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I have heard that alot of couples and ladies prefer married men if they want NSA as single guys get too attached ? your thoughts....

hi, well the thought has crossed our minds as well, and we came to the conclusion that married men will probably be more discreet, as to where nothing stops a single guy to say to his friends that he had a threesome with people living here or there or walk past them In the mall or wherever. as for the getting too attached part, just make sure the single guy does not talk to the mrs other than in the bedroom. make him understand what his role is exactly.---the husband.

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hi, well the thought has crossed our minds as well, and we came to the conclusion that married men will probably be more discreet, as to where nothing stops a single guy to say to his friends that he had a threesome with people living here or there or walk past them In the mall or wherever.

 Stem saam julle ons verkies getroude mans bo single mans. Hulle is virseker baie meer diskreet.

Ons moet saam stem oor getroude mans hulle is ook as of hulle meer uit gehonger is en doen n moerse goeie job op die ou einde 

Married men is less likely to *talk out to his buddies* and is less inclined to become to attached BUT they can become just as demanding.

We also prefer married men, less hangups and not so desperate

Also why are they single

I am a married man in a conservative and sexually uninspired relationship. I love my wife dearly but hey the sex is boring. We are so often villainised on this site, if my wife was open to swinging, I guarantee you I’d be happy to swap. She isn’t, so here I am. All we want is a bit of excitement in our sex lives again. Sadly very misunderstood. 

We prefer married as simply less hassles and understand that to us its purely about sex, nothing else.

But either way married or not we do not play with rude or demanding men.

Getroude mans is beslis beter. Solank hulle met ons eerlik is en sê hulle is getroud. Moenie maak of jy ongetroud is nie.

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Getroude mans is beslis beter. Solank hulle met ons eerlik is en sê hulle is getroud. Moenie maak of jy ongetroud is nie.

 Stem 100% saam

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I am a married man in a conservative and sexually uninspired relationship. I love my wife dearly but hey the sex is boring. We are so often villainised on this site, if my wife was open to swinging, I guarantee you I’d be happy to swap. She isn’t, so here I am. All we want is a bit of excitement in our sex lives again. Sadly very misunderstood. 

I am definitely in the same boat. I notice a few couples comments rather spend time with a married man than a single. It’s just strange because 99.5% of the couples I message don’t reply or just tell you straight they are only into single guys.  I am not here to jump into bed with every single couple. I want someone I can join on a regular basis and definitely with no issues. Trust me. It’s 2 years searching and still searching!!!!! 

It would appear from this thread that married men are preferred to single guys. My experience though, is that married men are almost universally regarded as cheaters, regardless of their situation; even with consent from their spouses. I would guess that most married men who want to play want to do so because their spouses are conservative and sexually boring. They, the guys, don't want to cheat on their spouses, they just want to live out their fantasies like everybody else.

Gay and Lesbian and BDSM all have a place in the swinger fraternity, but married men playing solo, with or without consent are not given the time of day.  Of course the hypocracy of it all has been debated widely: Female cheaters are welcome, no questions askedicon_confused

I do agree fully with your ex as we have a lot more to loose than a single guy and not demanding as the single guys just out there to boost an ego. I'm also with The Hendons statement action at home slow. My question how long should I beg.?

Married men are better. More discrete, more appreciative of the privilege of being invited into a marriage bed, and frankly, more often than not they are better lovers. 

Good topic - thank you.

I would guess married men, generally,  would be more discreet. The "issue" with married men, often, is their availability. Married men often ask for 'day time fun' and if that does not suit the couple(s) it could be a 'problem'. Getting away for a weekend could also be difficult.

As for judging married men on this site. Really? After all, this a a swingers' site, not so. Judgement and a swinger's life style do not compliment each other well.

There s no issue. It is a privilege to have Beth, not a right. They accommodate our time. 

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Generally I agree that for married men time is an issue. They have the issue though and not the playmates. The only time it may be an issue for the playmates is if tbe guy is in high demand...such guy has not landed on planet earth yet.

