Guys are your ladies really into this or are they scared the

12 Oct 2014

Hi Married Couples Have you "really" discussed this kind of lifestyle with your partner. I am not generalising here but as a women I get the feeling that a lot of the women on this site are only participating to keep their men happy. It funny how all the men will chat to me and discuss sex, likes and dislikes for hours and my hubby only gets an "OK" - "that's nice" and "I don't know". Please guys don't put your lady in this space if she is not totally happy with it - it frustrates the other guys and the ladies can feel the negativity around. We have had good play times with couples that are totally open with each other and understand it's only playing but more times than not it doesn't work if there is an ice queen in the room. Just something to think about and the two of you cannot talk openly and honestly with each other - I mean discuss, listen and most of all hear what she is really trying telling you. Just my thoughts - any comments welcome - for or again

13 Oct 2014

Hi, welcome! Well, my girlfriends (not vanilla) and I all agree, one of the best indications of future good playtime, is when you find a profile that's largely manned and run by the female partner of the couple. When we find them, we make extra effort to make a meet happen.

13 Oct 2014

well with the last comment that was made that will also explain a lot the women then only look for super hunks. and that i have a problem with. pls understand i do not say the person must be ugly you looking for but if the lady just picks the other cpl or guy because she likes how the guy looks. then is it not boarding on. never mind. guys if your lady is the one that keeps on picking the men or cpl and you land up where you dont like the other lady because she is a ice queen. dont you think jy het dit lat vir jou eie gat gepluk. and same goes if she picks the guy for mmf. she is then not picking the guy for just the fun side but rather for how she can oo and aa about the guy instead of oo and aa about you her partner and guys if you picked the lady/cpl and the lady turned out to be a ice queen then you can not blame it on your partners. but your self. Joyrider oops did it again

13 Oct 2014

Hang on, are you saying that it only matters what the man in the couple wants? Like the guys who are doing all the choosing, aren't doing it because the female of the couple isn't worth oo-ing & aa-ing about? Ha ha. I imagine that the best way to choose is to do it together. ..

14 Oct 2014

I imagine that the best way to choose is to do it together. ..
LeeEC now I agree with you Joy and I choose together our play mates then not her or I can complain afterwards.
Joyrider
The only way it works is if you both into it.

14 Oct 2014

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