We are open minded, love flirting and have come to realise that the sexual act, even when shared with others, remain sacrilege and special. Low level cheapskate approaches does not crack it for us, contrary to popular uninformed belief that the 'swinging scene' does away with all moral standards. It is not an easy way to get laid, if you cannot crack it outside the lifestyle you won't crack it under the auspices of 'swinging'.
We've had more 3 some experiences than couple experiences for the simple reason that matching four people's expectations and likes are more complicated than matching those of three people.
Couple experiences are ideal if both couples are secure in their relationships and no one idividual has ulterior motives. The 'bad apple' between the four inevitably gets exposed with disastrous concequence to the fun factor of the other three individuals. 'Taking one for the team', that is one partner of the couple agreeing to play against her/his will to please his/her partner always ends in disaster and waisted candles, time and good food.
Well, that is what we learnt from playing the game for 10 years, we are here to have fun, no more and no less!
(You may believe the photos we post, he's a professional photographer and will die before abusing someone else's copyright 
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