We also had a few "blind dates" which did not go according to plan.
There can't be anything worse than being in the situation where it's too late to turn back.
We have subsequently decided that we would meet our new friends over coffee or drinks in a public place, but where we can talk without being overheard. The very first issue is physical appearance/attraction. If we cross that little hurdle we lay down the do's, dont's, likes and dislikes so that there is no misunderstanding when we do get together to fuck.
Who's bi and who's straight? Who likes or dislikes anal? And so on.................. No means no, and yes means OH FUCK, YES PLEASE!! If there is any discomfort whatsoever, it must be verbalised and there should be no ill feelings at all. Oh ya, and the women are the boss!
At the very outset we explain clearly that we buried the jelousy animal a long time ago, and we are certainly not going to interfere with anyone's marriage. If that aspect rears its ugly head we cut ties immediately.
But the most important thing, we discovered, is whether we LIKE the couple. Would we be able spend time chatting and enjoying intelligent conversation? It often goes BEYOND the physical. We also make it abundantly clear that we both trust one another implicitly and are completely honest with one another. On the way home we discuss our experiences in detail with each other, with the big question: Would we "do" them again? Are they keepers and long term friends?
I'm sure that there are a number of contributers to this forum who are itching to share their experiences of guys who just could not perform when the time comes to do the necessary. It's happened to all of us at one time or another.
But jealousy has no place in the swinging lifestyle!!!!!
Rock on, swingers!!