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30 Jan 2018


This is not a sexy story - it is a scary one.... and I'm posting it here because far more people seem to read the stories than read the Forum, which is where this actually belongs. It's here so that as many members as possible will see it.

This will hopefully serve as a warning to those people who seem to want to dish out their cellphone contact numbers in public - it's a REALLY risky practice...

I met up with a younger (married) guy that I know through this site, a few days ago. He's on here as a single profile, without his wife's knowledge or consent (just like me). He saw me arrive at a dogging site where we hang out, messaged me and asked if he could come over and chat, as he had something to discuss that he would rather do in person. Of course I said yes. He told me this story, and I got the cold shivers as I listened to him...

He had made contact with a lovely young "single lady" through her profile here on the SH site - or at least that is what he thought he was doing. I'm not sure if he contacted her first, or "she" made contact with him, but that is actually immaterial...

At first they chatted through Private Messages (SH emails), and then of course they exchanged cellphone numbers so that they could continue their contact by means of Whatsapp (and I am sure that MANY of us have done the same thing!). Their conversation got nice and sexy, and she asked him to provide her with a pic of his dick. He obliged, and asked for a pussy pic in exchange. "She" provided him with a nice one, but then "she" wanted a pic that included both his dick AND his face... He thought that this was a bit of a strange request, was initially hesitant to do so, but eventually gave in to her continuing requests, believing that he might be on to a good thing here with her, and sent her one...

The moment he sent that pic, he received a message from "her" demanding R5000 "in order to keep quiet". Next thing he received a screengrab of his own Facebook profile, and then one of his wife's Facebook profile, and then a message saying that if he did not cough up the R5000 his wife would be told all about his activities on SH... Very fortunately he could still delete his face/dick photo from the Whatsapp chat (within 7 minutes, you can still do so?), and did so immediately, maybe before "she" could save it...

He of course panicked, and immediately closed down his SH profile. He told the extortionist that he didn't have R5000 to pay over, and wasn't going to be doing so, and blocked the extortionist's number so that there was no further communication.

What he found out was that this person (the extortionist) had used his cell number to identify his Facebook profile (where his number was included as part of his personal details, which I guess is the case with most of us), and through his profile then identified that of his wife.

He has since had that person's number traced, and found it belongs to a middle-aged black male, and definitely not the young white boeremeisie he thought he was chatting to.

So all the time the interaction with the "young single lady" was a fraudulent sham, with the extortionist on the other side harvesting information to use against him.

I have noticed that many members on here, particularly young males, are quite happy to include their contact numbers in their profile descriptions and adverts and comments on Dogging posts, etc, without giving any thought to the potential negative consequences of doing so. Obviously the owners of the SH site have recognised the dangers of doing this, and that is why it is a contravention of the Acceptable Use Policy ("the rules") of this site - yes, you're supposed to read them, and know them, and follow them! - to include personal details in any publicly-accessible portion of the site (that's pretty much anywhere except your PMs). And that's why we moderators spend / waste a lot of our time deleting such numbers and email addresses and BBM pins etc from people's adverts and profiles - it's done for your own good, not to mess up your chances of a hook-up!

So the warning is this - it could prove to be EXTREMELY risky giving your contact number to someone that you have not actually met... so if you decide to do so, you need to have seriously considered the potential disadvantages, and not just the possible advantage that you could gain... please be aware that you are actually taking a real risk when you do so. You need to assess what that risk is....

Then again, I am sure that the vast majority of members on here are decent law-abiding folks who would never think of holding someone to ransom like what happened to my mate - but unfortunately there are a few bad apples out there, spoiling it for the rest of us.

My advice is to NEVER give your number to someone unless you have met them (and yes, I know that in my ignorance in the early days I have done this once or twice), or you are REALLY confident that they are who they say they are, and NEVER just put your contact details out there in public - that's just plain crazy!!


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