Why are we still being hypocritical about interracial?

It is very obvious that we like interracial sex and we have no problem if you are not into it, but what irritates me is people that clearly state on their profiles that they only play with members of the same race, that contact us and want to "join" us on our next interracial experience... Now, we have no problem helping others ease into the interracial scene, but for heaven's sake, if you are "same race only" on your profile, please stick yo your own preference or at least update your profile... 

it is a bit silly isnt it ..but why let it bother just part of the sifting process...sh is not real....for many people its just fantasy..perhaps in there case its about getting the invite not about attending....

Firstly interracial isn't a thing other than skin colour. We all have the same parts physically, albeit in varying proportions and we all have the same emotion. 

I have never been one to let the person skin colour dictate, it's always been about the chemistry. 

If I am attracted to the person and we have great chemistry then all good. But I will never not give somebody the opportunity to engage purely based on the colour of their skin. Having said that it's seems as if there is some about it which I don't really understand. 

I have often had the thought that if a profile has an issue with inter-racial and it is stated on their profile, how do they feel about playing with couples of their own race preference and that couple in question has no issue with race or crossed the line so to speak.   Kind of like the enemy of my enemy scenario.  Lol, I am not even sure I said this right. 

So be kind in your responses. 

Yeah even so many couples have it on their profiles but once you engage they don't really have a problem. 

Or they would open to Indian folk but not black or vice versa. My thing is there are beautiful and ugly people in every race. So yeah....... 

So true @Amethyst.

So we came to the conclusion that if you keep to your own race you are missing out on the thousands of other beautiful stunning people. In any way it is so much more erotic and sexy if you just open your mind and enjoy so much more different cultures. We are very fortunate to say that we are very much part of the real rainbow nation swingers

Pours Kimwild2 a tequila....cheers 🍻

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So we came to the conclusion that if you keep to your own race you are missing out on the thousands of other beautiful stunning people. In any way it is so much more erotic and sexy if you just open your mind and enjoy so much more different cultures. We are very fortunate to say that we are very much part of the real rainbow nation swingers

 Well said

On that point maybe site admin should add a tick box for it. It becomes really frustrating opening up profiles, reading them and then 9 out of 10 people have an issue. Tick box will filter all of those out. 

Our choice our bodies our lives getting pissed off about it is not going change anyone's mind

@Annabel. Not trying to change your mind... All I am saying is, if you say it is your preference, please dont contact me then.

Why would i want to if you not what we here for ?

Whatever criteria you use to choose playmates you untitled to same as us everyone has different tastes. 

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Our choice our bodies our lives getting pissed off about it is not going change anyone's mind

 Nobody is getting pissed off. The title is being hypocritical meaning people's profile say they not into it but then they contact those people. 

Secondly that's fine if you do, it's your choice then own it. Its a form of discrimination and it's definitely not the same as sexual orientation. 

When it comes to my body i am entitled to discriminate if you want to put it that way. Who and what i do is my choice as is who and what you do. 

we all have the right to play with or not to play with we who we like....i just dont see what the big deal is looking at others profile...we look at many especially when when we bored hahahahaha....as said before there are many people here from all sorts of life....not all share the same values....just move on if things are not to your liking.. 

This race or interracial matter won't gp away any time soon. All points being put up are fair and honest. My slice of bread will not be buttered on both dide. I gues it goes with one is looking for. Mine is 100% buttered both sides aidesand i like it that way aedeiedeas

Most of you guys missed the point. The point being that if your profile says that you do not cross the racial line then stop looking at our profile over and over again and even makes comments on how you like this and like that. That is the only point being made here. 

The writer of the post never criticize people for having preferences. He want to bring across the point that those people should not be hypocritical. 

Quote by Freshman
Most of you guys missed the point. The point being that if your profile says that you do not cross the racial line then stop looking at our profile over and over again and even makes comments on how you like this and like that. That is the only point being made here. 
The writer of the post never criticize people for having preferences. He want to bring across the point that those people should not be hypocritical. 

