Written by Mr + Mrs

07 Jun 2018

Hi All,

So, we have been in this lifestyle for about a year now, joined this site about 10 months ago and haven’t looked back as yet. We have had some wonderful play experiences along the way and have experienced real growth in terms of our marriage and our ‘lifestyle selves’ as we have pushed our boundaries of what we were willing to accept and experience.

Through this journey we have found things that we initially said we would steer clear of in this lifestyle, pulling us closer to the point where we experienced it and enjoyed it immensely, which made us wonder why we were so apprehensive in the first place. But such is growth as it forces one to re-look at your perceptions and either evolve or stay put. Our experience evolved from deciding initially to do Soft Swap only, going to parties, to going Full Swap, to going away on weekends with other couples to even playing with the odd single lady. Now we are a full-on full swap couple and it’s all been very wonderful, and thanks to all those who have been part of our journey thus far. Hopefully there will be a lot more to experience in this lifestyle…

One of the things that we are extremely curious about experiencing, is that we would like to engage with couples from other races. We realise being a coloured couple in this lifestyle places us in the minority in terms of the demographic makeup of swingers and this makes things very difficult for us to actually engage with couples from other races, as most couples seem to prefer to stick to their own race.

What we would like to know is - why? Most profiles we browse on here say ‘We are an open-minded couple, open to new experiences, etc, etc’ but then further go on to say, ‘We only prefer our own race’. How can you say you are open-minded yet place a caveat like that on your profile? We get that everyone has different preferences in terms of who you want to engage with, but then why say you are open-minded yet be so closed off to the experience of people from other cultures? It just boggles our minds and we cannot understand that.

Some of these people have wonderful profiles which resonate with us, and with who we think we can connect on a mental level as we have similar interests etc. but yet there’s that ‘qualification’ which just puts us off and makes us wonder why are you even in this lifestyle. And here is the kicker, even though some couples state they will not cross racial boundaries, they keep viewing our profile and liking photos etc. Why is that?

We are sure there are couples out there who have no issues with this and want to sample different cultures/races in this lifestyle but they are few and far between and we have yet to meet them.

We are not judging in any way as we firmly believe to each his own but we would like to understand this and have some perspective so we can have an informed opinion on this matter. We would really like to know the answer to this as this is one of the only negative things we have experienced in this lifestyle.

This is in no way meant to be negative in anyway and open up a racial debate, but it is merely an opinion finding mission to help us understand.

Thank you for reading and we hope you all can assist us with this burning question.

Oh, and for those cute, sexy couples who have no problems with engaging with all people, please leave a comment and we will PM you….

Happy swinging all.