I *pinched* this idea from someone else so it has to be plagiarism yeah ??? BUT I hope he will not mind...this question about being married and sex.
Most people think that being married, you are will have Regular sex, being it everyday or at least a few times a week....
How ignorant that is, to expect that, there are some couples that has not had sex in MONTHS....and here I am not talking about OLD couples or OLD people...I am talking about young married couples and young couples.
Just look at the ratio of married men and women on here looking for some NSA fun, ask them whey they are here for, and the answer is 100% *I do not get any nookie at home,or I do not get it enough*.
Now Most men are dogs and is always in a state of hornyness, nothing wrong with that, but to say no sex and lie...WELLLLLL.
I for one, know it is sometimes VERY not only from the men , women experience the very are not always touched and cuddled and given the special little attention they have gotten before marriage.
After marraige there is plenty of reasons why sex get shoved to the back ground..
We all can name a lot of things..
Like being tired due to over work.
Or we sometimes let ourselves *go* get fat (not always just the ladies)and we do not Dress up and tittivate and keep ourselves sexy for our become comfortable enough with our spouses to fart in front of them.
We grow apart in our life as we live....our life choices start to differ, there is plenty of reasons...
I will not go into it....
But I do have a question for you. On the surface it's a simple question, but dig about just a little and you'll find a network of emotionally tricky, ethically ambiguous answers. Nevertheless, I'll ask it anyway, Here you go:
Is marriage a promise of sex? AND what ever your answer is, please do elaborate...
In a word, NO.
But, in my little old opinion, anybody who makes (or accepts) "Promises" is setting themselves up for disappointment.
Yes, yes, yes I know my view is somewhat different to what the vast majority of others feel, but my view is based on various experiences I've had as well as disappointments I have seen others have. In today's society, a simple "I will look into it and let you know if I am prepared or able to do xyz" is generally interpreted as "you promised to do xyz" . . .
Now back to the original question, my answer is NO, marriage is not a certainty for sex, but if people are wise they would use marriage as an opportunity to grow with a regular sexual partner.
I believe that the PROBLEM with marriage today is that we DON'T talk about what that marriage promise DOES include. I think we go about getting into relationships ALL wrong!
Puss - you are touching on something laden with lots of emotions and feelings. I am convinced my situation is not unique.
My wife and I are married for close to 30years and I love her dearly. She was just never much into sex and it declined over the years. Many talks, tears and fights later nothing has changed much. She is just less and less into sex. Intimacy ? - years ago
I never imagined my marriage to be like this and never expected such. Thats why I am on this site. To look for something I long for.
She will never really understand my feelings, and I play (search ?) without her knowledge. I use to feel quilty, but not any more. Does it make me a bad person ? Is it wrong to cheat ? I am a human being after all
a Marriage is NOT a promise of sex !
What I find really heartfelt pity,is when young men /women tell you that when they were *dating* the person who is their spouse.....That the sex before marriage was always given freely and frequently and *enjoyed*..UNTILL after the wedding.
Then the excuses begins.
And the true situation for the rest of that persons marriage is evident.
Woman are not always the guilty one`s. I have spoken to a lot of ladies with some complaint or the as the men who finds himself in a sexless is a 2 way street.
I sometimes wonder if *that little piece of paper* is so important that you lie about what your needs are and what you like or dislike.
Wondering if there is anything or what can we teach our kids to ensure they know what to look out for when they fall in love and marry, to prevent the above situations.
Sex education is one thing....should we not also really teach the parents??? BUT how???
My own opinion is ...it is that sex and the stigma of a person who enjoys sex, will not really change....it is a infinity circle of a problem with no end.
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