Since I've been organizing this party, a lot of people have private messaged me asking what its about? When they get there can they have sex with me? Will everybody be having sex all over when they walk in? Single women are worried they'll be forced, males think that who ever is there will have to give it up. Others are asking why are we allowing swim suits, everyone should be naked.
When you first heard about swingers parties what were your thoughts? When and if you were invited to one, were you afraid? What was your experience like when you got to go to one?
My first experience was at a club, I went with a guy friend. I was nervous as hell, I thought that it was gonna be one huge warehouse looking place and everyone would be going at it lol. Again me watching movies like "eyes wide shut" didn't help lol.
I was uncomfy because we were told we had to be naked in the jacuzzi, felt weird cause everyone else was naked. But I met a lot of cool people that night and my second time was better.
I have to agree that most have the wrong impression when attending their first party. Yes, playtime is very likely at your first party, but it is not a prerequisite. If you are expecting sex on arrival, dogging is surely more of what you are looking for (not that I am saying there is anything wrong with that). The critical word here is choice and choice is such a beautiful word in the lifestyle. You should not be forced to do anything.
I remember my *first time ever* it was very very scary although I knew the *rules* and I had someone who was a regular there.
The hosts were very friendly and explained everything to me.
I am sure if you send out a little mail to everyone who is going to go, with the *rules* and the lay out of the venue, and what they must bring with...they will feel more and then of course when you receive the at the door..have a few people help with the orientation...they will soon feel relaxed enough to enjoy themselves.
My first time was at poison in midrand. Its really intimidating not knowing who you can or cant approach. Hardly any play happened between couples or anybody. I ended up chillung with another single dude in a corner lol.
We haven't been to any parties per se, but we have been to Pharoahs twice.
The first time we went, Lara paired us up with a regular couple to show us around - it was a really busy night, so lots of newbies.
They were great, they showed us everything, and we spoke about how things usually work there.
The second time we went, there were much less people, and no one seemed to be doing any public sex stuff - except for us! We love the voyeur room! It is much nicer when you are not the only people in there having fun, but what can you do ;)
@Amethyst I get how it can get uncomfortable! If the guys are unsure who to approach, us girls never know who is interested, and who would accept our invitation to play! I now know to go up to the people I find attractive, and start a small conversation or plain out invite them to join us in the voyeur room... That takes hella guts I have to tell you! Because everyone is trying so hard to be polite, that the usual flirting ques are not present. At least not the two times we went to the club...
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Eyes wide shut...mmmm... That movie came out when I was about 17! Guess what I was doing while watching it.. ha ha ha ha!!
The problem is that you advertised a swingers party on a swingers site... A swingers site with way too many "single men looking to get laid"... You say swingers party, they hear "free for all fuck fest"...
Do I get to have sex with you if I attend? :lol: :lol:
Lol @stamina, you can probably get to have sex with me either way he he, its overdue now. I'm tired of begging :sad:
Ay, there are couples and single men that are attending assuming I will be playing. I'm going to attach a payment pebble to my India, its nothing personal just business lol lol. If I had to say yes, shook its gonna be a hectic night. Hope my partner is coming, don't feel like playing dodge em hahaha
What I don't get is, how would a person decide that they wanted to experience something if they did not have a clue what it actually all about.
To me, if I heard or read about some kind of event and it sparked my interest, I would find out whatever I could about it to establish if it was something I was actually going to enjoy. So taking a swingers party as an example, if I had never been to one, and if I was interested in the concept, then step one would surely be to find out what a swingers party is all about.
Funny how so many people who are on this site, don't seem to understand the basics of swinging . .. or the basics of manners . . . or the basics of .. .. (yes, I know it is not only this site, but we are currently referencing this site)
[quote="Sofistikitty"]Lol @stamina, you can probably get to have sex with me either way he he, its overdue now. I'm tired of begging :sad:
Ok ok, I will give it up... But only because you are so insistent... Beauty is such a curse, sigh... :lol:
Quote by KC_ We haven't been to any parties per se, but we have been to Pharoahs twice. The first time we went, Lara paired us up with a regular couple to show us around - it was a really busy night, so lots of newbies. They were great, they showed us everything, and we spoke about how things usually work there. The second time we went, there were much less people, and no one seemed to be doing any public sex stuff - except for us! We love the voyeur room! It is much nicer when you are not the only people in there having fun, but what can you do ;) @Amethyst I get how it can get uncomfortable! If the guys are unsure who to approach, us girls never know who is interested, and who would accept our invitation to play! I now know to go up to the people I find attractive, and start a small conversation or plain out invite them to join us in the voyeur room... That takes hella guts I have to tell you! Because everyone is trying so hard to be polite, that the usual flirting ques are not present. At least not the two times we went to the club... ;) C
I think the problem comes in when you a guy, single guy you already have this negative connotation and you uncertain if they are looking for couples or guys. I mentioned this before on a post that in the uk people wear colour coded wristbands so atleast as a single guy you know which couples are looking for guys. It makes things alot easier.
They did have colour coded arm bands, but it was more to give others an idea of how far you would be willing to go, rather than the gender of person you were looking for... E.g. newbie - just watching; Soft swing; full swop...
Only ever been to one club, and that was with the expectation of going, well, just to see. I met some nice people, a host or two that introduced me to their regular attendees and of course had a couple of cold beers in the in all, had a good evening.
I was polite and didn't try to convince anyone that we should hop in the sack, and conversely, nobody gave me the bedroom eyes. Disappointed, hell yes, I checked my hair in the mirror on the way out, even took a whiff of my underarm and everything seemed in order. I only had 3 (I think) beers, so i know I wasn't busting Michael Jackson moves on the dance floor which turned anyone off....
As I said, I went with the expectation of...well...nothing other than the experience, and that's what I got - I did however notice that some of the couples were a little stand offish, as though I was trying to muscle in on their action. As a single guy, I guess its a little like being the wallflower at the matric dance - if you didnt arrive with friends - waiting for someone to chat to you so you dont offend them by talking to them first.
The poor couple that wears an arm band indicating they are keen for a single guy will get swamped by every honey suckle this side of the Limpopo, and thats the end of the armband again.
Oh the decisions ....
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