Chatting on the Site.

There is something happening lately that is starting to annoy us more and more.

We get loads of messages every day and we just don't have the time or energy to reply to every single message every day, but we do take the time to go through the messages and reply to those that get our attention.

Now here is where the problem starts.

Why send someone a message asking it we would like to chat and so on and if we reply, just nothing ever again. Is this being done just to waste other people's time.

Sometimes we get contacted and a chat starts, if you ask us a question we take the time to type out a detailed reply, and then get back a 1, 2 or 3 line answer with another question, and so the entire conversation goes. Now you know almost everything about you, but we still don't know anything about you.

The same comes to sharing of private photos, if we chat and you ask us if we don’t mind sharing our pvt folders we share some face pics as well, but when they share their pvt folders with you back, they share everything except their face photos, but want to continue the chat. are you hiding something?

Sometimes we get contacted, complemented on our profile and asked it we would like to chat and so on and we will chat and bit and then they will just stop. then month later the same couple will engage us again forgetting all about the previous time, like it is the first time they came across your profile.

Can someone please explain this to us, it is starting to happen more and more and it is annoying.

Its not only you guys it happen that they are interested share some private albums and dont talk again like you said a month or 2 later and the conversations starts all over again we had it with couples who are very interested in meeting just having socials they even send us there nice party area and and that happen couple of times even ask for our phone number you start to chat even on whats upp but it end up on dead chat anyway again there is lots of couples profiles on here that do this some of them ask your number and they never contact you and next time they start to chat again and again 

We think some of them dont whant to do socialise in the life style they to scare in taking that first step or at all or maybe just perving over and over just the man on the other side and the wife dont know anything about it but yes you guys are not the only one,s its very frustrating most of this guys that do this are not real swingers in our opinion because we do effort to meet people and respet the time of a couple or person they put in life is busy we dont have time for this bs 

We are at a point now where we are pushy on purpose, to see who who wants to meet and who just want to play games.

We are here to meet people and have fun, but it seem theses days there are more people on the site that is here for different reasons and they just end up wasting other people's time by miss leading them and not being honest. 

We also the same and not so positive about the people on this site anymore we do know couples that are real on here but to meet new ones on here its realy far fetched this days and we dont have time to waste life is so busy but we will still try but those ones that only chat and chat no meet we are going to block them ans also add to the list 

It is not all bad, we have met amazing people here, with whom we have stacks of fun with.

But like you said as well the majority just waste your time.

We are at the point, if you are not available or willing to meet within the first 2 week of making contact, even just for a quick meet and greet coffee. We are no longer interested.

Good idea to go with this if you cant at least have a quik meet and greet just a coffee in about 2 weeks time drop it all and let go 

I have an explanation so for some it’s a numbers game sending out likes messages trying to be respectful honest and attractive you eventually send out so many and when you get a response half the time it’s long after you initially sent the message. Then you get your response as if to say ok I will give you a try and by then we have moved on and forgotten about why we found you attractive in the first place. So here is what you do reply promptly because no one is that busy be polite straight forward and most of all genuine don’t contradict yourself by saying not looking for anything serious then asking for a persons IF number be genuine because not everyone is as cool or has that much attention most are new to the lifestyle. I’m just saying. Whew 😥 I that’s how I felt. Anyway life’s too short C’est La Vie 😁👍🏽

I have also experienced similar. Couples contact me and we exchanged information including pictures, phone numbers and sometimes the conversation goes off-site and suddenly everything goes dead silent. No response at all. 

I've even met couples who then wanted to arrange some play time before once again ghosting. I don't believe it's due to first-timers shock because i see these same couples placing adverts here after going silent. 

I usually send at most 2 messages to see if they are still interested and then move on.

I have noticed that it's usually people who approach me that are more likely to pull a disappearing act. 

No man I want to fuck

You assuming all the msgs actually go through. Had it happen a few times msgs sent by friends we know off the website have never been received in our SH inbox.

We've had old msgs suddenly pop up weeks after originally sent, still showing as unread, but never a notification of a msg was received and msg not there the day before when were msging others.