Is it just me or am I right?
I feel like some of these really young single guy members sign up, barely fill out their profile and then click on "browse", find a picture they like, hit message like they are browsingand ordering from an online shopping catalogue ... (The message even reads like a really badly spelled order too!)
"Yeah, she's fuckable. I'll have her. "
No, don't bother to read the writing in theprofile, that willjust confuseyour little brain. .. or for that matter, note the location or any requirements that profile might contain.
So random. And then they wonder why people don't respond. Then they get acid and shitty to the next person they interact with in the site.
It's like they got online and forgot how to read. .. Do you still look see if there are pictures in the book before you read it?
Or maybe I should make "has read a book in the last 5 years, that isn't a school setwork" as one of my requirements. .. Oh who am I kidding they can't read, so what point is there to adding it to the profile?
Seriously. I wish the message button was at the BOTTOM of the write up... so they have to at least SEE that there are words there that should be read.
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Totally agree with you.
We have stated our requirements quite plainly in our profile but they are disregarded. These guys when asked if they read our profile, they reply 'Yes'. Quite clearly they only "read" the pictures!
We've had single guys being rude and crude when told they are not required. We now have adopted a very blunt and to the point response to single guys who contact us. They even have the nerve to say "I'm only being friendly". A very transparent response to our now rude replies.
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Orgasminator
Ek is te bang om op die gesprek te antwoord, weet somer ek gaan weer moeilikheid kry.
Maar LeeEC jy moet gaan kyk hoe gaan hulle in die Pool te kere, hulle het respek vir niemand nie en is nie bang om geban te word nie.
Daar het al hoeveel mense en veral couples en enkel dames uit die Pool verdwyn oor hierdie gedrag.
Dinsdag was daar een 18 jaar oud, en sy opmerkings het mense se hare laat rys.
Sex God
I have to wonder, is it really only the young "members"?
I am approaching my mid 40's, and the people who grew up in the same era as me (and before) have a certain level of respect / tact / class etc, (not all of them of course) the late 20's to early 30's these days lack that (not all of them of course)
People are not scared to get banned, because the profile is banned not the IP, so it's simple to just create a new profile. The reactions these kinds of people get are exactly the reactions they want, so all we are actually doing is feeding the problem . . . .
Orgasminator
What would be awesome is one of those security questions and the answer is on your profile. That way they have to read your full profile or else they can't send a message. It would slow down the randoms hoping for a quick screw.
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You hit the nail on the head Lee, we feel exactly the same and are at that stage where we ignore any message from a profile with a blue border. We have just had enough of the really inconsiderate non readers.
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I&S
You do realise that the color of the border on a profile has nothing to do with the gender or type of profile you have right? ANY PROFILE can choose any colour for their profile that they like from the menu on the settings page (there are I think 7 options and in the foot of cycles of colour on that page - click on one and your colour changes) the truth is you can change the border colour of your profile daily or hourly I'd you like.
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Ek is te bang om op die gesprek te antwoord, weet somer ek gaan weer moeilikheid kry.
Maar LeeEC jy moet gaan kyk hoe gaan hulle in die Pool te kere, hulle het respek vir niemand nie en is nie bang om geban te word nie.
Daar het al hoeveel mense en veral couples en enkel dames uit die Pool verdwyn oor hierdie gedrag.
Dinsdag was daar een 18 jaar oud, en sy opmerkings het mense se hare laat rys.
That's precisely why I NEVER use the pool. I Couldn't be bothered. I have better things to do with my time. .. like play with my playmates :twisted:
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I have to wonder, is it really only the young "members"?
I am approaching my mid 40's, and the people who grew up in the same era as me (and before) have a certain level of respect / tact / class etc, (not all of them of course) the late 20's to early 30's these days lack that (not all of them of course)
People are not scared to get banned, because the profile is banned not the IP, so it's simple to just create a new profile. The reactions these kinds of people get are exactly the reactions they want, so all we are actually doing is feeding the problem . . . .
Unfortunately in SA, lots of ip's are shared by more than one person, or change too much (like sometimes when you use a wireless modem that issues you a different ip in the same domain each time you login), so it's not possible to block an ip.
