Hi all,
We would like to find out if there are couples out there who actively lead or maybe have led in the past the concept known as a Female Led Relationship. Maybe there are peeps who are considering it, because after all woman are much better geared to lead a relationship. Would love to have someone local to chat to about this, maybe even start a group.
The reason this concept is well suited within the swinging fraternity is simply because cuckolding may or may not be used within this.
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While I do not have a specific opinion of the "female led relationship" I do want to agree with what you say about it being well suited in the lifestyle, not only from a cuckold viewpoint, but also seeing as the majority of people have the "lady rules" mindset.
I do however think that the vast majority of South African males would violently disagree with the concept of woman being in charge (well publicly anyway 
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) The post was interesting up until I read the "after all, women are much better geared to lead a relationship"... :twisted:
Call me old fashioned but a man is king of his castle. When the woman leads, then debt happens, cupboards full of shoes instead of cupboards full of food, useless and costly ornaments all over the house, chick flicks every Wednesday night, an over paid domestic worker... And ultimately, a good man always looking for reason to be at the pub with his buddies to avoid the company of his NAG...
Don't misunderstand me, the woman has as much say and she must be part of every decision but ultimately, the man should have the final say in major matters... Especially swinging.
Here it comes.......
I (the male part of Cupidcouple) hear you Stamina. Yet.....we are of opinion that that is the way it has always traditionally been instilled on us. Things from our concervative past had us always think the man should be in charge.... Think of what happened in our ...uhm lets call it pre historic days. Men were the hunter, Woman the gatherers. All men really do is go out hunting, and bringing home the beef. Woman on the other hand did all other things....making them best suited to make decisions.
In history many woman made great leaders.... lets face it, in many respects woman lead in any case. Especially when it comes to sex, woman just seem to have their own way....no matter how men feel about it
The strange thing about FLR though....it actually leeds to more sex, and much more intimacy.
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I (the male part of Cupidcouple) hear you Stamina. Yet.....we are of opinion that that is the way it has always traditionally been instilled on us. Things from our concervative past had us always think the man should be in charge.... Think of what happened in our ...uhm lets call it pre historic days. Men were the hunter, Woman the gatherers. All men really do is go out hunting, and bringing home the beef. Woman on the other hand did all other things....making them best suited to make decisions.
In history many woman made great leaders.... lets face it, in many respects woman lead in any case. Especially when it comes to sex, woman just seem to have their own way....no matter how men feel about it
The strange thing about FLR though....it actually leeds to more sex, and much more intimacy.
I have to agree on that.. women are the bosses, they just let us think we are in control... Sly blerry devils... he he he... But what gets me is how many men I know that have wives or girlfriends that totally control them and they submit. I sometimes have to tell them to grow a pair! Case in point: My one good friend literally jumps every time his other half snaps her fingers. They had a baby on Friday and she chose the name, he did not like the name but was told that he has no say as she carried the child for 9 months. Today, I was at his work place for a visit and politely invited him out for a lunch and a beer, he had to phone her from work and ask her permission, she said no.
So I guess sometimes a man must be a man...
Congratulations too cupdicouple.
At last a new NICE topic to chew and differ on!!!
I can see some really INTERESTING conversations and different opinions from this thread
MY own opinion will fall on both sides of the coin.
I strongly believe in a partner with equal say relationship.
I will answer my own opinion on each comment as it is posted!
@ SDMR . I think your comment was spot on for the swingers lifestyle and for male species in SA
@ Stamina. Would you say that in a household of 2 females we are wasters and only live in dept??Just because we do not have testosterone in our home??
I can not only give you a one on one account of every household where the gent is the *wasters* and takers...and the poor women slave to provide raise her kids and try and maintain stable household.
But I also know it has the reverse where the women is the culprit of the above.
I also know we do get *stable homes* where BOTH parties have equal right and work and play time.
As for having to ask permission and to saying yes and amen to either of the spouses...I agree there should be some FREEDOM for each partner to grow in their own again the coin has both sides.
I also know that in today`s environment (white)males do NOT have a great future,and as they become older that increases , thus the wive has a better future to *earn* and we do get the stay at home Dads these days.
Once again I have to say IT is NOT only in the white community,there is other ethnic groups with the same problem.
I also have an increasingly response to me as a older*single* female from VERY young gents, whom I suspect is looking for a *free ride* and a Mommy figure to provide for if you chat LONG enough you will find they have no regular job.
(Ermm sorry guys, this is my own paranoid thinking sometimes)
@ cupidcouple
In a 24/7 Fetish household where the gent is submissive towards the lady,we do not really find this often, but they are out there. It usually is a happy I have to say, the few couples I have met, is happy.
I am going to keep my eye on this threat as it might become very interesting!!
Hi all,
Well me be open about this, we decided to experiment with this. Yes i (male part of cupidcouple) say experiment as we both have (and in some cases HAD) reservations to this way of life. SO, yes PiB you are absolutely right, in that balance is the key. There are 5 main foodgroups in life, and you as couple decide (beforehand) which groups are controlled by whom. Some groups may even be devided into more detail little groups, and then its decided who controls what.
Lets take the SEX foodgroup. We decided to share most but have her control some. This equates that we both get to initiate, however she controls the orgasms (yes sometimes by means of denial of orgasms, and yes sometimes it takes having towear a male chastity device). Yet all this makes for a MUCH better relationship. I as man know exactly where I stand, what my responsibilities are etc. For that matter she know exactly where she stands.
Ultimately this leads tome as man really deaply wanting to be the best possible man for my godess.
I give an example, every day she arrives from work, my very first action is to strip naked, and then massage her feet for at least and hour. During this time, we take time to discuss the day, and deaply chat.
Offcourse men are goal orientated, and in doing this (and numerous other things for her pleasure) i as man aim to be rewarded,, however if I dont, or if it purposfully ruined or stiffled, I am still happy, as her gain is my pleasure.
You may now think ¬ you woes - however I guarantee you that Iget more and better sex than most guys out there. Woman are strange, the more you give, the more they want and the more the recipucate.
Ok so that is sex..... i also give her control of my free time, she gets me to do things for her, but there are also the times that she will force me to go have drinks with the boys.... what more can I want?
On the other food groups we have equal say (things like finances, life direction, etc.) And each has a veto right.
For one thing (and PiB you are right on the money again) there is MUCH less strife in our relationship as we have a very specific conflict resolution procedure, which starts with......yes, you guessed it ....who controls what.
@ cupidcouple
Thanks for the more detailed explanation of how your relationship works!! And it sounds great!!!
I am wondering how it will work once you have kiddies?? Just thinking of the nude foot rub and *catch up* you guys enjoy now.
I know a few couples who is in a D/s relationship24/7 and they have a code.
Everything is *normal* untill the kids are in bed.
Then the lady if she is the Subbie, she might turn her engagement ring around to indicate she is in sub mode.
the gents would do something similar.
Life is really interesting I think!!!
Thanks once again for sharing.
Pity that not a lot of comments/ideas/experience were made here !
