i give up

Warming the Bed

0 likes 4 Mar 2015

So what to do...when after a meeting You end up becoming the other person's worst enemy? HEre;s the skinny.....some time ago a member and myself (after months of chatting, 4 meetings that she turned up a no show) finally was able to meet with me. Which we did. Given it was at an ungodly hour of the morning, but nonetheless. Upon her arrival I introduce myself and show her the way to where we were going to have a chit chat. Now here's where the trouble comes in. Im getting all these signs...first off. her attire is (or lack thereof) shouts, oozes and screams...v"hey big boy....come have a closer look" I pleasantly observe as she gets up and wants to have a look at the top of a giant map against a wall, revealing her breasts from under the crop top. Bending down again "observing the map" , once again exposing that there are no underwear under her skirt. Man o man o man....I was completely dumbstruck and made my move....welcoming her advances. She smiled broadly and declined this advancement. (take into consideration, i conducted myself in a very gentlman-like) manner. I accept this decision. and continue being a great host. Even having her compliment me and saying Im a real funny guy, and I smell amazing. Not all is lost right? She leaves. and Never hear from her again....accept when Im in the chatrooms, and she disagree's with comments or statements I make in the general conversation....and not being one to really do it in a friendly or "grown - up" way....Ive taken offence to her. For a long time Ive stayed angry with her and her refusal to explain to me WTF?! Look Im fine with the fact if she's not attracted to me? Or if she was playing ego games, ill accept that too. But after writing a message explaining that I wish to bury the hatchet, so that social meet and great wont potentially turn akward, Im yet to receive a response. Im left wondering....what now. We are bounmd to meet again...I know it. But Im done trying to live and let live.

Unknown User

0 likes 5 Mar 2015

I would have said, Hi and Goodbye have a nice life after 4 no shows....and NOT meet anyone who makes appointments and not show might be a fluke,and can be forgiven, but 4 times??? NOPE that is just plain rude. An ungodly hour in the Morning to meet someone new??? That would have made me wonder WHY??? and refuse to meet. If the lady was wearing sexy and *Come and get it Handsome*clothes at that ungodly hour of a Morning meet, I would think she was coming to me AFTER she met someone else whom she dressed up NOT making any moves on her. My advice is... Just let it go it was not meant to be, she was telling you that hence the no shows for 4 times, and that *really on my way home* meet at that ungodly hour. Most people do not have the guts to say they find someone not compatible, face to face, they just fade out of your life.I am not saying this is right to do it this way...but people are human and this is what mostly happens. I can not really give you advice on how to handle her in the chat room, though. Maybe,I would not talk to her there,not greet or anything just make as if she is not there,and if she makes comments on your comments, you might tell her in a friendly gentlemanly way,that you were not talking to her, that you were talking to whom ever you were answering or chatting too. As for meeting in social settings, when you see her, greet friendly but do not linger, do not ask how she is, just ignore her the rest of the time and chat to the other people. Just my 2 cents on this....

SDM

Sex God

0 likes 5 Mar 2015

Stamina, Stamina, Stamina . . . of shit wait, sorry, . . . I mean Ian . . . . rotflmao

Maybe 1 in 55 ladies want you to "make a move" a few minutes into a first meet. A lady who "cannot make it" 4 times is married or heavily involved and extremely rude, second no show makes this clear. Move along quietly, because complaining here, is only informing other potential meets about the way you "respond' . . . . .

Unknown User

0 likes 11 Mar 2015

Well, to answer Ian, just ignore or block as she is to me just playing games, I as a woman if meeting a man, now with partner if not interested they will know but would never tease etc, and have never stood anyone up (pardon the un) Sometimes it may not work the first time but there is never any need for someone to be rude straight off and even when people have been rude to me either I get mr to deal with it or I have the choice to just ignore or block them. But I am certain that she is not the rule rather the exception

Unknown User

0 likes 11 Mar 2015

Well, to answer Ian, just ignore or block as she is to me just playing games, I as a woman if meeting a man, now with partner if not interested they will know but would never tease etc, and have never stood anyone up (pardon the un) Sometimes it may not work the first time but there is never any need for someone to be rude straight off and even when people have been rude to me either I get mr to deal with it or I have the choice to just ignore or block them. But I am certain that she is not the rule rather the exception