I have refrained from posting in the forums for a while now but I have been logging on to the site daily. I have a procedure that I follow... log on, check home page for any changes, read messages (if there are any by some miracle), read forum posts that might interest me, check the first 3 pages of the gallery, check new joined members, log off (disappointed but not surprised).
In following this little routine of mine, I find myself somewhat disgusted with much that I see. What has happened to attraction, courtship, romance, passion, etc? So many men (and almost as many ladies) on here just wanting a quick "frustration reliever". Do they even know the true pleasures of pursuing and impressing a potential "sex partner". The thrill of the chase is what makes it all worth while. No don't get me wrong here, I am not saying that one must pursue and court a female for months and then get her fathers permission to marry her and finally do the deed on your wedding night... I am simply saying that the fruit is so much sweeter if you let it ripen before you pick it.
How can a quick meet through a website and a meaningless 5 minute hump session beat the following: See a girl and feel the attraction develop. Talk to her and let her know you are interested. Take her out a few times. Go to a resort for a picnic and enjoy each others company. When she is finally ready to "give it up", prepare your venue, make sure it is impeccably clean, lay your best bed linen (or go buy some if yours is crappy), keep her comfortable and relaxed when she is with you... finally the kissing starts, caressing, touching, slow romantic developments with all the fun mouth and hand play in between lead up to passionate sex. lasting sex... Feel the curves of her body, enjoy her touch, caress her soft smooth skin, enjoy the visuals - the way she looks... Make sure she has as much or more pleasure than you do because after all, she has waited just as long for this moment. All the hard work and effort coupled with anticipation has made that night so much more enjoyable and memorable. Those looking for "a hole for their pole" miss out on the pleasures that a good old fashioned courtship can provide.
As the title says - "call me old fashioned" but nothing beats classic romantic courtship and the meaningfull sex that follows. Even "NSA" sex should follow this routine to make it just that much sweeter. "Love making" beats "fucking" any day!
Just thought I would share my views...
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Discussion: Call me old fashioned...
Stamina a great post!
NSA - " lets have some fun without creating any obligations beyond the moment." - That's :swingingchair: for you.
I doubt many on this Site or indeed any Site share your opinion, there are Dating Sites for that ( Maybe some people will find that - but most are here for NSA )
I'll not post a link / screen image of an image of the current " Dating Sites" available in SA.
Master of Sex
Well in october 2012 when I joined this site, a guy messaged me and we moved it to email then what's app. We chatted on and off and in early 2013 we decided to meet for coffee. It was sort of a random decision, but when we saw each other for the first. Time it was like "ZING!!". After coffee we decided to hook up and thought it would just be a casual encounter. A year later we were dating. We broke up and now are back together. So I suppose its about chemistry, if people have that connection and that sort of attraction it'll happen dating site or not.
But yes the good all days of actually "earning a woman" and whooing her are missed. Then again if u match u match.
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Well in october 2012 when I joined this site, a guy messaged me and we moved it to email then what's app. We chatted on and off and in early 2013 we decided to meet for coffee. It was sort of a random decision, but when we saw each other for the first. Time it was like "ZING!!". After coffee we decided to hook up and thought it would just be a casual encounter. A year later we were dating. We broke up and now are back together. So I suppose its about chemistry, if people have that connection and that sort of attraction it'll happen dating site or not.
But yes the good all days of actually "earning a woman" and whooing her are missed. Then again if u match u match.
I couldn't agree more with stamina. I'm typically the same. For me it's about creating a connection, a bond, something deeper than just the physical. For some reason it feels different, better.
@kitty, earning a woman, yes I agree. But don't forget it's not a one way street. A woman also needs to earn a guy jut my 2c worth
Master of Sex
Quote by Funwithcouples
Well in october 2012 when I joined this site, a guy messaged me and we moved it to email then what's app. We chatted on and off and in early 2013 we decided to meet for coffee. It was sort of a random decision, but when we saw each other for the first. Time it was like "ZING!!". After coffee we decided to hook up and thought it would just be a casual encounter. A year later we were dating. We broke up and now are back together. So I suppose its about chemistry, if people have that connection and that sort of attraction it'll happen dating site or not.
But yes the good all days of actually "earning a woman" and whooing her are missed. Then again if u match u match.
I couldn't agree more with stamina. I'm typically the same. For me it's about creating a connection, a bond, something deeper than just the physical. For some reason it feels different, better.
@kitty, earning a woman, yes I agree. But don't forget it's not a one way street. A woman also needs to earn a guy jut my 2c worth.
It is definately a give and take i just meant that nowadays some mean act like women are meant to just spread em, especially on a site like this. Theres no old school enticing or seduction , just a race to get the cookie. That goes for men and women. And thank you to the old fashioned guys- i appreciate ur efforts.
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Cheers to the old fashioned boys! !!
Seems like there are not many of us left out here in the wilderness. Quite sad really.
Going slightly off track here, but something I have noticed for quite some time, that both men and women (in a certain age group) are just less tolerant of certain things, more self absorbed, and quite rude. That's just my experience, especially of late.
Sex God
Quote by Funwithcouples
Cheers to the old fashioned boys! !!
Seems like there are not many of us left out here in the wilderness. Quite sad really.
Going slightly off track here, but something I have noticed for quite some time, that both men and women (in a certain age group) are just less tolerant of certain things, more self absorbed, and quite rude. That's just my experience, especially of late.
How very true.
But this kind of thing has to happen when things like basic morals, respect, responsibility and accountability are largely removed from every day life.
Reminds me of the concept . . . . "Be yourself, just differently" . . . .
I personally LIKE old fashioned guys!!! Lucky for me, they mostly fall into MY age group!!!!
Please note I say MOSTLY.....there is younger gents who is also *old school* in treating ladies as ladies ,and not just as an unpaid off course there are old *dogs* as well who is really worse than some youngsters.
The thrill of the *hunt* is nice...it is stomach turning or flipping and adrenaline filled, I do however become uncomfortable when the person I am pursuing becomes *romantically inclined*, as I am already in a relationship. BUT I do need attraction, chemistry and some humor and at least a friendship basis to enjoy myself.
