Yesterday we had a good discussion about reading the profiles.
I must admit I have seen an improvement on my profile and that people understand my profile, which I really appreciate - as long as it doesn't influence the people I enjoy chatting to in the pool.
We all have our personal preferences - which is personal to us. Personal meaning the writers own preference/s.
And yes, sometimes some read it or just look at pictures and send the impersonal wink, firstly people need to know more about you. I don't read much of your personality in the "wink".
The view point I think that most singles and my apologies usually the men have is that if hubby and the wife swings - that the wife might be easy....mm now the conundrum.....it is not so. I have seen many profiles stating that "we only play as a couple" and then the disrespect of asking the wife if she would meet for coffee and so forth even some has the balls - respect - to be quite harsh and just say what they think. I have no problem with your personal views or thoughts - might not get laid in the reality - but it might seem easier in the virtual world. It could be that you are uneasy with the prospect to say or chat face to face or a lot more braver typing on the small black keyboard.
My opinion might not be heard or understood - or taken out of context.
My question would be to all the "singles" put yourself in the shoes of the hubby or even the wife, if you were married for a while or have kids , the respect and trust of your spouse or partner, how will it effect you if you have to find out that another man/woman is talking to them the way some "singles" do?
And yes I understand that I might come under fire - hopefully not violent - there is some "couples" that will be seeking "fun" behind each others back and as I mentioned own opinions. That said, be honest be respectful - respect might even get you further - communication goes a long way both here and in the personal atmosphere of your own environment.
Any comments will be appreciated - negative , positive or even disagreement.
Nice piece of comment, if only everyone on the site take the time to read it
Having been on the site a while and I really agree with the view on the impersonal standard wink. Even looking past the wink and going to have a look at the profile whom sent the wink I find it truely anoying if there is not a bit of detail given about the person/couple.
Take some time give basics on want you likes/preferences are then i'll mos be able to see if we have some veiws in common and be willing to persue chatting.
And yes it is everyones own preference. I as the lady may be the more active person on the site and I manage our profile, but my husband knows everything and whom I chat to!!! Big desitions as to whom we meet with and so on we make together.
BUT yes Paartie I to wish more people would read not only the profiles but also the forum articles!
I can not agree more!!
If we take the time to write a reasonable interesting profile SAYING and TELLING people who and what we are and WANT.
I would expect them to at least take the time to read it. EVEN if it is a *book* to read.
BUT no they do not read,they click on the photos and then decide, to make contact on their special way.
Sent a flirt t ask go view my profile...or friendship request. Well I always accept friendship requests, BUT if I do not hear form that person,after accepting a friendship request or we stop talking..I delete that *friendship*
Or they ask you to *tell them more about you* good gosh!!! what is my profile there for????
Or they ask to see your albums when YOU SAY you never open it IN YOUR profile
Or they make a comment on your body...and NOT having READ my age...and my teasing ways of popping on sexy women I can only DREAM to be,then it is their own fault being disappointed.
When I started here, I used to go try and go read/look at all the profiles I get mail from NOT ANYMORE!!!!
THERE is NO profile if there IS NO WRITTEN details,sorry that is so...the tick of part on what we each like is NOT the whole profile.
I get the funniest mail sometimes and sometimes the rudest mails...I try and stay polite but sometimes I just get *snarky* with the sexual innuendos I get.
I sometimes think people are UNABLE to READ these days. and do not get me started on the BBM and SMS way of writing mails....good gosh people!!! NOT everyone is clued up on shorthand text. I think it very rude. and will NEVER meet someone who cannot read or write. I have far to much self respect for that.
E_N I just want to say it is NOT always the single person who makes the demand from a couple to play behind one the others back...BUT sometimes it is one of a COUPLE who ask meet you as a single person to play with them with out their spouses knowledge. ..and here I can tell you it is NOT only the gents doing this sometimes even married ladies mail me with the intention of a *skelmpie* sexual interlude.
Will try to improve my profile, not that I have been unsuccessful, I am in my comfort zone
My input is more about guys automaticcally assuming a woman on this site has no morals and is a slut, no offense to the LADIES. Guys this is a sport like playing Rugby, we dont automatically assume you are solid bone between the ears
If you cant score at home what makes it more likely that you would here and if you by accident do what reason will there be for a repeat
Like all things in life you have to work at it and in the end woman will be more comfortable in her own surroundings.
My wife loves a "skelmpie" but this does not mean you can rock and say, want a fuck baby. You will first have to meet her and seduce her and that can be hard work, maybe she is a slut, I dont know but I love her as she is.
Reminds me of some old Australien jokes:
He comes up to the sheila and asks "You want fuck" and she anwers "No" he replies "Ok mind lying still while I do"
He comes up to the sheila and asks "You want fuck" and she anwers "O OK you sweet talking man"
What it all boils down to is you get out what you put in
Voyer I agree, it all depends on how thie subject of having a good *fuck* is approached. I may be just as horny as most men on the site :twisted: but still consider myself a lady and apreaciate a little small talk and seduction b4 simply getting down to business. And it is not like I'm desperate to have a score since hubbi is readily available if i need a quicky or a nice long afternoon...
PiB then I must say have been lucky so far, have not yet had a couple, lady or gent, approach me for a *skelmpie*. It also does not make sence to me a couple splitting up to have fun on their, to me the fun part is watching hubbi with another lady or for him watching me with another gent! But guess there are al sorts one will find here if stay long enough.
E_N
I do not think I am *lucky* just that everyone sorta knows me,my sex addiction and heck weird ways... if not from here,it is from other sites ;-)
Now It seems I am just site hunting...not true...I am only on a LOT of sites due to being BORED at nights when I work....
I have only 2 I maintain daily, and SH is one of them,the rest well, I pop on now and again.
You would not know how many people you get to know this way. I talk to people all over the world...it is really FUN.
And on all sites all over the world ,there are these ignorant type`s of people.
As said above all the fun for me is watching my wife and therefore no wife swapping as I would not do the other woman justice
Having said that we must also read between the lines to find the reason the members are as they are and why they have thier personal kinksm my wife w3as in an abusive marriage before we met and there she got her liking for a very quick skelmpie, just to prove to herself that she was not frigid and an ice queen
As for the profiles where all the boxes have been ticked, I dont know, seems like opposites
