I haven't checked some of the dude's ads but heard a lot of complaints about their ads and how they be pulling a no show, 4 out of the 6 I've seen from women aswel, @Sexysam that's awful because there are some of the legit guys who decides not to post ADs or reply to ads for different reasons, either the ad is old or the scruffy dude has filled the spot, however like they say "you will kiss few frogs before getting to the Prince", surely that bartender cannot wait for your next visit

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Honestly I don't see why one "black guy" should be putting a best performance for anyone who says they don't cross race barrier, this sounds like favour is being done when you say one should be flattered & feel special being approached by such. 
My opinion is anyone curious of crossing racial lines must be the one putting an extra effort & going all out to prove they are ready and not just wasting one's time. What is the probability of those saying they don't cross racial line ever crossing it?? 

 

IT WAS SAID AS A LIGHT HEARTED JOKE. NOT EVERYTHING HAS TO BE  A SERIOUS ISSUE.
What is the probability of those saying they don't cross racial line ever crossing it?? About 40% from the people I've spoken to.

 Interesting conversation and something we often discuss. With being an interracial couple especially. When we browse profiles, as soon as profile has a statement of such, out of respect for the the person or couples preferences, we pass. After all, if we as a couple don't meet the requirements of the other party, there is no point. 

On the flip side, we are contacted by numerous (well over 40%) people (couples, women and men) who have this listed on their profiles and want to chat and meet. Now we are not sure if this is because we would be "the exception to the rule" or what the reason is. But as part of our requirements we don't engage with profiles who have this statement. 
Similarly to these profiles, we have a statement of, if race is an issue please pass us by. 
We don't take offense, we have our rules just as others have theirs. Two tit bits of advice
1. READ a profile
2. Respect the the profile
If you are offended, agree or disagree with the content of the profile is irrelevant. I am sure many disagree with our profile content and could be offended. 
Our 2c worth 

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You are supposed to be flattered that you are that special;  that the couple is curious about crossing the colour line with you.
You are then supposed to meet them and put on your Best performance to convert them for good. That's all
You must understand that what people put on their profile might be for a lot of reasons. The biggest one being "what others may think"
We have made huge progress forward but it's not there yet. 
Out of interest Would you put on your Facebook profile that you loves Afrikaans music. What would your friends and family say? 

 Mhhmmmm interesting POV, well on the last part it doesn't apply to me as I went to an Afrikaans school.......

Can someone please bring some sense, especially the folks with the tittle on their profiles. When I see that for me its a clear instruction and a specific preference, now at what point do I get a Private Message from such profiles and how am I supposed to react to it?

Hhehehehehe the drama people go thru on SH jeez.....

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I respect couples that want to stick to not crossing the color barrier it's they choice what gets me angry is when that same couple checks our profile and ask do you mind if we play with your wife only that's when I lose all respect 
A recent msg from a couple like this told me that they cross the barrier for women but not men for me that is unfair 
Well thats my 2cents worth 

 This Happened a lot while I was in PE, but I blocked every idiot that did that, as they will try and get all parties involed in a app group and then try to chat to you lady behind your back........... If one doesnt cross its fine and if one does cross its also fine, but dont be a bloody draadstter,,,,,,,,, 

I once had a lifestyle partner who in a party got jealous and lost it but I did not know that she had developed feelings for me, as I strongly believe that when that happens you pull the person out of the lifestyle, attachment is the last thing one wants to have however I understand women have a soft side of which they need to have a certain attraction towards you in order for them to sleep with you, of which when it happens frequently attachments do pop up somehow. 

Damn Sam I understood you from the get go however as I read thru the comments, no1 followed the arrow 

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The day I see my pictures in a random google search is the day I Fist-Bump my wife and pat myself on the back! Only celebrities have their "Sex Tapes" leaked... Us Mortals have to leak our own Sex Tapes. I stand on William Nicol giving out free dvds. Lol

 HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA 

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I respect everyone's right to have preferences with regard their racial boundaries.
What I hate is when they can clearly see we are a mixed race couple but yet send messages that "we like your profile". Click on our pics and like it.
We get enough cold shoulders at parties and clubs. Why is it difficult to just ignore us on the site.
You have made your choice and we respect that. Do us the favour and move along when it comes to our profile.
I would ordinarily not be a problem but not when it happens as often as it does.
Just saying.....

 Hey guys long time, I have taken a step back on the lifestyle cause of the exact same thing, and as a person who have met you and the distance you guys are willing to travel for a great time is something most can learn in here, I've had chat with women who are part of a couple profile, seems like its fear of the say "Once you go black.......", you are one of the couples I so wish were closer to JHB. One guy confused me saying that they don't mind a black couple but once the wife got involved he hit a U=turn whereas at the time making moves on my lady at the time, which left me with a question that "Its not actually the race thats an issue its the guys"

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Johan54 glad you solve the problem....but it could very well turned out bad as well.
 I also do not like sending face pix...will send full body pix...naked or clothed and blurr the face to give the other party a 90% idea of what they into...but do not want to send face pix...very hi risk..
yes some couples think you bullshitter ….but what else can you do.....?

 Simple! Just do not contact the people that asks a face pic from you .
Soos ons in Afrikaans se "Hou net verby "  :-)
We are upfront in our profile about face pics. For us the face is 90% and the body 10%. 
Different strokes for different folks

 100% 

Sad part is this is messing it up for everyone