We're new to the lifestyle,but have been fortunate to have shared our 1st soft swing experience with a wonderful white couple.
I've never understood the whole taboo thing about interracial sex. People are people to me. Over the past few months on this site and others,we're tried to initiate contact with members but seem to draw a blank card 9 times out of ten.
We're not hideously grotesque looking, neither are we rude or are both intelligent and educated,the same as most of the people on here. I was curious as to why so many are turned off by the thought of being with an interracial couple? Does the quality of the relationship,friendship and sex depend on the colour of one's skin?Do we not all bleed red?
It looks like the people of colour are more accepting of crossing the racial barrier, coz really, how many non-white profiles have you seen that say "We do not cross the colour line"? :-)
At the end of the day, people will always have their preferences and tolerances... It's the same as talking about anal, and bisexuality, body type and such. Everyone will always be different depending on how we've grown up, what we've experienced in life, etc.
I don't think it's fair to question preferences as much as I understand your viewpoint since everyone will always be different and it should be respected
Fair enough, however it makes things very difficult to meet and interact with people from the site that we're interested in. The selection pool becomes much smaller if there's so much discrimination around.
If thats the case then everyone should state their preference regarding race, or maybe a interracial option to the site should be set up. Its just very disappointing, coz at the end of the day we're all here for the same thing
Quote by Kinky_Newbies Fair enough, however it makes things very difficult to meet and interact with people from the site that we're interested in. The selection pool becomes much smaller if there's so much discrimination around. If thats the case then everyone should state their preference regarding race, or maybe a interracial option to the site should be set up. Its just very disappointing, coz at the end of the day we're all here for the same thing
Hi guys Very good points you make. If you have a look at http://www.swingingheaven.za.com/YeLZMonY9JReY4jL You will see this has been chatted about in length. The conclusions I have drawn is this, That people have their preferences, which is their prerogative. But at te same time, it is my experience that there are a number of factors that lead to play time of different colours. I think you will enjoy reading the posts on that thread.
I joined this lifestyle as a couple and was also surprised at the number of couples we found that didn't cross the race assumption (and yes probably a mistake to make one) was that swingers would be open to exploring ,pushing boundaries in search of pleasure and enjoyment but,as i have learned we all have limits.i for one am straight , i am not attracted to men , and the odd guy that drops me a message i tell them politely thanks but no for those who are not attracted to people of other races i must respect your limit.....having said all that i would like to welcome the kinky's to the forums and say anyone who doesn't want to play with you guys would be crazy.
Reading your post kink I was thinking the same. WE do have alot of people who are not willing to cross the colour line however I dont see why you so bothered about it. if you so hung up with the colour line why dont you play with single males you got a preference not to play with single males and lots of people also have the same when it comes to colour.
Thanks PIB1, we value you taking the time to read our post :-)
I've read the thread,and its just like 6 people that actually commented. That doesnt even scrape the bottom of the barrel if one considers how many active members are on this site. And from that, how many are actually from Cape Town?
I so agree with you thoughts there Ash.
Simply put, a penis is a penis & a vagina is a vagina,one fits into the other, on any skin colour,race or body shape.
Quote by Paartielus Ons moet passop dat ons nie dinge wil ryp druk nie elke mense in hierdie lewe het sy afkeure en sy voorkeure waarom nou 'n bohaai maak oor kleur.
My point Paartie was that the available options that are left are very few.
Dear Kinkys
The idea is to keep searching. All people have their own preferences. Respect it. You have to exercise a lot of patience in order to achieve what you want to. It does take time due to the fact that there are so few members that are willing to go interracial.
Let's face it, the vast majority of couples in this lifestyle are white couples who have their preference of not going interracial. Who knows, these preferences may evolve someday.
Plus, I have seen this site and many other sites grow significantly over the past few years, and then the pool is growing bigger.
So hang in there. I know it must be frustrating at times, but all the fun will come with patience.
Vee1
Hi
My 2c...
Stop paying attention to the issue til it stops being an issue...
You don't look at certain kinds of profiles.... I don't look at married singles, or people further away than 300kms, or people who won't put pictures up on the site, or "couples" who aren't married to each other but are married to other people.... I won't consider profiles of single guys under 30, or anyone over 60... or people who "mwah" me in their mails (argh!) or people whose emails I can't understand.... and the list goes on. Just put THOSE profiles on your "no-go" list. That way you aren't disappointed, simply practical.
And if you look at my list above and then you look at the profiles on this site from the Eastern Cape - then you'll have a new perspective on "the pickings are few!"
And then you won't feel so bad about it....
Besides guys - why would you want to shag someone who doesn't want to shag you?!
You wouldn't - so good riddance to them!
Quote by LeeEC Hi My 2c... Stop paying attention to the issue til it stops being an issue... You don't look at certain kinds of profiles.... I don't look at married singles, or people further away than 300kms, or people who won't put pictures up on the site, or "couples" who aren't married to each other but are married to other people.... I won't consider profiles of single guys under 30, or anyone over 60... or people who "mwah" me in their mails (argh!) or people whose emails I can't understand.... and the list goes on. Just put THOSE profiles on your "no-go" list. That way you aren't disappointed, simply practical. And if you look at my list above and then you look at the profiles on this site from the Eastern Cape - then you'll have a new perspective on "the pickings are few!" And then you won't feel so bad about it.... Besides guys - why would you want to shag someone who doesn't want to shag you?! You wouldn't - so good riddance to them!
So then we sound perfect for each other, fancy a shag mwah :P:P:P
Quote by Kinky_Newbies So what is the consensus, should we stick to our "own kind" or still try to encourage embracing the hope of breaking color barriers?
I suggest you go for both - stick with your name!! :twisted:
OMW I love the word *mwah* I use it all the time!!!!! I think it nice and short in stead of writing *kiss-kiss*.
I will try and remember to use it less often when *speaking*/exchanging dialogue with you Lee.
Now what is this what I am reading Kinky????What *own kind* are we talking about??
People are people each has a choice of what they like and feel comfy with.I think every one mentioned that fact.
If I was to worry what people thought about me,did not like my fat ass,my smart mouth and weird mind. I would NEVER get to meet new potential friends .
After all every stranger is a potential friend.
I just go with the flow, and encourage the people I like, and I chat to everyone. and always try and remain polite towards everyone, I treat each person the way I like to be treated,with dignity and politeness.
I have no hang ups with who and what anybody is/are, I do not mind if that person drives a Merc or walk with down trodden shoes.
If I like a person there are NO 2 ways about it. I like that person.
You yourself have said , what I always say myself,we all bleed red.
Just relax and enjoy whom you guys like and whom likes you back.
Stay true to your expectations. don't get fixated about it or you will become as jaded as the ones you are complaining about.
Our experience is that there are plenty of people who believe that arseholes are arsholes and angels are angels irrespective of color
Thank you open minded ladies and gents. I am grateful to you all for taking the time to leave a comment.
You words of wisdom and encouragement are most welcomed. I suppose we'll just stick it out and see what happens.
It would be nice if a fully interracial venue where opened up here in CT,I'm sure there'll be long lists of people who wont be allowed to become members haha. Reversal is a bitch lol.
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