Beth and I have big time issues too. We have kids and we are well known in our community. Discretion and time are big issues. But if you want something a lot you make accommodations and you demand certain conditions. That’s why we have long term relationships and prefer couples with a stake in compatibility. 

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PS. Beth is not a “playmate,” She is s HOTWIFE. Huge difference, This is OUR movie. We get to cast it. 

Sorry if I made a rookie mistake there!icon_redface

Baie goeie bespreking ons sukkel om ouens te kry vir aande en naweke, en dus sad daar is so baie nice getroude ouens en glo my ons het al daai roete ook gevat, maar ongetroude ouens net meer tyd en glo my ons het baie tyd so ja dag speel not so much, anyway sal maar soek hopenlik kry ons waarna ons soek.

hi all. Will try my best in english. I am a married man, husband and father. I wish my wife was open and i also would have gladly shared her. Unfortunately my wife is not very sexual. And as a married man i have to play alone. I am discreet and prefer a long term discreet and clean friendship as this is the safest. I know i am a cheater. And i do get called a cheater by some people on this site. But please understand that you are not in my shoes. You dont know my history or my wife's history. And you also dont know how it feels for me to be so in love with my wife but when it comes to sex the relationship is quite dead. As a married man i would like to ask that you please respect us as well just as i respect other people. And i understand that as i am married it is difficult for me to get time alone. And i understand that it is a problem. Yes. I have had one very nice experience with a couple. And it was absolutely amazing and awesome as they made some dreams come true for me. I dont have much to offer except a very good friendship. I am really glad to see that a lot of people prefer married men. But as i am a member for many years now i can promise you that married men dont get a lot of action. Maybe the guys with monster dicks yes. Lol. Anyway people. Enjoy your evening and lots of fun for you all. My 5 cents. Lekker aand en naweek almal. Groete. 

Exceptionally well said. I  feel exactly the same as you . I am not interested in having an "affair" behind my wife's back , but I would  like to fulfil some of my fantasies. She is not prepared to enter my "perverted" world although I regard my fantasies to be pretty vanilla. I like touching and love being touched. So that's why I choose to try and find couples or single ladies who are open to explore their sexuality and share some naughty times. Cheers .

I prefer married men. They are more attentive lovers. Of course, Will and I limit ourselves to discrete married couples. But husbands are more into the subtleties of sex and not out to prove how much steel they have left in their dicks. So Will can enjoy watching me get laid without having to put up with fucking contests, which get old pretty fast. 

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I concur that a married man will cause far less complications for any couple in a MMF experience. 

The thread seems to sway towards married men, far from true, as soon as you say you are married, even when playing with consent you get branded a cheater. I never lie about my status as you can never be caught out when telling the truth. 

@slowvelder...I agree 100% 

In agreement with almost all that have been said above and YES it is difficult for us married guys, but in my view married folks in good relation is as "confidential" is you can get.  For me it is almost the only option as I am NOT looking for affairs, neither for one-night stands and/or funny nonsense! I would like to exchange likes/dislikes and then meet and ONLY THEN decide how to progress! I have met very nice friends (nothing further) and also friends where WE (the 3 of us) were comfy with one another and there was some chemistry!  And WOOW it was fantastic! Old saying: Keep it simple and be honest ! It doesn't make sense if we now lie on this site?  Be good folks and if any couples or ladies are interested feel free to give me a shout!

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I am a married man in a conservative and sexually uninspired relationship. I love my wife dearly but hey the sex is boring. We are so often villainised on this site, if my wife was open to swinging, I guarantee you I’d be happy to swap. She isn’t, so here I am. All we want is a bit of excitement in our sex lives again. Sadly very misunderstood. 

 I fully agree with you Mate!!! I am in the same situation, the unfortunate part we are looked at as the bad guys. I promise you if my wife was willing to explore this life...I would be the happiest guy alive... I love sex and want to enjoy it..... So yes I fully agree with every word you said. 👍👍👍

My wife sleeps with other men and I love it. she fucks my brains out later.

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