ok, I don't know if this question was here before buttttt.
what should one expect on your first swing? ok so you've met the peeps once or twice and everyone is onboard. and finally planned a night of fun.
how can the evening of swinging start off? what's the dos and don'ts if this is your first time.
we are not first time swingers, but would have liked some pointers from the get go.
when, where, how, what
is it fine to tease through out the night before the big nasty? should you ask first? and and and?
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Orgasminator
For us it's about relaxing and not forcing the issue.
Make sure you and your partner are happy to move to the next step and keep communication with each other, Don't get so lost in the moment you neglect your partner.
Try read the body language of the other couple and if you really not sure, ask and be honest with them, they either in the same boat or have been there.
Limit your expectations, relax and have fun. We like to socialize, have a drink or something to eat. It should be like any other social encounter with the exception that things may or may not go further.
Mike has some very good advice there.
In our experience things generally develop naturally. Some flirting and touching will ease everyone into the mood. I think the flirting and teasing is half the fun anyway!
Some naughty games are also good to relax everyone.
And just remember, everyone is probably feeling exactly the way you are.
I get what your saying mike, the whole do not exceed your expectations. our first time was like that...we though this was gonna be WOW, but at the end of the night it was just plain sex with a different person. nothing was forced, as we knew that we all were going to have sex that night. so everyone was just chilling with a drink, and about 2 hours later, the dude started to fondle my wife's boobs a bit, and only then, I realized that we are actually going to swing now, and that I was ok with what I saw, and that it made me so horny. no lust I've ever felt before.
we have been seeing a new couple for a few months now, and we are actually better friends than swing buddies, we get along very well and can talk about anything. but I am not sure as to how they feel about teasing while we are all just having a braai, we all know that something is going to happen, we are just not sure as to when to start. we are really great friends now, but we are not sure if they will be ok with a bit of teasing, as I'm sure that there are couples that all march to the bedroom like soldiers and start swinging. were not like that, wed like the whole night to be a sexy lusty experience, not just the bedroom part.
Orgasminator
Well I think for your first time a game is an easy way to start. One that I think is cool is kamapoker. It includes strip poker with some fondling and touching to get you excited whilst also still being fun.
The other one I've played is strip bullshit. The idea is you have cup with 2 dice, you roll and the peek at the result, using the numbers you say a value, so a 3 and 2 is 32. After that you pass the cup to the next player and they try to roll a higher number. If they can't beat it they can lie and say 42 for example and pass to the 3rd player. Here the 3rd player has a choice, he can call the bluff and say bullshit or roll and beat 42. If he calls bull and is correct the lier strips an item, if the player was telling the truth then the guy calling bull strips for being wrong. This game is quick and is a great icebreaker when you start laughing at catching out each other.
The other one I've played is strip bullshit. The idea is you have cup with 2 dice, you roll and the peek at the result, using the numbers you say a value, so a 3 and 2 is 32. After that you pass the cup to the next player and they try to roll a higher number. If they can't beat it they can lie and say 42 for example and pass to the 3rd player. Here the 3rd player has a choice, he can call the bluff and say bullshit or roll and beat 42. If he calls bull and is correct the lier strips an item, if the player was telling the truth then the guy calling bull strips for being wrong. This game is quick and is a great icebreaker when you start laughing at catching out each other.
