Here is one for you to think about.
We that call our self's swingers have rules while I think at least some of us. Now been in the life style does not mean one has the right to sleep around behind your partners back or does it? The reason I ask myself this question there seems to be so many married men that do it or want to do it. Do the ladies it the life style also do it?
If so WHY.
Joyrider
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Is this right?
ONCE again any person *single* is not a swinger....we have a swingers mindset.
So to say ladies who swing behind their partners back would be ladies in the lifestyle (a swinger couple)and yeah I know a few who does that.....just as I know a LOT of men who does that also.
Sure there are plenty ladies here who plays behind their partners backs as a *single*.
I myself will NOT condemn anyone who does that, I do not know what their circumstances is,and why they need to do that.
Here on this site and any other sex site(yes I said sex site)we all have a little space in the universe to try and enjoy anything we might have a fantasy about.
Sex God
Quote by joyrider
Here is one for you to think about.
We that call our self's swingers have rules while I think at least some of us. Now been in the life style does not mean one has the right to sleep around behind your partners back or does it? The reason I ask myself this question there seems to be so many married men that do it or want to do it. Do the ladies it the life style also do it?
If so WHY.
Joyrider
Just trying to learn more about people.
to me, if you and a partner are swinging together, then that's what it should be. If one of them does it without the other partners knowledge, that (to me) is wrong.
I won't (or at least will try not to) judge those, male of female playing behind their partners back. I don't like it, but as long as we as a couple are kept out of the mess it can create once discovered, it is their business how they want to play.
Same as me getting many a remark from some I have chatted to as to "but does your husband have to be there" or "but can't you just once meet me without him" and when I say no way, I get insulted.
It is every person and couples own choice and decision as to how and when we play....Others might not like it, but it's not our place to judge.
Having a swinger's mindset I know it's all about the rules between couples! If your rules (as a couple) are not the same as the other couple's rules ...... and you really want to play with them!? Then mutual respect should come into play (as ALWAYS!!).
If the male (of a couple) do ask to play on the side - the 'mutual respect rule' must again apply (this is where you firmly inform the guy that you don't have a 'playing on the side rule'!). I'm saying this because if you don't stand for a set of rules in this game - you'll be falling for every other situation!!
Sex God
Quote by Gerrie2012
Having a swinger's mindset I know it's all about the rules between couples! If your rules (as a couple) are not the same as the other couple's rules ...... and you really want to play with them!? Then mutual respect should come into play (as ALWAYS!!).
If the male (of a couple) do ask to play on the side - the 'mutual respect rule' must again apply (this is where you firmly inform the guy that you don't have a 'playing on the side rule'!). I'm saying this because if you don't stand for a set of rules in this game - you'll be falling for every other situation!!
well said Gerrie, rules are one of the most important parts of this lifestyle, and if you (couple) cannot stand by your (couple) own rules, well you are likely to be disappointed.
Quote by Gerrie2012
If the male (of a couple) do ask to play on the side - the 'mutual respect rule' must again apply (this is where you firmly inform the guy that you don't have a 'playing on the side rule'!). I'm saying this because if you don't stand for a set of rules in this game - you'll be falling for every other situation!!
Hence us preferring not to invite married men who are on the site as singles. Even the ones who has said that they play with their wife's blessing, I asked to have the meet and greet with her present. Just to confirm that they do know and approve of hubby playing on his own sometimes.
2 out of the 3 disappeared after being asked that, only one couple we got to meet.....
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I asked to have the meet and greet with her present. Just to confirm that they do know and approve of hubby playing on his own sometimes.
2 out of the 3 disappeared after being asked that, only one couple we got to meet.....
Ooo! that is a GOOD and sneaky move! Seperate the fakers from the friendlies!!
I'm going to use that move! Way to go EN!
