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How to be successful as a single male

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Many pages have been written by couples,who so desperately seek the right single guy...I can imagine the frustration,with so many single guy profiles,yet so many unreliable and simply put assholes out there.
There are some rules out there and have been spoken about many times rules are set in stone for the couples and some may have a slight variation on them
Before I go too much farther I need people to have a look at my guys message me and ask me how do I do it.. You will notice that I am a more mature guy,yet I have numerous vouches from singles and is not rocket science,in fact it is simple
“Wanna fuck” or “meet me tonight” will almost certainly get you deleted and blocked. Introduce yourself, read the couples profile and quote something from it to prove you have taken the time to read it, ask to be considered for future you have made contact be very respectful, not only of them but also of their boundaries. Remember, you are the third party.  If it is a truly secure couple that are in love with each other, you are there for their enjoyment and pleasure. That’s not to say that you aren’t expected to enjoy yourself too. They should be as respectful to you as you are to them.
Word gets around fast, especially when it’s about a single man who doesn’t “get it”. As a single man you should set up rules to follow and realize couples will have their set of rules and boundaries. Make sure, oh please make sure, you ask what is and is not OK when interacting with couples. The slightest wrong move and even though you didn’t mean to offend them could cost you many referrals. And who doesn’t remember the highest form of flattery is a referral.

The stark reality is this.. The vast majority of people on the site are males..The vast majority of couples looking for males are abundantly blessed and cursed at the same time...The amount of time and energy they have to invest in finding the right guy is couples are looking for a long or semi long term play you find them,look after just want you for a one off night to fulfill a fantasy.... Treat them all with the highest respect
Once your profile is ready to go, don't be afraid to make contact with a couple or single female. Scout the site and look for a couple or female that catches your eye. 

This part is critical. READ THEIR ENTIRE PROFILE. Do not contact a couple or single female that states "no single males" or "not interested in single males" Just don't do it! Make sure you know what 'they' are looking for and that you are a match before making contact.  
A. Put some thought into what you are going to say.

B. Attach a face picture to your message or have your gallery open,

C. Don't ask to see more pictures of her, or tell them how hot she is. Trust me, they know.

D. Be subtle and intelligent with your words. Don't be a tool.

E. Do not be afraid of rejection or in most cases no response at all, move on.

Although I am now in my 50's I still get way more then my share of invitations.I look after my health and am in reasonable shape.I treat people with respect... Show up for an arranged meeting....so so important that one
Look at my profile again..I have been on this site a long time.. As a single guy it takes time to build trust with you have done that,believe me...word gets around

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Quote by Jojo32

Many pages have been written by couples,who so desperately seek the right single guy...I can imagine the frustration,with so many single guy profiles,yet so many unreliable and simply put assholes out there.
There are some rules out there and have been spoken about many times rules are set in stone for the couples and some may have a slight variation on them
Before I go too much farther I need people to have a look at my guys message me and ask me how do I do it.. You will notice that I am a more mature guy,yet I have numerous vouches from singles and is not rocket science,in fact it is simple
“Wanna fuck” or “meet me tonight” will almost certainly get you deleted and blocked. Introduce yourself, read the couples profile and quote something from it to prove you have taken the time to read it, ask to be considered for future you have made contact be very respectful, not only of them but also of their boundaries. Remember, you are the third party.  If it is a truly secure couple that are in love with each other, you are there for their enjoyment and pleasure. That’s not to say that you aren’t expected to enjoy yourself too. They should be as respectful to you as you are to them.
Word gets around fast, especially when it’s about a single man who doesn’t “get it”. As a single man you should set up rules to follow and realize couples will have their set of rules and boundaries. Make sure, oh please make sure, you ask what is and is not OK when interacting with couples. The slightest wrong move and even though you didn’t mean to offend them could cost you many referrals. And who doesn’t remember the highest form of flattery is a referral.
The stark reality is this.. The vast majority of people on the site are males..The vast majority of couples looking for males are abundantly blessed and cursed at the same time...The amount of time and energy they have to invest in finding the right guy is couples are looking for a long or semi long term play you find them,look after just want you for a one off night to fulfill a fantasy.... Treat them all with the highest respect
Once your profile is ready to go, don't be afraid to make contact with a couple or single female. Scout the site and look for a couple or female that catches your eye. 
This part is critical. READ THEIR ENTIRE PROFILE. Do not contact a couple or single female that states "no single males" or "not interested in single males" Just don't do it! Make sure you know what 'they' are looking for and that you are a match before making contact.  
A. Put some thought into what you are going to say.
B. Attach a face picture to your message or have your gallery open,
C. Don't ask to see more pictures of her, or tell them how hot she is. Trust me, they know.
D. Be subtle and intelligent with your words. Don't be a tool.
E. Do not be afraid of rejection or in most cases no response at all, move on.
Although I am now in my 50's I still get way more then my share of invitations.I look after my health and am in reasonable shape.I treat people with respect... Show up for an arranged meeting....so so important that one
Look at my profile again..I have been on this site a long time.. As a single guy it takes time to build trust with you have done that,believe me...word gets around

 if only more guys and people in general could and did follow these elementary guidelines. Very well said Jojo32!

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It is so true. 

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Hit the nail on the head.  So frustrating having to wade through all the muck to find the rare diamond.

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And don't send a message.... ek is lus on my pi## in jou vrous se p### in te druk... then wonder why you do not receive a reply.

Just because people play does not mean they crude, common and sluts.

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Very well written, if people just take time to read and put effort in to sending messages they will see that they get more replies 

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I have a framed meme in my office that sums up the road to success very well. 

10 golden rules for achieving success 

1. Dont be a doos 

2. Dont be a doos 

3 dont be a doos 


And so on and so on . I find that's good advice to anyone not achieving the success they crave 

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Just read the vouches and if need be contact the person who vouched

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Not all couples are comfortable with vouching for males. Especially couples that don’t want to expose they have been playing with another race. I have played with couples that are white and they never vouched for me though we met only many occasions to play. So difficult to judge a single male. Only option to give the person if interested a chance to get to know them first before making a decision.