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We have our own erotica section.  The naming of other sites will go against the site AUP. 

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I will stand up sexy lady and say I read erotica and find myself lost in the pages for hours.
I post and use a really good site that allows budding authors to enthrall their readers.
there is nothing like sending a really erotic novel to your lover email and then read the same book and send him naughty videos because of it.



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 Hi there. Care to share the details of the site?

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on a overseas trip I answered the door in my g string only  on the waiter could not stop blushing it did turn me on a lot but only did it once but won’t do it South Africa it’s abit risky 

 Nice going. I love the boldness

 Do you think you will do it on SA 

 I think its worth a try here as long as I am with The Mrs every step of the way. Leaving her alone obviously increases the risk. Also you have the advantage of looking out of the window beforehand to see what the delivery guy looks like and amend the plan accordingly

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on a overseas trip I answered the door in my g string only  on the waiter could not stop blushing it did turn me on a lot but only did it once but won’t do it South Africa it’s abit risky 

 Nice going. I love the boldness

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Have contemplated. But this is South Africa. Safety has to take precedence. But have given some bar staff and waitron an "eyefull" on a few occasions...

 That is also a consideration. But is does sounds exciting though. Maybe a good idea would be to have the guy deliver a few times and build some sort of relationship and then surprise him. Lets hope the same guys delivers all the time, otherwise the take-aways will become costly

 there is also an option of people here who potentially own a take away franchise? Just a though. It does though remove the spontaneity from the equation. 

 Also a possibility but as you said its a bit pre-planned and takes a way from the excitement

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Have contemplated. But this is South Africa. Safety has to take precedence. But have given some bar staff and waitron an "eyefull" on a few occasions...

 That is also a consideration. But is does sounds exciting though. Maybe a good idea would be to have the guy deliver a few times and build some sort of relationship and then surprise him. Lets hope the same guys delivers all the time, otherwise the take-aways will become costly

Came across home made videos of ladies answering the door naked to the Pizza guy, Some of them even gave the guy some extras. 

Was wondering if anyone on here has been that bold?

Definitely Minx. 

Found this article on the internet

When you decide to swing, you don’t necessarily have this tidy list of pros and cons that occur in succession. It’s more of a swirling plethora of emotions as you and your partner explore a new terrain of possibilities within the relationship.

What is interesting about this new terrain, at least for most of us, is it is uncharted territory, so the “list” of pros and cons sort of materializes as you explore. This is all part of the joy you may experience in learning and deepening your relationship through swinging.

Swinging can do wonders for your relationship, so let’s start with the good news first — the pros! If you want to jump to the cons, .

This is my favorite pro because it brings the topic of sex off the shelf and pushes it to the front of the line.

I can’t think of anything more loving than to be open and honest with your partner about what you desire sexually. Being able to discuss those desires in a loving and nonjudgmental atmosphere only deepens and strengthens the love between the partners.

I can’t think of anything more loving than to be open with your partner about what you desire sexually.

I love when John and I can sit and or have deep conversations about how grateful we are to have such a satisfying sex life with each other.

Whether you are in a long-term marriage or just starting your relationship, swinging is a perfect avenue to experiment with different erotic fantasies.

Each new partner provides a slightly different prism in which to see sex.

What John and I have found in our swinging experiences is each new partner provides us with a slightly different prism in which to see sex… a kaleidoscope of movements and emotions and positions in which we gain a deeper insight into each other and what we enjoy sexually.

Bringing fears to the surface may not seem like a pro, but believe me when I say that getting them out in the open is so much better than keeping fears hidden.

Being able to talk about issues with your partner can open the door to deeper levels of trust.

In order to deal with our fears, we first must admit we have them. If it bothers you to have your spouse kiss a play partner, for instance, being able to talk about the issue with your partner can and will open the door to deeper levels of trust, honesty, and a team effort in dealing with whatever issues arise.

