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Master of Sex
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Lock Down is a great pain in our asses, but to stay healthy and safe we have to do it. Those who felt if we were on a bonus holiday surely does NOT feel like that anymore.

Those of us who used their employers for a way to come browse SH may/is be absent, the other profiles who are ACTIVE and seeking active sexual partners well....We all KNOW that is not allowed right now...and who knows when sexual activity may start once again.....And lastly BUT most certainly not the least...couples might already have boinked so much and used the cams option to reach other couples and share, that they are sorta bored right now (just saying that with my tongue in my cheek)
We already asked what each of us are keeping ourselves busy right now...those who are Lucky or unlucky in many cases that do not have to go to work right now.

I LOVE, JUST LOVE reading....what you guys might ask...well I read, as many might say *common shit* Since I bought my kindle and stopped buying books due to space to keep my books, I found that Kindle sorta lied about..that the Kindle battery keeps for 5 days...YEAH...tell that lie to people who only read a FEW pages at a time....sure the battery might last 5 days before recharge is needed, MY kindle wants recharge every DAY...and NOPE it is not due to a battery change needed...it is the mass of books I read daily....Between reading, I do everything a person needs to do in their home....but I read about 3 to 4 books daily, sometimes 5 depending on the length of the novel. And NOT only while on lock down..nope, this is daily, since my retirement. And yeah I make time to do some hobby work...I do some wire wrapping and make jewelry... My current master pieces are Bead Rosaries. Glass beads/Lava beads and Tiger Eye beads and all wire links and clasps  are done by hand..So yeah that takes time.... but are real beauties when finished. 
Enough of that rambling....

I want to ASK you guys,  Who reads?????   NOT just us females.. but do you men READ?? What do you read?? and who is BRAVE enough to say they read EROTICA?????
I for one read erotica....and specially gay erotica!!!  
Erotica..... Firstly, it’s written and read by women more than men. Unfortunately,  erotica tends to be regarded as frivolous. And anything  that aims towards women, has the  protagonist risks being labelled  as *chick lit*.
BUT has anyone ever thought THAT reading EROTICA is so much more....,.and has MANY uses???? I know  that erotica  content, namely sex, is also still treated as something shameful, dirty, secretive, or something to be embarrassed about. This is a damn shame, a lot of erotica is wonderful,  sexual and arousing.. thus arousal  and masturbation  is also important. Writing good erotica is hard work and requires a lot of skill.  So why does people feel ashamed to say they LIKE reading erotica???

MOST people will find that 

It’s not *cool* to admit you read and enjoy erotica  BUT although E.L. James might have given the vanilla folks a view of BDSM (and we who has knowledge of BDSM found the books (3) a waste of our time.  The market on erotica has OVER RUN (more exploded open) with books with BDSM as a theme....thus people started to explore kink more.

The positiveness of reading erotica 

It can be a couple`s thing......sorta like a erotica book club at night when the kiddies are asleep...
Read it together...read it aloud to your better half..... talk about what made you aroused...... make the sexy scene you have read a reality by recreating it...........it can even help you with your masturbation fantasies.....it is also a safe way to explore things you never thought to do or experience. Or even make you brave enough to ask your spouse to do to you.....

Just saying.

Warming the Bed
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I love reading.  I haven't read much during the lockdown though.  Social media has spoilt it unfortunately. Maybe will start some new erotica this weekend.  You are so right that it is a very underrated activity, but the mind definitely the biggest sex organ! 

Warming the Bed
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I have an enormous amount of erotic literature which I enjoy and find it fuels my sexual imagination with loads of possibilities,not afraid to admit it at all, can be an interesting topic,let’s see our fellow players responses,nice,

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I will stand up sexy lady and say I read erotica and find myself lost in the pages for hours.

I post and use a really good site that allows budding authors to enthrall their readers.

there is nothing like sending a really taboo erotic novel to your lover email and then read the same book and send him naughty videos because of it.



XXX

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I will stand up sexy lady and say I read erotica and find myself lost in the pages for hours.
I post and use a really good site that allows budding authors to enthrall their readers.
there is nothing like sending a really taboo erotic novel to your lover email and then read the same book and send him naughty videos because of it.



