Swinging, also known as partner sharing, partner or wife swapping, or sometimes simply as "The Lifestyle" is consenting adults enjoying the experience of having sexual relationships with (multiple) partners other than their spouse.
The site is what it is, a platform for the more liberated out there to indulge themselves with others of a similar nature and ok for some it doesn’t work but that’s life in general. The thing is, this is not a "Sex dating site". It's a swinging site. If you are a single guy and can’t already find success at the vanilla single clubs, bars & online tools like Tinder than you probably shouldn’t try the lifestyle.
A common misconception is that swingers have sex with anyone. Swinging is not the solution for single horny guys seeking easy sex.
Remember that as a single man, you're one among many thousands wanting to get involved in the swinging scene. You have to shine/stand out in some way and put in a bit of work to succeed. I have put together an unofficial Guide / Rule book for those single guys that really want to join the lifestyle
As a single male you are more likely to get action with a couple, than you are with a single girl. Keep in mind that couples within the lifestyle are there because of their own enjoyment, not yours. Become familiar with the lifestyle, the expectations and also the facts.
We have met allot of Awesome single guys on Swingingheaven that are in a class of their own. These are guys that put a bit of effort in and are enjoying the Success (Action) that they are getting.
Quite a lot of guys seem to think all they need do is send a wink, one liner and cock shot and they'll get laid. These are the same guys who have no social graces and those who see themselves as god’s gift to women, and as a result no woman wants to know them. The ones that need to realize that just because they are on a swinger site does not guarantee them sex
Tips for Single Men that will help you.
Remember the supply/demand ratio is not in the single man’s favour so the single man needs to work harder to stand out from the very crowded field of other single men.
Don't contact a woman and try arrange a meeting when her husband isn't present. It is a rookie mistake for a single guy to forget that swinging couples are a team. Most swingers aren't out there cheating on their spouse. To achieve success ultimately, you'll need to be the favourable guy with the husband as well.
Your Profile – One of the most important things to understand is that this is not a traditional dating profile. A well written profile show's members that you are very serious about meeting others. Be clear about your requirements, likes, and dislikes. Be yourself, be positive. Sell yourself.
Don’t imitate or try to be something you are not. People can spot fake swingers profiles in an instant.
Don’t just write a one sentence or leave your profile blank.
A Blank profile that you are not really interested in taking the time to fill it out, so you will probably not be willing to invest in chatting or meeting or actually following through with anything. Blank profile = TIME WASTER
Be not only honest, but current. Update your profile constantly. Tastes change, and yours will too!
Give enough information for people to make a decision about you. There are thousands of personal pages. Yours is one. Get to the point. Provide a brief overview of what you would like to do, who would you like to do it with, and list any sex acts that you have particular interest in. Don’t count on the profile types or the checkboxes to let people know what you are interested in—tell your story.
Keep it short. Under 500 words. You're just trying to get people interested enough to respond to the first email. Make sure you present yourself in the best light
Don't exaggerate your looks, ability, wealth etc. If you are 30 say 30, if 50 say 50. Ladies are more interested in the real you than an age, but if they catch you lying about one thing, they will not trust you on anything else!
You're asking to be brought into someone's sexual relationship. Be mindful and respectful of that. If you say you're looking to "bang bored housewives," or "give them what they really want," you're disrespecting half of the people you're looking to hook up with. This isn't like trying to pick up a 20-year-old Bimbo!
Be a gentleman in addition to a classy guy. Just because a woman likes sex does not imply she likes vulgar language or innuendos. Politeness and social skills tend to be more essential in this lifestyle than simply about any place else.
Don’t insult a member’s intelligence by pretending that you are a couple on your profile, “My wife wanted me to come here first on my own to test it out, What about you and I play now?” Every swinger has heard that line repeatedly. You might as well say hey my wife’s at church and you are cheating on her. Does your wife even know that you are "both" on here?
Pictures - If you are sending a picture, or putting a picture on your profile follow a few simple rules. Unless requested, always send a face & body shot, don't use cock shots, girls look at eyes, hands, bums, legs and hair before they look at cocks. It may be your pride and joy, but it is more likely to lose you responses than gain them for you. If they do want to see your 8"monster they will ask.
Don't post an old photo of yourself because you think you look good, post something that actually looks like you.
If you can provide a face shot without worry, you should do so. Anyone who posts a real photo that clearly shows what they look like in real life gets a LOT more attention The basic rule of thumb is simple, The better the pictures, the better your responses. Make yourself look like the kind of person (or couple) you’d want to hang out with.
Responding to an Advert - Always be polite. Tell the advertiser what you like about their ad. Make sure that you fit the description of the person the advertiser is looking for, and reiterate the points where you fit the description. If you enclose a picture show your face - most people like to see the person, rather than a shot of genitalia. If they like the look of you, they will then ask for another picture, a nude one if they want it. (Some people do want nude pictures from the start, but they will usually say so in their ad). Keep the language clean, match your response to the ad.
Don't send them a 2000 word essay outlining your every fantasy and experience to date; you can go into these details later. Remember first impressions count, be polite, open, and to the point without being blunt.
Don’t respond to an ad asking for a 27 something blue eyed, blonde male if you are 45, grey hair and brown eyes - you will just frustrate the advertiser by clogging up their mail box.
Contacting a Member – Make sure you have your profile set up before you send your first swinger message. Always fully read the profile to check you are what they are looking for or in fact, if they are looking at all.. Never do a copy and paste messages, the type you may send to everyone, as this could show you have not read a profile, because something in your copy and paste message does not match them or what they are looking for.
Don’t SEND A WINK OR A GENERIC MESSAGE!
Be patient, people don't always check their emails or maybe travelling. Most swingers also have family responsibilities that come first, Just keep trying, after all sending an email doesn't require a lot of effort.
Don't be Pushy!
Don’t waste your time or make enemies by spamming uninterested swingers. Focus only on couples that have explicitly stated they are open to single guys.
No Couple likes to see a message from someone who doesn't meet their "looking for" criteria, who's obviously did not read their profile text, and has attached 16 cock shot photos
1st Meeting - Turn Up, On time, remember - You only have one chance to make a first impression - screw up the first meeting and you are history. You will be seen as timewaster, and couples talk. If you make a good impression they will probably meet you again, they may share you with their friends, and take you to parties.
Make a bad impression and the word will go around that you are no good; your chances of swinging again will drop to zero.
Almost all couples possess a list of rules when they play with someone, ask about them beforehand. Do not attempt to Break them. You will fail!
If you do the basics above i guarantee you will be successful.