This can be a difficult one for those outside the swinging lifestyle to understand. How can between a couple?

I know before I became a swinger this was a question I had. I also realized how easy it can be to form opinions about certain lifestyle choices based on what we are told, not what we actually go out and try for ourselves.

Once I realized I was guilty of living my life on the foundation of what others said was correct instead of deciding for myself, I was able to cross that line in the sand and see what would happen if I .

John and I love experiencing the bonding that takes place when we share ourselves with others.

What I found out was, at least for John and I, the swinging lifestyle was a perfect fit. We are both highly sexual beings (which we also believe to be quite normal) and love being in our relationship with each other, but we also love experiencing the bonding that takes place when we share ourselves with others.

Not only does it satisfy what we believe to be an innate need for variety, but it also reminds us of how lucky and blessed we are to have each other. Plus it makes for some fantastic sexually-charged conversations!

I use this word quite often when I talk about the swinging lifestyle because I love the whole concept wrapped up in its definition. Most of the time you will hear that is the opposite of jealousy.

One way to work toward feeling compersion is to see jealousy as “constricted” and compersion as “expansive.”

I read recently in “ ” by Kathy Labriola that one way to work toward feeling compersion is to see jealousy as a “constricted” state and compersion being an “expansive” state.

I love this! I know how much better I feel when I have room to move about, to throw my arms out wide and be free. I also know the feeling of constriction, when something is tightly bound, when I am unable to move, the almost panic that can ensue from this constriction.

If I can keep this image in the forefront of my mind when it comes to my partner, then I will be more conscious of when my behavior or response creates a constricted atmosphere or one of freedom.

We prefer a booty call. As we have to drive vast distances to a arrange any sort of play there is no time for niceties and getting to know people. ( Small town syndrome) Mostly the wham bam thank you ma'am scenario suits us.

Most of you guys missed the point. The point being that if your profile says that you do not cross the racial line then stop looking at our profile over and over again and even makes comments on how you like this and like that. That is the only point being made here. 

The writer of the post never criticize people for having preferences. He want to bring across the point that those people should not be hypocritical. 

I hear a new term everyday and have to run to google. I have compiled a list in the attempt to educate and learn myself. Feel free to edit correct or add

