Hehehe. I have a cousin and the two of us, me and him, got very close to doing the naughty many many many moons ago when we were teenagers. Hubby knows about this. Now, we, hubby and I are looking to play together as a couple for the first time. Our story is on another thread and we have often laughed and said that maybe we should aproach him and his wife, but she is such an old prude. LOLOL. Like they say in Afrikaans...... 'n regte kloosterkoek.
My first post on the forum, thanks to Pussinboots, LOL.
OK, where to start with our view on this. I voted "yes" on behalf of hubby, because I do not really know how to sort of classify us. Maybe we call our "situation" consenting cheating.
This is why and how it happened.
We have been married for almost 35 years now and we got married at a young age and no, it was not because I was pregnant, hehehe. Our eldest was born almost 2years after we got married. Hubby just turned 21 and I just turned 23 when whe got married. We had never been with anybody else before and hubby took my virginity. Of course, as years went by I started wondering what it would have been with someone else, and one day asked him if he had ever thought about the same thing. I still don't know if I was really surprised when he said of course he did. That was how we started discussing the topic. That was about 10-12 years ago, I think.
We were both playing around on the internet and obviously went onto certain sites, etc and used to watch and have a bit if a laugh as well. We read many stories together but for the first few months never really gave any thought really. It remaind a fantasy. I cannot really remember which one of us made the first "move".
We decided that swinging was a bit of a challenge because we both felt that we would be very uncomfortable seeing one having sex with someone else. I then said that if he ever got the chance to experience sex with another woman, I would not mind, but I would wan know about it. I could not believe that I actaully got it out at the time. LOL.
I also do not know if I was really surprised when he said the same. So that planted the seed. We started surfing on swinging and dating sites. We have agreed that it would have been best if the other party is aslo married. We were very concerned about getting involved with people who might want to come with all kinds of expectations, etc, afterwards.
I was the first who had the opportunity to actually meet up with somebody. We were went for lunch and had a long discussion and we decided that we would "go for it" so to speak. The idea was to find a venue for an "encounter". When push came to shove, however, I got cold feet and pulled out of the next meeting. Maybe it was because hubby have not yet met somebody in person. I don't know. At this point I need to say that we were both chatting to a few people.
Hubby then met someone as well and they set up a meeting. They apparently clicked immediatelyand thet met up again and he had his first ever sexual experience with someone else. It was a huge turn-on for me and we agreed that he would not have been comfortable with me witnessing it and I would not have wanted to see it happening but we were both very excited. I was horny as hell that evening and I was very turned on by the idea that the same cock that was inside me, was inside another woman, earlier that day.
i had another opportunity within the next few days and this time, I did not pull out if the second meeting either. I also had my first encounter with someone else. We had a few such encounters each, and we now each have a very special friend with benefits and with no strings attached, but we have still not had the experience of being with another couple, as a couple, or even having a third person invloved.
Having said that, we have both come to realise that we could bee ready for that now. We just need to find the right person/s. We have met a few couples but we have yet to find a couple were we both clicked with both of them. Maybe some day soon.
