Hi all
i am new here been on the site now for a few months. I have some questions.
How did you as a married couple decide to start swinging, who asked first and what was husband or wifes reaction??
Does it improve your sex life?? do you guys ever have issues. I know a marraige must be very strong for this type of relation ship.
I am bi and like to play with guys as well, the wife is very shy and bitting on the swinging thing. I dont mind her beign with another guy its actually a turn on for me.
so guys give me advice on how to get her interested in it. I was thinking of taking her to a party and just going to see what happens and how it is
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so guys give me advice on how to get her interested in it. I was thinking of taking her to a party and just going to see what happens and how it is
Your questions are clear enough to inspire lots of responses - but I find that when you do get the odd response
you have this feeling that something is not yet ..... clear!!? You know what I mean?I'm in no position to give advice ........ but hey! Life always need leaders that are inspiring ... "don't always moan not getting things right, but just go out and fuck the cheerleader!" by Sean Connery (from the movie Alcatraz)
So take her to a party and come and share the story with us - you'll see you have a following that'll cheer you on!!
Quote by Gerrie2012If you want to swing for you personally and not for you as a couple, don't. Never, never bully someone into anything they are not keen on. And yes, thousands will "cheer you on", but that doesn't guarantee that the "you" will still be a happy couple...
So take her to a party and come and share the story with us - you'll see you have a following that'll cheer you on!!
And, should she agree and then decide she want nothing to do with it, what will you do??
What will you class yourself as:-
1. Swinger with spouse's consent (could be confirmed with spouse in person), or
2. Cheating husband.
Major difference in the swinging community...!!
Trust me, those eager to "cheer you on" will not even squeak when things go horribly wrong.
Ps. You may find it a turn-on to visualize her with another man, but the reality is something completely different. How will you react if she actually starts to enjoy the other men more than you. Women don't "make the rules", they are just the bait...
Playfully peeking through the door is one thing, stepping through it is a one-way ticket. If both of you are not on the same bus, you are sure as hell not going to reach the same destination...!! Check out my post (So you want to be a swinger) before you step through this door.
I agree, his is a very dangerous ground to be on. My wife had always had a thing for one of my buddies. I suggested we try the 3sum thing the first time. I have to be honest, the first couple of minutes, was weird as hell. But I have to say I enjoyed it tremendously, and my wife also.
A few months later we had another 3sum with another friend of ours. Huge success! However when I suggested we try swinging, it all totally bombed out for us. My wife didn't want to try the swinging life and also no longer wanted to go ahead with anything else. The mere question of introducing another female into the picture, had totally freaked her out. To such an extend that we went from having a perfectly satisfying sex life, to awesome 3some sex parties, to where we are now, maybe once a month.
To the guys out there, wanting to start, please take this dumbass's advice, and make shure your wife knows you, your intentions, and most importantly, that she's the only person you will ever love. Before you attempt anything.
