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How can you be sure that everyone practices safe dogging?
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Save dogging. How can you be sure. Meyerton
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Hi Whatgives,
When you talk about "safe dogging", there are two aspects of dogging that come to my mind:
1.) Personal safety / security while dogging
2.) Safe sex, while dogging.
I'm not sure which of these aspects you have in mind in your question, but here are my thoughts on both anyway.
Concerning personal safety, I think that dogging, given that it is generally an outdoors / public space activity, can never be "100% safe" - there is always an element of risk, that those involved in the dogging (whether just an exhibitionist couple, or maybe with a few participants or watchers also involved) could be observed and approached by "undesirable" types, who might want to take advantage of the situation and try to benefit in some way, by mugging or hijacking or extortion, or even or worse. Unfortunately we live in a violent society and our open spaces are inherently unsafe.
But there are some things that we can do to reduce the risk to more acceptable levels. I have actively promoted the idea of "arranged" dogging on this site, where people can arrange to meet up (through generalised adverts here on the site followed up by personal messages with details of where and when to meet, or through use of personal networks that we develop with like-minded people - hence my recent attempts to set up a Gauteng Dogging Group), so that at least the people who are there participating are known by others in the group to be decent, dependable, responsible people, who can be trusted to not overstep limits that may be set by the dogging couple/s. Then one also needs to carefully check out the "security" of the venue that you select, whether it is securely fenced with limited entry points, to reduce the possibility of uninvited "walk-ins"; whether or not there are "layabout" people just randomly hanging around; and whether your visibility is such that you can see people approaching from a long way off, so that you can stop your activity and "get respectable" before they get close enough to interfere. It's a good idea to have a person in the dogging group who is tasked with keeping a look-out while the dogging is going on, so that you are less likely to be surprised by wanna-be muggers creeping up on you while your focus is elsewhere.
Concerning the Safe-sex aspect, this should be a given! No condom-use, no sex! In this day and age, where sexually-transmitted diseases abound, and we don't know each others' sexual histories, it should just be "not-on" to practice unsafe sex. The exhibitionist / initiating couple must set the rules. And then this comes back to the idea of "arranged" dogging with people that you "know" being the preferred route, where there is a level of trust established between members of the group (yes, it takes away spontaneity and the potential "adrenalin rush" of sex with strangers), where you know that the participants will abide by the rules that have been set (no touching, or no penetration, or no anal, or no non-condom ejaculation, whatever rules may have been set).
Whatever you do, keep it as safe as possible! Reduce the risks in any way that you can - while still having fun!
I hope this has helped in some way?
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Great answer from the *dogging* expert off SH!!!
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Oh dear, I hope I haven't put everyone off the idea off dogging, by pointing out that there are a few risks associated with the activity?!....
If there are any (Gauteng) couples out there brave enough who want to try the "arranged dogging" idea, you just need to give me a shout, and I'll see if I can put something together for you.
