There aren't too many single people in the community who are active on a very regular basis.
It's frustrating, I've definitely had my issues with being a single gal in the community.
What was refreshing was talking too other ladies,and they too expressed some of the same issues I have , but I am not going there today.
While I definitely didn't think my experiences and perceptions are unique, they aren't something I hear too ofte, as being shared by other people.
It was/is good to hear,it is not just me.
It totally got me thinking too.
While I have no shortage of people to play with if I wanted to.
I choose to look for a long term NSA ONE gent to do this with.
But
I often don't know for sure that I'll will be playing at all during a specific week.
And then I also get stood up!!!!!
More that once I might add, just like today.
Things then like sudden *once off mails* and flirts asking for a *quickie* is just NOT me.
As a single woman I understand that there are two sides to everything.
I am going to suspend my understanding for this post and point out a couple things that I feel are sometimes forgotten.
People who would frown to this side of me,(meeting and playing with new people)or anybody else doing the same for that matter.
Sometimes, I DO play with new people… don't judge me.
Remember..
I don't have a REGULAR male partner to rely on to play with.
Is if sometimes, if I get a compelling enough offer I will play with someone who I have only recently met, sue me.
It came up in a few discussions that I was being too liberal with who I was playing with,and that I might be just to choosy for my own good.
It's is something I have heard before. But then, it is my right to choose. Or decide with whom I do what with ,when I want.
I just want to remind people who are in relationships.
That in order to STOP playing with new people, I need to find someone I like playing with regularly, to begin with.
I am in the lifestyle.
I always make certain we play safe.
How many partners I have or had....is so totally my own business.
It does not mean I want to play with every person who makes contact with me.
I do not think it is a strange notion myself, but apparently people need reminding sometimes.
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