XXX

 Hi there. Care to share the details of the site?

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We have our own erotica section.  The naming of other sites will go against the site AUP. 

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We have our own erotica section.  The naming of other sites will go against the site AUP. 

 noted

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@ swingfantasy  I agree that our minds are the biggest sexual organ...at least my mind is not on strike like *me old genitals*...LMAO

@ Whatyouwant   It is lovely to know there are others like me.....

@ Oceantramps  Thanks for participating in the fora.  I think people do not realize the work it is to really sit and write something for someone else to enjoy.  I remember once before I became very active on the sexual sites  I was mailing a naughty*friend* of mine a few risque and really really naughty emails....JUST to have someone STRANGE mail me back telling me he enjoyed reading these mails...BUT he is NOT my friend...I was flabbergasted...he had the same email as my friend...JUST for me to notice I forgone a damn (. dot) in my friends email address.  I also had a few online submissive`s.  People I just cannot tell you the WORK it takes to keep such a online and far distance D/s relationship....The work it takes to give one such sub. directions...it is really HARD work if done correctly.

@ Freshman  I am sure the mods and the site cannot really complain if Oceantramps sent you the details via private mail. As it is then NOT advertising for another site at all.  I am sure the mod. Nish78 will correct me if I am wrong.

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Talking about reading I started very early in life to enjoy reading and it never decreased for me at all.  I read all the Saartjie +Trompie + Die Uile,  heck if there were more I just cannot remember their names  I know I was totally in heaven when I discovered Enid Blyton books in my youth.   I also have to be really honest to say I DO NOT really enjoy reading Afrikaans fiction, although I am Afrikaans speaking. I also have to admit to really binge on certain topics and writers and genre just to switch to something else completely different after a time. BUT erotica stayed the same...I most certainly will always read erotica.

What was your very very first book you ever read as a adult??  Mine was Exodus by Leon Uris  My very first erotica .... man, I can for the love of me NOT remember who the writer or what the title was,  I was  around 13 years old and I saw the book in my parents room...I JUST had to read it, on the sly....I know I masturbated a LOT.....while reading THAT book!!!!!

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@pussinboots I loved reading as I child and started writing at a very young age...

At the age of 12 I found the book - Topping from below by Laura Reese 

I remember even the cover of the book as clear as day as it had a belt on and I thought the book was a horse riding book as the back of the book was off already from all the reading already...

the book itself was a very erotic novel and the title as you may know means a submissive that is trying to lead or control the scene...


I can tell you my world became very colorful writing and reading wise after that...


And my quest for my perfect dominant began...


I think erotica is very underrated as a tool in the bedroom as the mind is the strongest sense used during sex.

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@pussinboots1 - thank you for voicing your thoughts on this topic.  I found that erotic short-stories captured my very short attention span. They excited me more than pictures. The description of the situation rather than the genitals was the most exciting part.  The more realistic, the better.  However,  I have to also say that I enjoyed reading the Afrikaans short-stories and accounts in the Loslyf and similar  - the words p*el and p*es and n**i simply excited all Afrikaans speaking friends in my group, because you hardly saw it in print and it was often regarded as vulgar language. Het draadgetrek drie keer 'n dag toe ek hierdie boeke lees. Even my most conservative friends(males and females) enjoyed Afrikaans erotica. I am an avid reader of SH stories section. 

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@ Freshman  I am sure the mods and the site cannot really complain if Oceantramps sent you the details via private mail. As it is then NOT advertising for another site at all.  I am sure the mod. Nish78 will correct me if I am wrong.


SPOT ON😉 Anything said in private 👍👍👍.

Sexlightened
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hey PIB. we love erotica. mostly me the husband, but wify also reads some erotica. i love it when it feels real and not a fantasy. its as if you are living the story. especially if it is a real story. it makes you think, wow this guy or girl actually did this. i also love confessions, on twitter there are a few confession accounts. those are usually the more saucy reads.

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I used to read a lot of erotica until I was introduced to porn sites, and sadly, now my preference. 