 Thank you! At least someone is catching my drift...

I also cannot understand the Race thing, it is so unnatural firstly we are all human race, secondly we all love tasting different cuisine and why  tasting different type of people too??? As long as a person is decent, hygienic, have a good personality and there is some degree of physical attraction then why not?

Having gone through numerous profile on this site, i think is it obvious that many here have a serious phobia towards interracial encounters, feel sorry for them as they did not understand life and the swinging lifestyle 

Synergy

You have said it very well. Until we learn to see each other as human beings,i guess some of ua won't change anytime soon.

You guys must a good company to make friends with and i would love to join that list.😋

The one thing I learnt  from to kill a mocking bird and Atticus Finch was never judge a man until you walk a mile in their shoes. We all know where we came from as a nation, but what we seldom realise is that we are all victims of the then  governments policies. Yes even those people who "choose" not to socialise with people who are different than them. I place choose in inverted comma's because that choice is based on how they where raised, and we all know where we come from as a nation. For many people ( it may sound strange ) SH is the first time they have interacted on a meaningful level with people of  other cultures or sexual preference.  I have played with people who have had the race line issue on their profile and when I asked about it they said it was put there when they joined the site and over time they realised  there where more important things like respect , discretion and  hygiene and that the colour of someones  skin is no guarantee that someone will be compatible. It helped that they met someone of a different culture that had the same sense of humour and or hobbies etc. It gives you something to talk about over a braai or bottle of tequila. I read on a profile once " we are not ready to try interracial play" and I was impressed these guys are as the kids say "woke". So in saying this there are profiles that offend me by how they state their preferences but I just give those a skip. And to those that have become woke yes they should update their profiles, celebrate your wokeness. And to the rest your choice will always be respected and if my choice to attempt to chat or engage offends you please feel free to block me , no offence will be taken.

I really believe that this has got nothing to do with race but everything to do with sexual preference. One can interact and socialise with all humans as you all seem to put it. But sharing my body with whom i choose is my own personal choice. Some choose not to be bisexual some choose not to be gay or lesbian some refuse to do anal and some refuse to give blow jobs, are they also categorised because of their choices. I discriminate against all races when it come to choosing playmates. If you want us, it takes more than a wink, more than a drink and more than you think.

It would be interesting to hear from the LBGT community if they feel their sexual orientation is a choice .

Mr Redbruce Sir, 

I hereby request this thread gets locked. 

Why are we afraid someone is trying to break in 🤔

I hate to be a party poopper but SDM was one of the reasons that I stopped contributing to the forum also. 

The whole point behind fora is that it is a platform whereby we as adults can engage in an intellectual manner to be able to debate. It's a conversation whereby we are able to air views without prejudice.

saying that you have to agree with my views or anybodys for that matter but atleast be open minded enough to reason and listen to what is being said. 

It's that narrow mindedness whereby we cannot tolerate the views of others and being open minded enough to understand the point that is being made. 

Amethyst,

Whatever I said or did not say in previous years that influenced you to stop contributing to the forum, I assure you was not intentional, and was as you said above, my own personal views

And I apologize in advance to the mods for what follows:

However, the reason for my suggestion that this be closed is exactly that, I CANNOT express my views and or experiences in this particular topic because comments like "previous government" and "the way we were raised" are simply bullshit. People (me included) make our own choices. I like many others have been on both sides of the issues in this country related to race. 

I like most others gave varying opinions on varying things, preferences on various things . . .  yet the only one I constantly get challenged on is the one in this forum. 

The other day in the Gym I was talking to a couple of guys (yes their complexion was different to mine) and one guy said, "I am sick of the transformation story all the time, he added, one cannot expect transformation until one is transformed themselves. 

Just because some people don't want to have sex with people of a different skin tone , does not make them prejudiced, racist, close minded, stupid or anything else that they get accused of!  

Forums may be a platform to discuss topics, but only a select few can say what they feel or have experienced. 

The underlying suggestion that members who choose to to interact with the same ethnicity as themslevs are racist is in itself offensive.