SWINGING GLOSSARY
The Lifestyle
The Lifestyle is a term that was first used in the 1970's and is basically a modern version
of the term "Swingers"; however, most people in “The Lifestyle” feel it is more
encompassing that just swinging. It includes people that are sexually open minded in
general.
Full Swap
Full Swap is generally when a couple fully swaps partners, including intercourse.
Soft Swap
Soft Swap is when couples exchanges partners, but do not have intercourse. Generally it
is limited to swapping orally and/or heavy petting.
GG or Girl-Girl
Girl-Girl is where just the women play and the men watch, and/or join their partners, but
do not have any interaction with the other person’s partner.
Same Room
If someone says they are interested in "Same Room" this may mean they are interested
in Full Swap Same Room, or it may mean they are interested in having sex with their
partner in the same room another couple is having sex and watching each other.
Bull
A “bull” is a guy that is just for casual sex with a female. Either single, or part of a couple.
Men that are considered "Bulls" are typically well endowed.
Unicorn
A Unicorn refers to a single woman in the Lifestyle. They are called Unicorns because
they are pretty rare, and many have never seen one!
MFM / FMF
MFM stands for Male, Female, Male. 2 men with 1 woman in a threesome. FMF stands
for Female, Male, Female. 2 women with 1 man in a threesome.
Safe Word or Phrase
A way to politely communicate with your partner that you are uncomfortable with the
situation or you are ready to leave. i.e. “I need to use the bathroom.”
Hot Wife
A Hot Wife is a wife that sets up casual sex dates with other men. Typically she or her
date will take photos and send them to the interested couple’s husband.
Hall Pass
This means that one of the individuals has permission to play on his or her own from their
partner.
Exhibitionists
These are people that enjoy having sex while other people watch and are not necessarily
Swingers.
Voyeurs
These are people that enjoy watching others have sex and are not necessarily Swingers.
Bi - Sexual
Bi - Sexuality is very common in the Lifestyle with women. Not only is it socially acceptable,
but it is encouraged. Bi - Sexuality with men is typically not socially acceptable and not
very common on the surface.
Tri - Sexual
Tri - Sexuality is commonly used to refer to a person who will “try” anything sexually.
Top & Bottom
These are terms that are more common in the Gay community, but occasionally come up
with Swingers especially if the Male is bi-sexual. Top means you are the "Giver", and
bottom means you the "Receiver."
Squirting
Squirting is Female Ejaculation. Use a LuvMat!
Newbies
Newbies are people new to the Lifestyle, or to a Lifestyle club or resort.
Vanilla
Vanilla refers to something that is non-Lifestyle. For example, a Vanilla Club, Vanilla
Friends or Party.
Private Adventure
Term used to describe nudist and/or swinging lifestyle that does not draw attention in a
negative way.
DP - Double Penetration.
One girl, two guys, but only one vagina! Solution? One penis in the Vagina the other in
the Butt.
Bare Back
Bare Back would refer to having intercourse without the use of a condom. This is generally
frowned upon in the Lifestyle.
Group Sex
Is a group of people all having sex. This is what most Vanilla people think swingers do
every Saturday night; however, it is rare occurrence. Swinging typically consists of two or
three couples. Remember, if you come upon a Group situation you still must ask
permission to join.
Off Premise
An Off Premise Club or Event is an event where sexual activates do not take place at the
event. These events typically take place at Hotels at Meet & Greets. These events also
normally sell alcohol.
On Premise
An On Premise Club or Event is where sexual activities take place at the event. If a
swingers club is On-Premise typically it is also BYOB. On Premise Swingers clubs have
areas or rooms set up for people to have sex or "play". Eyz Wide Shut is a rare swingers
club that has both.
House Party
A house party is a where a member of the Lifestyle hosts an on premise party at their
house.
Swingers Club / Social Club
Swingers Clubs are either On Premise or Off Premise. There are swingers clubs in most
countries of the world. These clubs are a safe place for people to meet and explore their
sexuality. These clubs are typically NOT high pressure environments, as some would
suspect.
Site
If someone asks "What site are you on?" They are referring to a Swingers Social site.
Swinger Name
Nickname or alter personality that a swinger couple uses to identify themselves to protect
their real identity or to describe their personalities. i.e. “SquirtFlirt” or “FifiandFriends.

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I have been once. BUT it was years ago!!!! A few years just after it started actually. We went with friends,but me not being a person who likes living in a caravan or tent it was so so. But the events was great. Nowadays It is huge with lots more, I believe. If you guys go, ENJOY!!!!!
Hope people who recently attended the events, will give you feedback.

 I hear there is a lot of nudity around and people live free. Is that so?

Adding to the original post I was just wondering if anyone ever met a family member at a club or swingers event

Has anyone been to the AfrikaBurn festival. Please tell us more

I also see no problem with the explicit material displayed. It is of good taste and fits the kind of site we are on. At the end people must do and post what they comfortable with. The only provisio of course that it should be real

We have to travel to Cape Town, PE or Bloem for action. That means traveling for sometimes up to 7 hours. And then people cancels or disappear. 

