicks...

Absolute wisdom - your most effective sex organ is your brain

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Is this like men wearing an earring in the 90s? If i wear it on the right/left will it make a difference in who I attract ? 😅

Something like that...

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I always thought it was an anklet.... I bought all kinds of different designs only to never be approached 🤣🙊

Anklet is a valid way of signalling your status as a swinger/vixen/hotwife. Not being approached would have much more to do with those who recognise the signal being overly cautious. One can't be sure that an anklet wearing hottie, such as yourself, isn't a vanilla mommy that just thought it was pretty...

The Rec Room is a gents only venue, but it's packed with glory holes, fuck nooks of different sizes and shit, and even some really adventurous group play areas. You won't be able to take your lady tho

Yes

I've never understood the strategy of sending ladies and/or couples a dick pick as a conversation starter.

What immediately comes to mind is that every guy has one, so right off the bat you're not differentiating yourself from others on that front. Also, unless you have outlier-type length or girth, you are not going to set yourself apart from the others either - unless you are on the small side, and that you don't want to advertise anyway.

Come to think of it, having a super large or thick tool may set you apart, but it may just count against you as the larger members can be uncomfortable and even painful for the ladies - and the husband may feel he's not willing to have the comparison made….

Furthermore, the visuals just aren't what gets the ladies going (not like us guys, show us a pair of titties and we're switched on immediately). Wit, charm, manners, conversation, those things need to land first, then she'd be happy to see the goods (and she'll let you know).

Frankly, if you're expecting her to get wet and horny from seeing a pic of your probably-average dick, you're really expecting a typically-male sexual response, and that, I'm sure many would agree, sounds just a little bit... gay?….

I've never understood the strategy of sending ladies and/or couples a dick

pick as a conversation starter.

What immediately comes to mind is that every guy has one, so right off the

bat you're not differentiating yourself from others on that front. Also,

unless you have outlier-type length or girth, you are not going to set

yourself apart from the others either - unless you are on the small side,

and that you don't want to advertise anyway.

Come to think of it, having a super large or thick tool may set you apart,

but it may just count against you as the larger members can be

uncomfortable and even painful for the ladies - and the husband may feel

he's not willing to have the comparison made….

Furthermore, the visuals just aren't what gets the ladies going (not like

us guys, show us a pair of titties and we're switched on immediately).

Wit, charm, manners, conversation, those things need to land first, then

she'd be happy to see the goods (and she'll let you know). Frankly, if

you're expecting her to get wet and horny from seeing a pic of your

probably-average dick, you're really expecting a typically-male sexual

response, and that, I'm sure many would agree, sounds just a little bit

gay….

My ears are cold, may I warm them with your thighs?

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Our experience is that most of the guys who say they are bi-curious are actually only interested in MMF, not a MM bi experience because they are "curious". The curiosity, it seems, is the clickbait for a threesome.

Easy way to solve this - audition them, if they aren't willing to suck hubby off for the lady's entertainment, move on

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Pineapple is actually more the swingers sign. Perhaps a necklace, keyring, on your handbag somewhere, etc..

A colleague brought a lunch box covered in pineapples to work the other day, but didn't catch on when I asked her if any of them were upside down.

"Long and thin goes right in, short and thick does the trick"

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Fuck me, this is hot!

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Love my wife in her stocking with short skirt when we out and I get to rub her ass and legs

Fuck me, that's hot! Please give your lady a rub especially from the bearded one!

Depends on the gathering. Ground rules are usually discussed before fun stuff starts happening

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I would love my husband to watch me ..tried many ways to persuade him but he always backs out at last minute

A crying shame...

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Wife has played with her vibrator while I drive and has had her boobs out we love being naughty in the car but we would love to see someone in traffic do it

I express my appreciation on behalf of all bikers - it is most rewarding to be presented with a sight like this on a ride. Thank you.

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Seems you’re the only one with a voice at the moment loud enough to hear right now but take my word on it, many men here wear stockings for their own pleasure and even more wear them when told to and they are often surprised at how much they enjoy it. 😏 might I suggest you Join Fetlife. Perhaps you will find your people there. Message me and I’ll give you my name there. You’ll find some on my friends list.

You’re not alone 😊

I'm with Kitty on this one, this is 90% swinger 10% kink site, Fetlife is 100% kink/fetish. You will find the SH locals that have interesting kinks and quirks on there, and obviously they will be way more open to discussing their kinks there. Why don't you post on your status that any friends and followers that are on Fetlife should look you up on there?

I think it is totally hot, by the way, guys in feminine undies and stockings, I like my boys wrapped pretty...

Without doubt

I have the same experience

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No, bi guys are fully bi, orally bi guys like me asmre orally bi, not into anal with other guys.

Sir, please contemplate the concept of sarcasm and then read my post again....

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Hi anyone going to the sexpo jhb this weekend

You guys think it will be fun this year

I am kinda bummed for not being able to go, I was really looking forward to it.

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Wouldn't it be great if there was separate options for Bi and Orally Bi when setting your sexual preferences? I am orally bi, in other words, I dont mind sucking off guys, but I an not fully bi, so dont do anal with guys (giving & receiving). I do preffer the ladies though.

Just a thought!

Bi guys are bi, "Orraly Bi" guys just say they are? Just a thought...

Does anyone know what the swinger situation is like in Las Vegas? I am going there for a conference in Dec, and would like to explore in the evenings.

Thank you

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As a single male I see this a lot, someone views your profile and when you want to view it back you find that you are blocked

This is a regular thing for me too

As a screaming queen chef I used to work with used to say: "Long and thin goes right in, short and thick does the trick"