I’ve been on SH for a while now, and I’ve learned a few things.

I joined because I enjoy a bit more than what my wife allows and as the Afrikaans saying goes: “Verbode vrugte is lekker.”

But honestly, sometimes it feels like you need to do a full engagement proposal just to get anywhere.

For me, I’m straightforward. I enjoy sex, and that’s what SH is about for me. I also understand that some people are looking for more, like friendship or even a dating partner, and that’s perfectly fine. SIMPLY then, be upfront about it in your profile.

I recently saw a post from a lady, beautiful, maybe not everyone’s “type” in terms of weight — and it was actually sad to read what her date/partner said to her. No one deserves that.

At the end of the day, it comes down to this:

before meeting up,

be clear about what you want and what you expect.

It saves everyone time,

avoids hurt,

it could bring a great change

the whole experience could have a much better outcome

for everyone involved.