Identify swingers in public

Quote by 24SensuallyFunCpl

I think the things that could become fashionable in a sense (pineapples, toe rings, and/or black rings) become diluted by the general public, so it doesnt give someone that wants to approach a clear enough sign. What we like about other ideas that require effort (albeit very minimal) is that people will have to go out of their way to show this, but vanillas wont be doing it - helping those that want to approach by being able to do it with confidence.

So, from now on, we are going to be drinking with two straws in one drink, draping our napkins/serviettes over either the back of our chairs, or folding them over the corner of our tables.

We will do it specifically at the Local Kitchen Co/Fu Bar at Fourways Golf Place in Jhb in an attempt to make this a generally known concept in South Africa. Disclaimer: we dont go all too often, but hopefully we wont be the only ones buying into this concept and we can build a bit of a community. Feel free to mention other restaurants that you would like to do this at

I think mrs and I will make a turn there and look for this ;-)

On another note, seeing as how common the black ring is (specifically the amount of people wearing black silicone rings, why not adjust the colour? A yellow (pineapple colour) silicone ring. Just a thought.

In Pretoria - Bossa atterbury, The Goat&Co at The Village, Stoetbul Olympus 😘

Seen a sign which is a red circle with a black tumbler-like outline (meant to resemble a swing) inside the circle. Upside down pineapple is the other one.

Black rings is it still a thing for Swingers ?

What are other ways or trends for swingers to recognize one another ?

I will listen on the radio 👂🏾

Yeah the serviette idea is cleaver and has potential. I have met couples through my sports club and other vanilla environments where after chatting and laughing, we say good by, and she, while walking away, turns back to me and blows me a kiss with her hand. If that is not a good sign of a potentially swinging couple......besides a boost to ones ego!😇

Wow. All very interesting. Had no idea this was happening. Will have to open my eyes a bit more😜

So here is the thing. If you did see something in public that made you think a couple were swingers, would you actually feel it was okay to ask them directly?

I have a sticker of an upside down pineapple on my phone, easy to publicise in a public place, just leave the phone face down on the table :-) No approaches so far yet, but then agan, just recently started to do this form of recognition.

Quote by Keen269

I have a sticker of an upside down pineapple on my phone, easy to publicise in a public place, just leave the phone face down on the table :-) No approaches so far yet, but then agan, just recently started to do this form of recognition.

You have to check your phone is facing the right way, for you it might be upside down and for others the right way up, modern day swinging challenges.

Quote by Keen269

I have a sticker of an upside down pineapple on my phone, easy to publicise in a public place, just leave the phone face down on the table :-) No approaches so far yet, but then agan, just recently started to do this form of recognition.

That's a great idea!