I think that men in general are just oppertunists! The pickings on this site are actually very slim so I think guys take a chance on as many profiles as they can and wait to see what comes back. So in a way I agree that they are very wrong in their approach, but in a way I understand... Take chances and maybe you get laid... So yes, while men like that irritate the living daylights out of me, I see where they are coming from. A "horn-dog" male will try anything to get laid, anything!
But also bare in mind: Many (most) couples profiles on here have some really graphic "pussy" pics... What do you expect a man to think when he see's you have no problem spreading lips for an extreme close-up? You show your vagina and all it's inner glory and a guy sends a message asking to place his man meat in it, then you get upset that he is disrespectful? Think about it... He will autoamically think that the lady spreading for the camera is "like-minded"... (not anyone specific referred to here btw...)
While I have red blood flowing in my veins and enjoy a good "pussy-pic" as much as the next male, it is actually quite distasteful... Show a man your vagina, don't expect him to want to take out for a romantic dinner...
Or am I wrong?
No Stamina you make an excellent point. And I think you are right on the money. No one who doesn't have a little self respect is going to get much from others.
But I would like to make one point. . MOST couples on here are actually the male partner on behalf of the couple so this is really a case of married "horndogs" sharing their boner material. ... and then getting upset when okes are disrespectful to their wives.
Also one more thing. Most of the people (women) bitching about this behaviour here are not THOSE couples who show off their "wide open vaginas" on their profiles. .. I don't and that doesn't make any difference to the respect factor in some cases. .. so are you basically saying that all boys are dogs and we should just get used to the flea problem?
Sex God
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No Stamina you make an excellent point. And I think you are right on the money. No one who doesn't have a little self respect is going to get much from others.
But I would like to make one point. . MOST couples on here are actually the male partner on behalf of the couple so this is really a case of married "horndogs" sharing their boner material. ... and then getting upset when okes are disrespectful to their wives.
Also one more thing. Most of the people (women) bitching about this behaviour here are not THOSE couples who show off their "wide open vaginas" on their profiles. .. I don't and that doesn't make any difference to the respect factor in some cases. .. so are you basically saying that all boys are dogs and we should just get used to the flea problem?
Labelled under the "in-general" category again . .
Men like to look at pics of female genitals, yes (but I guess females like to look at male genital pics too)
Most females are "happy" to look at a picture of a mans torso showing six pack blah blah blah
A male is subjected to looking at a woman's belly, small of her back and even breasts all day long, in the office, in the shops, in the bank, you name it, and it is on display there.
A mans torso is very seldom on display for a lady to look at.. . . . . . do I need to carry on ????
So wait a minute... first looking at your junk does nothing to us compared to what looking at our naked necks does to you guys. And I'll be the first to say that women are, in general, oblivious to the effect they have on men. Mostly because, well you guys have trained us to believe that to be able to look at us is what you guys want and expect...
Ok second, you don't think that how you look matters as much to us? Ok, the thing is you men figured out about 100 years back how to get exactly as much eye candy readily available for yourself as you could possibly desire, come today, with a click of a button you can feast your eyes... now just coz we girls don't do visual like you guys do, doesn't mean we don't have our own kryptonite...
Besides, if you knew what it was, if you really knew how to tap I to what we want, well then we'd be dropping like flies at your feet... :twisted: but the sad truth, women seldom know what it is to feel really desired, because you've all got this silly free eye-candy getting in the friggin' way.
*sigh*
Sex God
Quote by LeeEC
So wait a minute... first looking at your junk does nothing to us compared to what looking at our naked necks does to you guys. And I'll be the first to say that women are, in general, oblivious to the effect they have on men. Mostly because, well you guys have trained us to believe that to be able to look at us is what you guys want and expect...
Ok second, you don't think that how you look matters as much to us? Ok, the thing is you men figured out about 100 years back how to get exactly as much eye candy readily available for yourself as you could possibly desire, come today, with a click of a button you can feast your eyes... now just coz we girls don't do visual like you guys do, doesn't mean we don't have our own kryptonite...
Besides, if you knew what it was, if you really knew how to tap I to what we want, well then we'd be dropping like flies at your feet... :twisted: but the sad truth, women seldom know what it is to feel really desired, because you've all got this silly free eye-candy getting in the friggin' way.
*sigh*
Ummmm??? ok then