I've never understood the strategy of sending ladies and/or couples a dick pick as a conversation starter.

What immediately comes to mind is that every guy has one, so right off the bat you're not differentiating yourself from others on that front. Also, unless you have outlier-type length or girth, you are not going to set yourself apart from the others either - unless you are on the small side, and that you don't want to advertise anyway.

Come to think of it, having a super large or thick tool may set you apart, but it may just count against you as the larger members can be uncomfortable and even painful for the ladies - and the husband may feel he's not willing to have the comparison made….

Furthermore, the visuals just aren't what gets the ladies going (not like us guys, show us a pair of titties and we're switched on immediately). Wit, charm, manners, conversation, those things need to land first, then she'd be happy to see the goods (and she'll let you know).

Frankly, if you're expecting her to get wet and horny from seeing a pic of your probably-average dick, you're really expecting a typically-male sexual response, and that, I'm sure many would agree, sounds just a little bit... gay?….

I've never understood the strategy of sending ladies and/or couples a dick

pick as a conversation starter.

What immediately comes to mind is that every guy has one, so right off the

bat you're not differentiating yourself from others on that front. Also,

unless you have outlier-type length or girth, you are not going to set

yourself apart from the others either - unless you are on the small side,

and that you don't want to advertise anyway.

Come to think of it, having a super large or thick tool may set you apart,

but it may just count against you as the larger members can be

uncomfortable and even painful for the ladies - and the husband may feel

he's not willing to have the comparison made….

Furthermore, the visuals just aren't what gets the ladies going (not like

us guys, show us a pair of titties and we're switched on immediately).

Wit, charm, manners, conversation, those things need to land first, then

she'd be happy to see the goods (and she'll let you know). Frankly, if

you're expecting her to get wet and horny from seeing a pic of your

probably-average dick, you're really expecting a typically-male sexual

response, and that, I'm sure many would agree, sounds just a little bit

gay….

My ears are cold, may I warm them with your thighs?

Quote by BeeCeeCpt

Our experience is that most of the guys who say they are bi-curious are actually only interested in MMF, not a MM bi experience because they are "curious". The curiosity, it seems, is the clickbait for a threesome.

Easy way to solve this - audition them, if they aren't willing to suck hubby off for the lady's entertainment, move on

Quote by Sweet6969

Pineapple is actually more the swingers sign. Perhaps a necklace, keyring, on your handbag somewhere, etc..

A colleague brought a lunch box covered in pineapples to work the other day, but didn't catch on when I asked her if any of them were upside down.

"Long and thin goes right in, short and thick does the trick"

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Fuck me, this is hot!

Quote by Hottiewife

Love my wife in her stocking with short skirt when we out and I get to rub her ass and legs

Fuck me, that's hot! Please give your lady a rub especially from the bearded one!

Depends on the gathering. Ground rules are usually discussed before fun stuff starts happening

Quote by Powercouple1

I would love my husband to watch me ..tried many ways to persuade him but he always backs out at last minute

A crying shame...

Quote by fadnad

Wife has played with her vibrator while I drive and has had her boobs out we love being naughty in the car but we would love to see someone in traffic do it

I express my appreciation on behalf of all bikers - it is most rewarding to be presented with a sight like this on a ride. Thank you.

Quote by BrattyKitty

Seems you’re the only one with a voice at the moment loud enough to hear right now but take my word on it, many men here wear stockings for their own pleasure and even more wear them when told to and they are often surprised at how much they enjoy it. 😏 might I suggest you Join Fetlife. Perhaps you will find your people there. Message me and I’ll give you my name there. You’ll find some on my friends list.

You’re not alone 😊

I'm with Kitty on this one, this is 90% swinger 10% kink site, Fetlife is 100% kink/fetish. You will find the SH locals that have interesting kinks and quirks on there, and obviously they will be way more open to discussing their kinks there. Why don't you post on your status that any friends and followers that are on Fetlife should look you up on there?

I think it is totally hot, by the way, guys in feminine undies and stockings, I like my boys wrapped pretty...

Without doubt

I have the same experience

Quote by xamza

No, bi guys are fully bi, orally bi guys like me asmre orally bi, not into anal with other guys.

Sir, please contemplate the concept of sarcasm and then read my post again....

Quote by fadnad

Hi anyone going to the sexpo jhb this weekend

You guys think it will be fun this year

I am kinda bummed for not being able to go, I was really looking forward to it.

Quote by xamza

Wouldn't it be great if there was separate options for Bi and Orally Bi when setting your sexual preferences? I am orally bi, in other words, I dont mind sucking off guys, but I an not fully bi, so dont do anal with guys (giving & receiving). I do preffer the ladies though.

Just a thought!

Bi guys are bi, "Orraly Bi" guys just say they are? Just a thought...

Does anyone know what the swinger situation is like in Las Vegas? I am going there for a conference in Dec, and would like to explore in the evenings.

Thank you

Quote by Slowvelder69

As a single male I see this a lot, someone views your profile and when you want to view it back you find that you are blocked

This is a regular thing for me too

As a screaming queen chef I used to work with used to say: "Long and thin goes right in, short and thick does the trick"

Bump... Please DM me if you know of someone

I am looking to transition my look from very dad-bod to ripped grandpa, and would love some recommendations for a personal trainer to help me with a programme and regular check ins.

Trainer must be male, for reasons of domestic politics, but if they are bi or straight-passing gay I would not mind.

Also, Southern Gauteng is preferred.

Any public waking happening in the Vaal?

Quote by Stiffy27

My rant is why block a profile then like an arsehole open and check it out you are either interested or not so make up your mind

I know, right - I had a couple that blocked me because I was playing without consent, but every weekend they would unblock me, poke around my media, even dropping a like or two, and block me again

I saw this Gen X age range couple at Fetish Haven on the 13th of June, Afrikaans, husband is tall and ruggedly good looking, and the wife is an elegant, gorgeous blonde who was wearing a red blazer.

If you are on this platform, please DM me.

Quote by nys1

Mag ek nooit so vas slaap nie🙄🙄

Ek dink dis meer oor die lekker wakker word...

Hot as fuck, but consent is key

I've been to one before, you should have seen the girls face when she realised everyone came....

Quote by Katznbunnies

For the people asking why single guys get such a rough time....

I give you exhibit "A"🙄

I see what you did there - Exhibit "A", awesome