I am worried about something. While in my search for a lady to join us for a night of passion, I think about how it may end up being an anticlimax. I am worried it all feels "planned". We all know that sex is best served spontaneously. What if ends up happening simply because it was the plan, not because sparks flew. My ideal scenario: Meet a girl on here and arrange to meet asap at a nice club or vibey pub. She and my girl chat, drink, dance, party the night away. If they feel that they have sufficiently "seduced" each other, then we take things back home. I would for obvious reasons love to be part of the fun but not essential, the ladies pleasure is key here. I do not want to mail someone on here and that very night she is knocking at the door ready to get it on - that would feel planned and I don't think would live up to expectations.
Any thoughts?
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Quote by Stamina
I am worried about something. While in my search for a lady to join us for a night of passion, I think about how it may end up being an anticlimax. I am worried it all feels "planned". We all know that sex is best served spontaneously. What if ends up happening simply because it was the plan, not because sparks flew. My ideal scenario: Meet a girl on here and arrange to meet asap at a nice club or vibey pub. She and my girl chat, drink, dance, party the night away. If they feel that they have sufficiently "seduced" each other, then we take things back home. I would for obvious reasons love to be part of the fun but not essential, the ladies pleasure is key here. I do not want to mail someone on here and that very night she is knocking at the door ready to get it on - that would feel planned and I don't think would live up to expectations.
Any thoughts?
First thought, . .. nah, you asked for serious
If I recall correctly, this will be a first for your lady. So, your ideal situation, night club, dancing, seduction etc is not an ideal situation, it is Stamina's fantasy! ! ! !
Your lady is flying her maiden voyage, she might need a little help. Also, for the first experience, I would strongly suggest you consider keeping it very very sober (ie: only one or two drinks)
Quote by SDMR
I am worried about something. While in my search for a lady to join us for a night of passion, I think about how it may end up being an anticlimax. I am worried it all feels "planned". We all know that sex is best served spontaneously. What if ends up happening simply because it was the plan, not because sparks flew. My ideal scenario: Meet a girl on here and arrange to meet asap at a nice club or vibey pub. She and my girl chat, drink, dance, party the night away. If they feel that they have sufficiently "seduced" each other, then we take things back home. I would for obvious reasons love to be part of the fun but not essential, the ladies pleasure is key here. I do not want to mail someone on here and that very night she is knocking at the door ready to get it on - that would feel planned and I don't think would live up to expectations.
Any thoughts?
First thought, . .. nah, you asked for serious
If I recall correctly, this will be a first for your lady. So, your ideal situation, night club, dancing, seduction etc is not an ideal situation, it is Stamina's fantasy! ! ! !
Your lady is flying her maiden voyage, she might need a little help. Also, for the first experience, I would strongly suggest you consider keeping it very very sober (ie: only one or two drinks)
No no, it is the ideal situation as I know her. She will feel very reserved and frigid, even nervous in a "planned" situation. She is a party animal and "lets loose" when we are out. She gets absorbed in the fun and that is what gets her going. She does not drink alot, maybe a tequila or two and maybe one or two red squares that she drinks slowly, the tipsy stage is when she feels sexy and adventurous. Its at this point that she starts telling me to look at this sexy girl and that sexy girl. This is when she starts the questions: "Do you think we will be able to meet a hot girl tonight and take her home?".. "What about that girl, should I go talk to her and see if she might be bi?"... She has a magnetic personality and 20 minutes after arriving at a pub or club, she has a group of girls that she is partying with. Trust me, my scenario would work best. She will be ready, relaxed and comfortable to take things further after a little "ice-breaking" first...
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Quote by Stamina
First thought, . .. nah, you asked for serious
If I recall correctly, this will be a first for your lady. So, your ideal situation, night club, dancing, seduction etc is not an ideal situation, it is Stamina's fantasy! ! ! !
Your lady is flying her maiden voyage, she might need a little help. Also, for the first experience, I would strongly suggest you consider keeping it very very sober (ie: only one or two drinks)
No no, it is the ideal situation as I know her. She will feel very reserved and frigid, even nervous in a "planned" situation. She is a party animal and "lets loose" when we are out. She gets absorbed in the fun and that is what gets her going. She does not drink alot, maybe a tequila or two and maybe one or two red squares that she drinks slowly, the tipsy stage is when she feels sexy and adventurous. Its at this point that she starts telling me to look at this sexy girl and that sexy girl. This is when she starts the questions: "Do you think we will be able to meet a hot girl tonight and take her home?".. "What about that girl, should I go talk to her and see if she might be bi?"... She has a magnetic personality and 20 minutes after arriving at a pub or club, she has a group of girls that she is partying with. Trust me, my scenario would work best. She will be ready, relaxed and comfortable to take things further after a little "ice-breaking" first...