But, I still enjoy reading a story, now and then, on SH

Master of Sex
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@ lizaan   I can just imagine that those love confessions is saucy....and nice to know it is hubby enjoying the reading.

@ Shaybytheway   I myself have found that watching porn becomes really boring.....as most of the acting is just that...acting...and most is done REALLY poorly with no story line. Nope reading remains tops for me. I enjoy some postings in the story section, not all of them, some people really should invest in a spell checker. Or write in the language they are comfortable with.

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I am extremely pedantic about English language and grammar, I often wish people would send me their freshly written prose before publishing! But I suppose, that would be asking too much.

I was told that a moderator was able to 'make corrections', I wish I could 😂

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Here is a book that I have read. I need some lady's inputs about the content. What did you like or dislike about it?

Master of Sex
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@ mosquito    Wow this is an author  that I thought to be an female...and *whadda* I know...he is male.... sorry I did not ever read any of his book(s) and it being written in the 1970`s makes it difficult to obtain (on kindle that is)

The one feed back I read about this book while googling for it...says it is really insightful...maybe you can give your own opinion mosquito??

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I thought it had a lot of food for thought, if a man followed the advice he wouldn't go wrong. 

Master of Sex
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@ mosquito   So did you follow the gents advice? And how did it work for you? 

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As a matter of fact, the book was more of a confirmation of what I do anyway, so yes, it works.

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PIB i also love reading erotica, English and Afrikaans.

I also write erotica in both languages once in a while.

Master of Sex
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@ mydream   Sadly,I really do not like to read Afrikaans,even though I am proudly Afrikaans. English just has so many ways to describe something erotic.  Thinking  back...I think I read and liked the novel  "Dis Ek Anna" by Elbie Lotter,  around, I think 10-15 years ago...I also cried a lot....  BUT,  BIG BUT......My Dining-out group raved about an Afrikaans book "n Pawpaw vir my darling" by Jeanne Goosen...goodness me, WHAT a lot of drivel......to me at least...it really makes out that the Afrikaans people are all slightly *backwards and common* I disliked the book.  BUT this is me.

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PIB everyone have certain preferences what they like. I am choosy to what i read too, just like you. Even erotic stories have to be written well, in good grammar and with a story line and message. 

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I love reading,but fell out of it for a bit then got back into it during lockdown. I prefer adventure,especially older settings like the Napoleonic wars etc. I've always enjoyed writing also actually,main reason I joined SH was for the option to post stories. I kept a diary during my adventurous years and have post some of those stories in a fictionalized way,but based in fact from my experiences. I find it very exciting revisiting the memories as I write them out. 

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@ tc_pike29  Nice to know...I think MOST people writing their *story* likes the rush it gives one to remember it.... I know I also kept a dairy and sometimes I like to re-read and ruminate about some of the more racier times in my life...

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@pussinboots1 if you ever find yourself in need of a proof reader, feel free to send your dairy to me. I can't promise more than enthusiasm and encouragement, but it's worth the try. lol

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OK, between the two of you, I think it would be best if I was the proof reader/editor.

The word 'dairy' is where one goes to get milk. 

You're both referring to a 'diary', where one records stories, thoughts, feelings and experiences. 

I volunteer! 

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I was clearly too keen at the propect of learning about the gentle ladys’ racy exploits to proof read my own post, lol. All the indications are that this diary is going to be a best seller.

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@ Shaybytheway....LMAO  Yeah,yeah, writing does come with a lot of mistakes...I just hate to be *that ONE* not being able to spell!!!  Thanks for correcting me....

I remember a few years ago  one could go back after posting something to correct mistakes..Now a days SADLY, I DO not see that option anymore. 

@mosquito...LMAO at you aswell...OH boy...that diary (not dairy) is kinda...rough.

Makes me remember the time I spent on a farm.....and YES in a dairy...to MILK cows by hand, nothing fancy like the milking machines was available on that farm. And it takes some skill, let me tell you guys!  BUT being kinky, Just think what such a *milking machine* will do for some gent....much better than trying to use a vacuum cleaner...