Married playing alone without consent

Hi

Hi to all you swingers, l had a add in the Contact Mag now discontinued and decided to join this site. I had no problem meeting swinging couples and ladies in the magazine as long as l was honest about my status beforehand but l found on this site there is a lot of resistance and even bigotry if you a married male playing alone without consent, just wondering what the result would have been if l was a married lady playing alone without consent? If I'm playing alone and my wife has lost interest in the bedroom, what seems to be the problem, its discreetly NSA? Have a great day.

You have actually answered your own "question" . . .you say that in your opinion (paste your words in here) . . . then in fairness, surely other people are allowed to have their opinion on the matter ? 

Ond het nie 'n probleem as 'n man sonder sy vrou se toestemming speel nie. Solank hy dan net uiters versigtig is. Ons is nie lus vir 'n kwaai vrou op ons nie. Is dit nie ook waar wat bitter, bitter min mans wat sê hulle het wel toestemming, dit nie het nie?

That raises the next question how many have had the ...angry wife scenario? 

I can see how the angry wife scenario will be a total put off. I also understand that, for that reason, couples will be reluctant to befriend married people. I also understand why that caution is then extended to all married people who, for whatever reason, play want to play solo. How does one know how to trust someone? In an ideal world, the couple should not care about the responsibility of solo-player, but that is not the way things are in the real world.  Personally, I have tried to get someone to verify my profile, but thus far had not had much success. So, honest guys, with or without consent, it is just not an easy ride and we have to accept that.

It would indeed be interesting to get some stats on the "angry spouse" scenario.

Ons geniet mfm baie en doen dit gereeld..... verkies getroude manne ver bo enkel mans dis net soveel veiliger. Maar dit is ook n probleem om die geskikte manne te vind, hubby in nie bi nie, nie eers curious nie en dit is vir ons n probleem om manne te vind wat hierby inpas.

I think the reality is whether you play with or without consent ,married or single, we all do our best to screen potential playmates and at the end of the day have to trust our gut. If we focused on the what ifs ands maybes and could be I think the monasteries and nunneries would be over flowing

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Ons geniet mfm baie en doen dit gereeld..... verkies getroude manne ver bo enkel mans dis net soveel veiliger. Maar dit is ook n probleem om die geskikte manne te vind, hubby in nie bi nie, nie eers curious nie en dit is vir ons n probleem om manne te vind wat hierby inpas.

 Ek is game 

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Ons geniet mfm baie en doen dit gereeld..... verkies getroude manne ver bo enkel mans dis net soveel veiliger. Maar dit is ook n probleem om die geskikte manne te vind, hubby in nie bi nie, nie eers curious nie en dit is vir ons n probleem om manne te vind wat hierby inpas.

 
Ons is presies dieselfde, verkies mfm, en tot dusver het ons nog net 2 single mans gekry wat dit die moeite werd maak. Wens daar was meer, maar meeste single ouens is BAIE pushy

I'm in that boat I'm addicted to sex but only one sided my wife is more a once a month( if i'm lucky) girl so I enjoy adult sites and watching porn but sometimes you have a need to do sexual fetishes that she might not like but you crave for it and I bet there is woman out there that feel the same way and that wouldn't mind having some fun with no strings. You both have a good time and there is no hangups after words. If you are a woman or even a couple that would like to meet feel free to contact me.

Lmga!!ja die bi manne ding doen dit glad nie vir my nie.....sou jul dalk net n man soek....lol uhm.....haha

...and so when 1 person actually lives by the spirit of swinging adds you to her group, real magic happens. Thank you WeeChuck, awesome party!

This is interesting:

interesting yes hunkstud. Also interesting are the comments. 

Only one reason we steer clear of married men playing alone... Very messy divorces. Friends of ours got hauled into court when the wife found out and it was ugly and messy for everyone. Good enough reason to pasop.

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Only one reason we steer clear of married men playing alone... Very messy divorces. Friends of ours got hauled into court when the wife found out and it was ugly and messy for everyone. Good enough reason to pasop.

That was an unfortunate event, and yes, it is likely to happen, however why then generalize to the exclusion of guys who legitimately play solo with consent without giving them the time of day?  And, as always, my favourite rant: Why are these "rules" not applied to ladies playing solo with/without consent?

I do believe that this is a legitimate concern, but again, is it fair to generalize?

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I do believe that this is a legitimate concern, but again, is it fair to generalize?

 It has nothing to do with generalising, and everything to do with mitigation of risk. We have been in this lifestyle for 25 years and we have friends who experienced interrelationship fallout with both married men who play without consent and married men who play with consent. In the latter situations, the wives had a change of heart because hubby was apparently spending more and more time away from her. So, yeah, we definitely play it safe and steer a wide berth. 

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I do believe that this is a legitimate concern, but again, is it fair to generalize?

 It has nothing to do with generalising, and everything to do with mitigation of risk. We have been in this lifestyle for 25 years and we have friends who experienced interrelationship fallout with both married men who play without consent and married men who play with consent. In the latter situations, the wives had a change of heart because hubby was apparently spending more and more time away from her. So, yeah, we definitely play it safe and steer a wide berth. 

 Excellent reply and I respect that 100%, and as for your steering clear, that is understandable, but there are many, many other instances where this has not happened, and a post like yours makes it 10 times more difficult for honest guys to join the lifestyle.

All l can say l must be grateful that l have enjoyed more than 15 years of playing with couples and single ladies without consent without incident and mastered it up to now, with no regret, if it must end now so be it, but l will not deceive couples or ladies just to get my way with them.

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I do believe that this is a legitimate concern, but again, is it fair to generalize?

 It has nothing to do with generalising, and everything to do with mitigation of risk. We have been in this lifestyle for 25 years and we have friends who experienced interrelationship fallout with both married men who play without consent and married men who play with consent. In the latter situations, the wives had a change of heart because hubby was apparently spending more and more time away from her. So, yeah, we definitely play it safe and steer a wide berth. 

 Excellent reply and I respect that 100%, and as for your steering clear, that is understandable, but there are many, many other instances where this has not happened, and a post like yours makes it 10 times more difficult for honest guys to join the lifestyle.

 Having said all that I have, I do take your comment as a very stern warning for me to maintain the balance, and i thank you for that!

We have come to the conclusion and couldn't give a Shit if you are married or single for both Males and Females. What you chose to do in your Relationship is your problem, it has nothing to do with us. 

We are all Adults here and are old enough to chose what we want to do. 

That, in my opinion, is the correct swingers attitude.

I agree . Thanks for your forthright opinion.