Look, personally I have found that when some-one is a newby or very inexperienced in the group set-up, that substance usage is more often than not a huge disappointment in the end. Great that your lady only goes to tipsy, so she will be fully aware at all times what is going on around her. Thing is, if you get it right to meet someone in a public place like a club, chances are slim she is going to be "mostly sober". . . . that can have catastrophic effects on your lady, and her views on repeating the activity.
I think a little pre-planning for her first experience is your best bet.
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I am worried about something. While in my search for a lady to join us for a night of passion, I think about how it may end up being an anticlimax. I am worried it all feels "planned". We all know that sex is best served spontaneously. What if ends up happening simply because it was the plan, not because sparks flew. My ideal scenario: Meet a girl on here and arrange to meet asap at a nice club or vibey pub. She and my girl chat, drink, dance, party the night away. If they feel that they have sufficiently "seduced" each other, then we take things back home. I would for obvious reasons love to be part of the fun but not essential, the ladies pleasure is key here. I do not want to mail someone on here and that very night she is knocking at the door ready to get it on - that would feel planned and I don't think would live up to expectations.
Any thoughts?
First thought, . .. nah, you asked for serious
If I recall correctly, this will be a first for your lady. So, your ideal situation, night club, dancing, seduction etc is not an ideal situation, it is Stamina's fantasy! ! ! !
Your lady is flying her maiden voyage, she might need a little help. Also, for the first experience, I would strongly suggest you consider keeping it very very sober (ie: only one or two drinks)
No no, it is the ideal situation as I know her. She will feel very reserved and frigid, even nervous in a "planned" situation. She is a party animal and "lets loose" when we are out. She gets absorbed in the fun and that is what gets her going. She does not drink alot, maybe a tequila or two and maybe one or two red squares that she drinks slowly, the tipsy stage is when she feels sexy and adventurous. Its at this point that she starts telling me to look at this sexy girl and that sexy girl. This is when she starts the questions: "Do you think we will be able to meet a hot girl tonight and take her home?".. "What about that girl, should I go talk to her and see if she might be bi?"... She has a magnetic personality and 20 minutes after arriving at a pub or club, she has a group of girls that she is partying with. Trust me, my scenario would work best. She will be ready, relaxed and comfortable to take things further after a little "ice-breaking" first...
I am not actually used to making comments on the Forum, but seeing your post reminded a lot about what we prefer, or prefered. My humble opinion is this: We have had quite a few years experience and the experiences my missus enjoyed most was the spur of the moment "seducing a vanilla" experience. I know it is not quite the same as it mostly involved guys and not girls, but at the end of the day 1) we are all human 2) one will be surprised how conservative guys can be. Anyway, I am not going to say what I think you must do, but let me say it like this: What worked for us is going out for the evening and just have a good evening out. After one or two drinks the missus get a bit more adventurous and flirty and then I leave it to her to hook up with someone she feels comfortable or attracted to. Eventually after chatting and dancing away we would explain the situation to him and most of the time it ends up that we have great fun together.
What I am trying to say is reading your comment about what happens on your night out I personally think you are more than halfway there. Perhaps just leave it in her hands to make the move on the ladies that you mention, especially considering she is prepared to approach a lady herself. I am not saying one should not arrange a lady from the lifestyle, but I tried that before and it is just not the same as the expectation still is there (My Opinion!). Besides, not only me, but my lady herself find seducing a vanilla is so much more fun and much more erotic!
Now I'll go skulk away again
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I am not actually used to making comments on the Forum, but seeing your post reminded a lot about what we prefer, or prefered. My humble opinion is this: We have had quite a few years experience and the experiences my missus enjoyed most was the spur of the moment "seducing a vanilla" experience. I know it is not quite the same as it mostly involved guys and not girls, but at the end of the day 1) we are all human 2) one will be surprised how conservative guys can be. Anyway, I am not going to say what I think you must do, but let me say it like this: What worked for us is going out for the evening and just have a good evening out. After one or two drinks the missus get a bit more adventurous and flirty and then I leave it to her to hook up with someone she feels comfortable or attracted to. Eventually after chatting and dancing away we would explain the situation to him and most of the time it ends up that we have great fun together.
What I am trying to say is reading your comment about what happens on your night out I personally think you are more than halfway there. Perhaps just leave it in her hands to make the move on the ladies that you mention, especially considering she is prepared to approach a lady herself. I am not saying one should not arrange a lady from the lifestyle, but I tried that before and it is just not the same as the expectation still is there (My Opinion!). Besides, not only me, but my lady herself find seducing a vanilla is so much more fun and much more erotic!
Now I'll go skulk away again
Nice to have a "new" voice on the forum. Welcome!
I think that the way it worked for you is maybe slightly different to Stamina's situation. What I mean is, it is way easier for a woman to "pick up" a guy than it is for a guy to pick up a woman or even for a woman to pick up a woman. I suppose it would also depend on type of venue, age bracket etc etc. And I agree that all ways are definitely possible.
