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Hello there swingers I would like to as the title says, create a discussion on open relationships. any general discussions, advice, facts, humour, and just about everything that goes with open relationships. for starters... I am still dazzled by where to start with finding an open relationship. how to keep the spark alive...etc... all the ladies and gents are welcome to post and chip in to the conversations. I hope that all will benefit from this topic. keep it clean... and lets all have fun smile
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one can even post pics, great stories, or just something you would like to say
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A very good topic, but I think you need to be more clear on what you mean by "open relationships" because in this context, that is a very vague term... ;)
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Hmmmm, I understand. If the topic could go into the direction of understanding how people engage in open relationships, that would be the core to a better understanding of the topic. If I had some experience and knowledge about open relationships, I would have definitely shared it amongst all who seem interested.
Sex God
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Very open to interpretation . . . . . . but first and foremost, if the people involved in the relationship are not "open" to start with, there is nil to zero chance of it suddenly becoming a "non issue at all type of relationship" overnight
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True. I would like to raise another question then: Are there any Advantages... ? And do these advantages out weigh the disadvantages? and if so, why are there hardly any open relationships to speak of?
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To start: We understand the term "open relationship" to mean where the relationship participants are open and honest with each other on all subjects including sex and sexual fantasies. In addition, the couple have decided to partake/experience the lifestyle/swinging. Assuming that the aforementioned definition is what was meant, then, from our experience: Mr Nawty and I met in the lifestyle (both being single) so we already had a propensity for honesty. From there our relationship grew and it's foundation was and is based on complete honesty, acceptance, tolerance and openness. We discussed, at length our previous relationships, what went wrong and why. Laid all our baggage bare and consciously chose to change our behavior which may have led to our previous failed relationships. We are all afraid to show our true selves (dreams and opinions included) for fear of judgment and retribution and we (sometimes incorrectly and to our detriment) assume what our partner's reaction/opinion will be without actually giving them the opportunity to actually give said opinion/react to us. Reasons for our fear are, partly, that we accede to societies norms and, partly, our natural need for acceptance. This has left many a relationship "closed". The relationship can work, however, probably will never reach it's true "fullness" or be as happy as it could be. When one finds a partner with whom they can truly be themselves (warts and all), it is no less than magical. Having an open relationship only has advantages ....disadvantages cannot exist because you then love the real whole person.... Why aren't there more open relationships? Maybe because we are not taught how to have them ....
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Wow, I never have thought of it that way, besides the "be yourself" part. Nawtycat, your reply is true thoughtful. You really summarized it well... and the sad thing is that many (not all) people who are brought up in south Africa, are taught to have certain morals, and were taught to believe that it is WRONG to have an open relationship. I wonder if Jacob Zuma believed in open relationships (is having seven wives considered as an open relationship)?
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I do not think the ladies in the presidents life are allowed to have *other* lovers except him thus his poly relationship is not a true poly relationship nor an open (or swingdoor) relationship. Just my thought on that.
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I do not think the ladies in the presidents life are allowed to have *other* lovers except him thus his poly relationship is not a true poly relationship nor an open (or swingdoor) relationship.
Just my thought on that.

Agree, unless all parties are entitled to the same freedom sexually, the relationship is definitely not OPEN
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You are Right PIB1. I never thought of it from a woman's perspective. Also.... is it considered an open relationship if while in a relationship, are able to have sex with other parties? The previous statement is what I understand about open relationships. Anyway... I might consider an open relationship in the future. I like to keep my options open...
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My wife and I have an open relationship meaning that she can screw anyone she wants to and this is encouraged by me and 25 years down the line wr are still going strong and caring deeply for each other
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Wow, so that just shows that it can be done... thanks voyer
Sexlightened
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... and the sad thing is that many (not all) people who are brought up in south Africa, are taught to have certain morals, and were taught to believe that it is WRONG to have an open relationship.

You are correct in the statement above and it is truly ironic and gut-wrenching that in our society it is more acceptable to have an affair than be in an "open relationship". What does that say about our "morals"?
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thanks nawtycat... but all in good time... just like the beginning of "fokofpolisiekar" the band that shook the nation with its rebellious trend, which after many years of being ridiculed by the public seniors, have slowly but surely been accepted for who they are, and were able to break out of the general idea of the so called public perspective. And do it is with the "open relationship" status. People are still moving into the narrow direction of the "only marriage is appropriate" to the public, but will as the fokofpolisiekar issue, also be unravelled... Its just my opinion... that's all... smile
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We've been trying the open thing. It is harder than just swinging, since it is a little more that a regular fuckbuddy on the side. Emotions start to become more complicated, and you need to have very good cmmunication to prevent disaster. Here be dragons....

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@FriendsWithBenefits   It is true, once you engage in meeting ONE FWB more regularly than a few times, feelings and emotions do come in play and every person involved should be aware of this and communicate and really have MORE than ONE other play mate....it should help with preventing those unwelcome emotions from developing. 

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Rather than get tied up in definitions,  we keep it simple. Beth fucks, sometime I join in. And sometimes I get to have the wife of the guy who is fucking Beth.