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Yeah likewise,come on all you lovely peeps,let’s start some form of code for us SH members if there isn’t one already 

 Sounds like an idea. How to get everyone on board is the challenge

We were also told some time back that black rings are an indication the a person is in the lifestyle. The problem with that is that black rings are now in fashion and very one seems to wear it and it is sold in almost all jewelry shops. This may lead to a huge misunderstanding

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1.  a long queue of guys waiting in line to have their cocks pleasured ... then seeing how many i can pleasure before i tap out of exhaustion.   
2.  and with the same guys.... depositing the fruits of my labour into a jug to see how full i can make it.
3.  having sex, to any degree, in a glass box located on a very busy street ... they can see me... i can't see them..... bring out the exhibitionist in me.
4. teaching a female, of couple or single female, how to give her partner the most amazing, sensual bj, that she enjoys so much she does not want it to end.
5.  an old one, but still on my bucket list.... converting a bi curious female to be completely bi, by being her first bi experience from start to end... even if she had played around with a female before but would like the full experience of kissing, bj, fingers, and all those other experiences she is willing to let herself enjoy with me.   I love bi curious females, or just curios females who are open to ff play.
6. bukaki ... where i am the target for the endings only.. no touching me in any way.  Just wank off and come all over me while i suck a hard cock for your visual stimulation.... teasing you, making you want to be the one my mouth is pleasuring,... ive been told i give amazing head, and it is amazing to watch as well...

 Love number 1. You go girl

Poor single people are always left out. No wonder it is all male lol

Check out the Singles Party in Cape Town under the Swingers Party section

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So I went back and read allot of the "Fact" stories. Lol! Ok I would like to apologize for my previous comment/defence of the stories. Some of them really push the boundry of reality and the supernatural. I suppose it's the same as when guys swop fishing stories... 
It's MY Story and I can Make My C#ck as BIG as I Want!
You can't really blame the guys for writing this shit. Obviously the Pretending to be in a relationship (And your wife approves and wants you to play alone while she is at an imaginary work thing) As well as using a woman's picture is not working, so this is the next step.
The more awesome and fantastic  you make yourself sound the sooner all the woman on here will phone and beg you to sleep with them...
We should call their bluff and arrange to play with them (To show us what Godlike studs they are in the sack)
They will be more nervous and lost then Jehovas Witnesses that you invite into your house.

 Well said PoohC

Agreed. There are some guys with a magical look or touch. They seem to get lucky everytime and in the most unexpected places. And they always get the compliment from the women that they are the biggest she ever had or the best orgasm she ever had. Stretching the truth is putting it mildly.

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Married Ladies please move on... Are you F#cking serious? 
With the amount of single ladies on this website that are actually active in meeting and playing compared to the amount of Single and Married guys looking to hook up is insane.
We decided a while back that we are here to have fun and to have the most awesome sex ever. 
We don't care if you are married or not. What you do in your life is your problem and we don't want to hear about your problems. We are all adults on this site for the same reason, do you dont have to give us a 2 hour speach about whu you are doing this behind your partners back. Bla bla bla
.We wouldn't do it behind each other's back but We do not judge you...
And why do the rules not apply to woman...
Don't you know Woman make up the Rules of swinging...
Oh another reason is ... I've had 7 married guys playing alone contact me while I'm writing this and only 1 married woman contact us in 6 years....
Married woman feel free to contact us, We Are Open For Business!

 Well said!!!!

I find most of the times that the wives are interested. You can see it from the way they check you out but I think they afraid to tell the husband. I may be wrong.

I respect everyone's right to have preferences with regard their racial boundaries.

What I hate is when they can clearly see we are a mixed race couple but yet send messages that "we like your profile". Click on our pics and like it.

We get enough cold shoulders at parties and clubs. Why is it difficult to just ignore us on the site.

You have made your choice and we respect that. Do us the favour and move along when it comes to our profile.

I would ordinarily not be a problem but not when it happens as often as it does.

Just saying.....

The Northern Cape is probably the only Province that did not have a Swingersparty yet. I may be wrong but it was never advertised on this site. 

According to the site there are more than 1300 registered members.  So why not meet up and have fun?

We are not bikers but we are gonna check out the scene. Curious to see if there is truth to the stories of promiscuous action.

On the contrary. This is exactly where we managed to arranged a successful gangbang.