Sexual Permission

2 May 2012

The more I talk to people about sex in either the theoretical sense or the direct sense, the more I think that what all sex and deviant desire is about...... is just about permission. People seem to have difficulty giving themselves permission to feel the way they feel. Lust after what they lust for and get off to the things they get off to. Sometimes they have a desire to know what they are missing out on,or they just want to have their sexual feelings legitimated, recognized and hopefully encouraged. This makes sense, its good to feel validated, especially when it comes to private desires to do *dirty* things or have them done to you. This moves me into a kind of nurturing role sometimes, because I have lots of sexual nurturing to give. I like to encourage sexually explorations, like in my last sexual encounter, but I know that I have to balance the delight in this role with the necessities of taking care of myself, sexually and emotionally. I have to know when to say NO. Giving a firm NO a hard thing to learn, but I think I am learning this skill better, and trying to tame the guilt monster so I don`t feel like I`m disappointing people. Giving is good, but I have to be in an appropriate frame of mind for it. I guess what I'm saying here is that I'm giving myself PERMISSION to take care of myself first, and others when possible and when I want to. I am giving myself permission to be who ever I want to what ever I want to above all, enjoy what ever I do. So to everyone.... Give yourself Permission to fantasize Give yourself permission to dream Give yourself permission to explore Give yourself permission to *do* Then give yourself permission enjoy what ever you desire. Then do it to your hearts content. Be yourself not a copy of someone else.

9 May 2012

been yourself is probably a most difficult thing for all people and been a carbon copy of another is the safer option bcos then they fit in and can form part of the norm and standards as laid out by society. To stand out proud and happy of your own self is the hardest thing to do because you will eventually have to endure the slings and arrows of discontent and malice of others who judge but cant stand been judged for their flaws and twisted deviances that not even a horny perv like me would indulge without wanting to kill myself out of shame